I've talked about how you can tell if a butch likes you, but what about the other way around: what are the best ways to flirt with a butch? I list ten top ways below. They're targeted largely toward femmes, but most are adaptable to anyone who wants to flirt with butches. So read this and get out there!
- A good, old-fashioned wink. Unprovoked, unexpected, in the course of everyday business. Then continue on as if nothing happened and leave us there to melt.
- Goad us a little about our favorite sports team. "Houston lost again, Dee. When's your team gonna make a comeback?"
- Touch us on the arm or shoulder, either while you're making a point or playfully when you're joking around.
- Compliment our hair. We are suckers for hair compliments.
- If we're good at something, ask us to do it for you: fixing your computer, changing your oil, editing your paper, whatever.
- Make a bet with us about something--anything. Bet a cup of coffee or a beer; that way, you're basically setting up some time together no matter who wins.
- Maintain eye contact just a little longer than usual or necessary.
- Ask questions about us. What do we read? What do we do for fun? Keep 'em light. Ask follow-ups.
- Express interests in our interests, particularly the nerdy interests that we're a little shy about.
- Call us out on something: "Oh, sure you can make five three-pointers in a row." Or, "Oh sure you've hybridized a new variety of fern." Keep your tone light and playful--you're inviting us to prove it.
Butches, what are your favorite ways to be flirted with?