honestly I would like it if half of men have vaginas so I could date them... and give them boobs. Basically I want hairy super masculine women.

If people address me as male, fine. If people identify me as female, no problem. I don't feel the need to change my gender, though I do recognize both femme and male privileges over being simply butch. I am who I am, you can like it or love it. ;)

I think the word gender is used more often out of a discomfort with the word "sex". Would I use it? Only as an educational device, to teach empathy.

I agree with nefarious about the terminology, since the parts are always referred to as "male" and "female", and also generally refer to them as "mating". I did a little googling, and came across this presumptive statement on Wikipedia, which tickled me a lot:
"Stickle bricks, using interlocking plastic protrusions, are effectively genderless."
And there is also some straight-faced technical talk of "hermaphroditic" connexions.
As for would I use one? Speaking as someone in the middle of a gender transition, I'd rather have the correct hardware retrofitted than have to use an adaptor. But I don't need my gender adapted anyway, just my hardware. Adaptors can be very handy in the field, though.

I'd get my "gender" changed in a minute. If it was changing external appearances and genitalia I'd change my body into the male body I want. If it was changing gender identities then I'd turn my identity female so I wouldn't have to worry about so much crap. Being FTM sucks so much. :(

Honestly, I don't even want to get out of bed most days. I'm afraid to take the plunge and start T because I'm afraid I'll wind up looking like a particularly hairy dwarf woman (or maybe a hobbit), but I'm not a woman and being so obviously feminine (even when I bind and dress male and so on) sucks. Everything sucks tbh.