I've talked about how you can tell if a butch likes you, but what about the other way around: what are the best ways to flirt with a butch? I list ten top ways below. They're targeted largely toward femmes, but most are adaptable to anyone who wants to flirt with butches. So read this and get out there!
Via the Lesbian Confessional
A good, old-fashioned wink. Unprovoked, unexpected, in the course of everyday business. Then continue on as if nothing happened and leave us there to melt.
Goad us a little about our favorite sports team. "Houston lost again, Dee. When's your team gonna make a comeback?"
Touch us on the arm or shoulder, either while you're making a point or playfully when you're joking around.
Compliment our hair. We are suckers for hair compliments.
If we're good at something, ask us to do it for you: fixing your computer, changing your oil, editing your paper, whatever.
Make a bet with us about something--anything. Bet a cup of coffee or a beer; that way, you're basically setting up some time together no matter who wins.
Maintain eye contact just a little longer than usual or necessary.
Ask questions about us. What do we read? What do we do for fun? Keep 'em light. Ask follow-ups.
Express interests in our interests, particularly the nerdy interests that we're a little shy about.
Call us out on something: "Oh, sure you can make five three-pointers in a row." Or, "Oh sure you've hybridized a new variety of fern." Keep your tone light and playful--you're inviting us to prove it.
Butches, what are your favorite ways to be flirted with?