Compliment the boots, there is a special bond between a butch and her boots:-P

Yes totally agree with compliments on a butch's boots, bookish butch! ;) (they totally match your eyes...)

I LOVE this post!!

Flutters eyelashes at all the butches... ahhh sigh... *fans forehead* haha :P

As a butch who likes femmes/lipstick lesbians, sometimes, it can be hard to tell if a girl I'm interested in is, in fact, a lesbian. Unless of course we are in a gay bar or somewhere explicitly queer. (I've had a problematic history of falling for straight girls. ouch.) Therefore, I always find it a big turn on when said-love-interest makes the first move. I look undoubtedly gay, but she may not. So sometimes I kind of have to rely on her to initiate. It can be as simple as a touch on the arm or a smile. (You know, not just any smile, *that* kind of smile). That kind of scenario sort of reverses the stereo-typical gender roles, which, in my opinion, is hot. Of course, once I know she's interested, I can take the lead from there. but that first interaction is priceless.

Kirby, that makes total sense. Except that as a femme, who is usually mistaken for straight (even often in gay/queer places), it is extremely hard for me to initiate any flirt. Because there seem to be so few butches who are interested in femmes - so more often than not I got ignored or a look, saying "straight chick, buzz off" (if not worse). Like London Femme, I hardly get flirted with, unless in gay venue where people know me.

Well that's cause you're young and unattached.

I am a high femme, and often mistaken for the 'straight friend' when I go to gay bars, and because I'm shy, I'm also SO hopeless at flirting! However, the hottest AG/butch on the planet (my opinion and I'm sticking to it ;-D...) walked into my local lezzie bar a few weeks ago and somehow we caught each other's eye immediately. I made a point of keeping eye contact as long as my chicken self could, and smiled... and hey here we are....two weeks later and more than 5 dates....I think it worked!!!!

Very useful tips, I would feel flattered by any of them and find them useful either for a femme or for a butch who tried to approach me. Boots/shoes compliments are a total YES.

I just had to smile and wink, at Jojo... and turn this around--

I am a very Butch woman and lover of Femme women.. I also have found it hard to be taken serious as a gay woman!! And yes I have had the butch and femme women look at me as if "?what's the straight doing here?".....that's if I even get through the door passed the security cos I don't look "dykey" enough!! Oh well I am who I am a high heel wearing... Lipstick BUTCH lesbian!! .. LOL...! hugs

I vote for "treat me like a human being", "share some interests" and "have a compatible sense of humour".

I dunno, us butches are all individuals. There's not going to be any universal way to flirt with us.

Touching, eye-contact, asking about books and interests, and winking, will work for for anyone so inclined, butch or not, as will compliments on hair (although I suppose it's good for people to know we'll take some praise for our "beauty", hah). I don't give a shit about sport or "betting". Challenging remarks - that can backfire. I do like fixing things, but not necessarily for some random person I've just met.

So yeah, stick to the basics first, I think.

I fell head over heels for my wife when I was at the bar getting us some drinks on a date with her and she came up behind me and tucked my dress shirt back into my dress pants in the back and re adjusted my suspenders..my heart fluttered at such a caring gesture....swoon!!