I'm a thirtysomething woman who started this blog in 2011 because I realized that I had a lot to say about life as a butch lesbian--particularly about fashion, but also about everyday things: getting sir'd in the restroom, trying to get a decent haircut, etc.  

I didn't come out until my late twenties, at which point I was married to a man, presenting as a "normal" woman, and really hoping I wasn't gay.  The transition from married "heterosexual" woman to butchy dyke has been interesting and hard and terrible and great.  I blog a bit about that, too.  This site is a container for my questions and observations about gender and butchness.  I write on topics ranging from the metaphysical to the practical, including angst, relationships, Subarus, and button-down collars.  I'd love to hear your feedback.

When I'm not blogging, it's a pretty safe bet that I'm working (yes, I have a day job--writing posts for free doesn't exactly pay the bills), gardening, doing art, or writing something else.  I have a weakness for dogs, sharp cheese, oldies rock, and other butches.  I have too many projects going simultaneously.  I have two dogs, six chickens, and a partner who's butcher than I am but doesn't ID as butch at all.  Go figure.

I write this blog anonymously; whether I'll choose to keep it anonymous is an open question.  However, I've been known to do print and radio interviews, and even the occasional speaking engagement, so don't hesitate to contact me if you're interested.