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This is an alphabetical index of topics I've covered on BW from May 2011 to May 2012.  If you see errors or have suggestions, let me know.  Several posts fall under multiple topics. 


A-B

April Fool's
Bathroom/locker/dressing rooms
  • Responses to being told you're in the wrong bathroom
  • Locker room discomfort
  • Using men's dressing rooms in dept stores
  • Followed into the women's room by a guy
Beachwear for butches
Best search terms (see "Search terms")
Blogs and blogging
  • Links to good posts from other blogs: June 2011, Jan. 2012, April 2012 
  • Butch 360
  • Cat blogging day
  • Want to write for Butch Wonders?
  • About.com Reader's Choice Award: Best Lesbian Blog
  • One-year anniversary of BW
  • Readers' suggestions for BW
  • Poll re: improving BW
Book reviews and discussions
  • Just One of the Guys
  • Die Tryin': Video Games, Masculinity, Culture
  • Happy Accidents
  • New Knowledge of Cheese
Boots (see "Shoes")
Butch buddies
Butch identity
  • Why I identify as butch
  • Tension between butches and trans men
  • Media representations of butchness
  • Butch visibility
  • "Additive effect" of butchness
  • Differences between butch identity and trans identity
  • Defining "butch"
  • And painted toenails
  • Partner's becoming "butch"
  • Butch pride sticker
  • "I'm so butch that..."
  • BW's Field Guide to Butches: Part 1, Part 2, Part 3
  • If you're "too" butch, will people think you're trans?
  • Discussion re: "Me in a Dress" post and masculine/feminine presentation
Butch-butch relationships
  • Intro; advice for meeting other butches
  • Toughness vulnerability; what butch couples share; butch-butch in the bedroom
  • Taboos against butch-butch relationships; balance within butch-butch relationships
Butchopoly

C

Cars
  • Car shopping 
  • My car
Camping
Christmas (see "Holidays")
Collar stays
Comedians
  • Great butch comedians you might not know about
  • Kate Clinton interview
  • Helping Kelli Dunham
  • Jane Lynch's book, Happy Accidents
  • Deanne Smith as geeky/intellectual butch
  • Julie Goldman as teddy bear butch
Coming out
  • Advice for butch teens 
  • Coming out butch to my mom
  • The importance of butch visibility
  • Signs I was gay
  • My coming out story: Part 1, Part 2, Part 3, Part 4, Part 5
  • My ex-husband's perspective on our marriage and divorce: Part 1, Part 2
  • When your girlfriend comes out as FTM
  • Coming out to my parents; it gets better
  • Homophobia as a baby dyke (guest post)
  • Great things about being gay
Cufflinks
  • When to wear them
  • What kind(s) to get

D-E

 Dating
  • Online dating
  • Dating straight women
  • 5 ways to make a regular evening romantic
  • How to tell whether a butch likes you
  • Age differences
  • Butch-butch dating: Part 1, Part 2, Part 3
  • Dating a butch vs. a guy
 Depression
  • Holiday depression
  • See "Coming out while married to a man," particularly Part 1 and Part 3
Desktop wallpaper for butches
Dressing rooms
Easter (see "Holidays")
Elderly lesbians
Ex-husband (see "Married to a man")
Exercise (see "Fitness")

F

Family (see "Parents")
Fashion advice
  • Five basic rules for butches
  • What to wear swimming
  • How to buy shirts
  • Matching a striped shirt with a striped tie
  • Do's and don'ts of tie-wearing
  • Watches: part 1; part 2
  • How to wear a suit vest
  • When to wear cufflinks
  • When to "femme it up"
Feminine products
Field guide to butches
  • Part 1: Geeky butch, sporty butch, hipster butch, Bieber butch, artisan butch
  • Part 2: Badass butch, classic soft butch, handy butch, coach butch, dandy butch
  • Part 3: Rocker butch, granola butch, activist butch, butch sophisticate, butch Don Juan, slick butch, butch in uniform, teddy bear butch, butch cocktails
Fitness
  • Butch in the locker room
  • Resolutions
Flirting
  • With straight women
  • How to tell whether a butch likes you
Forum
Friendship
  • Butch buddies
  • With my ex-husband
  • Hanging out w/ my DXH
FTM (see "Trans-related")

G

Gaylienation
Gay men
Gay pride
Gender expression (See also "Butch identity" and "Trans-related")
  • The geometry of gender: masculinity and femininity (alternative to "spectrum" idea)
  • Why butch is often different from trans?
  • Makeup, Moms, Masculinity
  • How do you know if you're male or female?
  • "I'm so butch that..."
  • When to "femme it up"
  • Having people think I'm trans
  • Me in a dress (April Fool's)
  • Reactions to "Me in a Dress," discussion of masculine and feminine expression
Gender norms
  • In video games and movies
  • In kids' toys
  • Ladies' running shoes
  • Re: media representation of lesbians
Gifts for butches
  • Five great gifts for butches
  • Cufflinks
  • 10 great holiday gifts for butches
  • 10 more great holiday gifts for butches
  • Butch Store intro
  • Butch Store Q&A
Guest posts
  • Invitation to submit
  • Baby dyke; baby homophobe
  • Butchopoly

H-I

Hair
  • How to get a good haircut
  • Fauxhawks
  • Pomps, shags, and buzzes
  • Good hair day pic
Holidays
  • Last-minute holiday gift ideas
  • Alienation during the holidays
  • New Year's Resolutions
  • Holiday gifts for butches: Part 1, Part 2
  • Holiday depression
  • Valentine's Day grinchiness
  • Slightly less grinchy on V-day
  • Dyeing eggs is awesome
Home Depot
Homophobia
  • How homophobia affects butches' job searches
  • Dealing with a homophobic student
  • Homosexuals are possessed by demons
  • Encounter with a homophobic person at work
Identity (see "Butch identity," "Trans-related," and "Gender expression)
Impostor syndrome
Interviews
  • Kate Clinton
  • Megan Rohrer (butch pastor)
  • Casey Pick (Program Director for Log Cabin Republicans)
  • Radio interview of BW

J-K-L

Jury duty
Kids
  • Gender normativity in video games, movies, and media
  • "Girls' toys" and "boys' toys"
  • Family consequences of not having kids
Letter to my mom
Locker rooms
Log Cabin Republicans

M-N

Maddow, Rachel
  • As a butch cocktail
  • Swoon-inducing in camo
Makeup
Marriage equality
  • Guide to gay marriage in CA
  • Should marriage be a government creature at all?
  • Obama's tepid "evolution" on gay marriage
  • Why gay marriage shouldn't be decided state by state
  • Log Cabin Republicans' pov
Married to a man
  • Coming out married to a guy (BW's story): Part 1, Part 2, Part 3, Part 4, Part 5
  • Hanging out w/ my DXH now
  • My ex-husband's perspective on my coming out: Part 1; Part 2
Masculinity (see "Butch identity" and "Gender expression")
Miscellaneous
  • Messing with an email scammer
  • A picture of my dresser
  • Three semi-random pictures
Media
  • How the media represents butches (when it does at all)
  • Poll: where to find good queer media
  • Maleness as the "norm" or the "default" in various media
  • Butch underrepresentation in the media
Music
  • Chris Pureka as rocker butch
  • Indie bands + unfortunate life circumstances
  • Angry music for when you're sad

O-P

Open relationships
  • Polyamory
  • Reader poll
Painted toenails
Parents
  • Letter to my mom
  • My mom's reaction to BW
  • Makeup, moms, masculinity
  • My father's dresser
  • Family stuff and holidays
  • Acceptance of my gayness
  • At mass with my DGF's dad
Perks of being gay
 Pets
  • How to tell if your pet is gay
  • Are lesbians pet-obsessed?
  • Cat blogging day
  • Re-homing our cat
  • Pic of my dog
Pictures from readers
  • Tattoos
  • Suit vests, part 1
  • Suit vests, part 2
  • Tops of dressers
  • Butch-butch couples: Part 1, Part 2, Part 3
  • Fauxhawk pics
  • Pomps, shags, and buzz cuts
Pronouns (see "Word choices")
Polyamory
Polls
  • Open relationships
  • Pronoun preferences
  • Identities
  • Pets
  • Cufflinks
  • Queer media sources
  • Gay men
  • Jobs
  • Improving Butch Wonders

Q-R

Q&A
  • Tips for teenaged butches
  • What do do when the judge thinks I'm a little boy?
  • Help, my girlfriend says she's trans!
  • Help, my partner's turning into a butch!
  • Explaining to people that you want a butch, not a man
  • How do you know if you're male/female?
Radio interview
Relationships
  • Dating straight women
  • Online dating
  • Five ways to make a regular evening romantic
  • Age differences
  • Open relationships poll
  • Butch-butch relationships: Part 1, Part 2, Part 3
  • What if your girlfriend tells you she's trans?
  • Moving in with my DGF
  • Using the word "partner"
  • Signs that a butch likes you
  • Partner becoming butch
  • Polyamory
Religion
  • BW at a Catholic Mass
  • Interview with a lesbian pastor
  • Crazy religious sign
Resolutions
Rules of the universe

S

Search Terms
  • October 2011
  • December 2011
  • February 2012
  • March 2012
  • April 2012
Shaving vs. waxing
Shirts
  • Buying shirts
  • Collar stays
  • T-shirt reviews
Shoes
  • Boots
  • Doc Martens
  • Pink running shoes suck
Shopping for particular items
  • Ties
  • Dress shirts
  • Boots in general
  • Doc Martens
  • Swimwear
  • Cufflinks
  • T-shirts
  • Watches, part 1
  • Watches, part 2
Shopping, generally
  • Dressing rooms
  • With other butches
  • With my DGF
  • Introducing the Butch Store
  • Butch Store Q&A
Swimwear for butches

T

T-shirts (see "Shirts")
Tattoos
Ties
  • Buying ties
  • Storing your ties
  • Pic of how I hang my ties
  • Wool ties
  • How to wear a striped shirt w/ a striped tie
  • Pictures of my shirt-tie combos: #1, #2, #3, #4, #5, #6, #7, #8, #9, #10, #11
  • Whether to wear one to a job interview
  • Complicated feelings about wearing ties
Trans-related
  • Trans men in the workplace
  • Tension between trans men and butches
  • My girlfriend says she's trans
  • Why aren't all butches trans?
  • How do you know if you're male or female?
  • Dressing "deviant" in the workplace
Travel tips for butches
Travels
  • Camping
  • New York

U-V

Valentine's Day (see "Holidays")
Vests
  • How to wear suit vests
  • Readers in suit vests, part 1
  • Readers in suit vests, part 2
  • Sweater vests
Visibility
  • Importance of butch visibility

W-X-Y-Z

Watches
  • Basic watches to own
  • Others to check out
Waxing vs. shaving
Weddings
  • How to have an inclusive straight wedding
  • Asked to be a bridesmaid: what to do?
Word choices
  • The word "partner"
  • Pronouns
 Work
  • Trans men in the workplace
  • My butch co-worker leaving
  • Butch 360: butch at work
  • Q&A: Help, someone at work thinks I'm a little boy
  • Why do butches gravitate to certain jobs?
  • Homophobic encounter at work
  • Job interview: should you femme it up?
  • Should you wear a tie to job interviews?
  • Looking masculine on the job market
  • Factors that affect butches' job searches
  • Imposter syndrome and ambition

 
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