Many readers have written that it's tough to meet like-minded women, especially if you live in a small town or have a career that rarely puts you in contact with other women-lovin’ chicks!
When I was actively dating, I dabbled (okay, more than “dabbled”) in online fora, partly because Match, OKCupid, and Yahoo! Personals were quieter, less irritating places to meet people than in bars, and partly because I could pretend to be socially active while sitting in my recliner drinking a Fat Tire. Although I didn’t find lasting love in cyberspace (though I made some great friends), I highly recommend it. Here are a bunch of easy tips to get you started. Some are written with butches in mind, but most apply to everyone:
What has been your strangest online dating experience? Any tips to add to the list? Any questions about things I haven't covered here?
9/9/2011 07:46:04 am
These are all great! #8 is my favourite. We forget that it's ok to have a preference; it's ok to have a "type."
9/9/2011 07:59:06 am
21. If you are an overly literal grammar/language nazi, say so.
9/9/2011 08:06:52 am
I met a girl online, who seemed smart and funny, several other things I was looking for. However when we met, she was at least ten years older then she stated in her profile, and LOOKED it. I didn't want to be rude so I stayed and had coffee, but it was very akward, and I was really unhappy. If someone is going to lie right off the bat, then how can you ever trust them?
9/9/2011 09:24:32 am
i have been very successful at on line dating. i met my wife on compatiple partners. i was on several different sites as well. i have met many lovely women and some kinda scary ones too. i liked campatiple partners because they ask a lot of questions and they have you ask questions of the women that you are interested in. they take you through many steps before you get to email each other directly. or exchange phone #'s. so you have a very good idea who you will be meeting when you do get to finally talk.
9/9/2011 09:33:59 am
Great post BW! I can't stress #2 enough. #1 is also important, but there's this phenomenon called "being photogenic" and some people just don't have it. I bring this up because I went on a date with someone who I wasn't particularly attracted to...or so I thought. I wasn't 100% sure if I liked their pictures, but when we met...?!!? Whole different story. I melted instantly. She was everything I dreamed of, but yet, her pictures were so-so. That's when #2 comes in. Meet as soon as possible because you might be pleasantly surprised.
I love this post! I once spent hours with a girl on the phone and it seemed like we'd be a match. It should have been a tip off when she asked me my belt size (I had no idea what she meant) and I said my hips held my pants up (she had no idea what I meant). We were almost the same size although, obviously, two totally different people.
9/11/2011 12:43:57 pm
9/11/2011 06:01:59 pm
Morgain, that's SO true... many people will just send a message that says "hi" or "'sup?" I would usually reply with a one-word answer because it felt weird not to reply at all... but I couldn't help thinking the person had just mass mailed a ton of people. A short, thoughtful note is best, along with a couple of questions to give the person something to write back!
9/19/2011 12:18:22 am
Don't abbreviate every word...It can take a person ages to decipher what you are saying, and sometimes it is plain impossible!
10/1/2011 07:35:50 pm
I think the post is good for us.I highly recommend it. Here are a bunch of easy tips to get you started. Some are written with butches in mind, but most apply to everyone:
11/27/2011 12:18:12 am
1/10/2012 01:41:10 pm
Some are written with butches in mind, but most apply to everyone:
3/15/2013 02:57:31 pm
I've been meeting alot of women online and apparently I'm really good at catching the cute ones! : ) I start the first date at Starbucks. I know they are into me when they compliment my eyes and offer me a ride home but I'm having trouble getting the second date. They tell me they are really busy and will have time in a few weeks. Then they talk to me less. Plus I'm always the one to ask how there day was. No one ever seems to think about me. So am I doing something wrong? Is this what dating online is or is it just the wrong time of year?
11/16/2018 12:07:52 am
I am commenting on this in 2018. I do not know how I got on this blog.Unfortunately I read up until #2 You said "get sense of their persona (& whether theres a chance in hell you would ever want to wake up next to it".What are you looking for a quick lay or a long term relationship? To me it sounds like a lay.It takes a long time to get to know someone & the depth of their personality.
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