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Best Lesbian Blog, 2012!

3/31/2012

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I just wanted to say a huge THANK YOU to everyone who voted in the About.com Readers' Choice awards.  I'm tremendously proud that Butch Wonders won the Best Lesbian Blog award!  I was stoked to be in the top five--but to win?  So cool!!

I see it as our award, not my award.  Sounds cheesy, but it's true.  Every time you take a minute to comment on a post or write me an email or send in a picture, you make Butch Wonders a better blog and a stronger community.

I hope we'll keep growing, and I hope you'll keep reading.  I'm thrilled that so many of you read the blog and find it interesting or useful enough to keep coming back.  You are awesome.  Thank you!!

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The Geometry of Gender

3/30/2012

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We hear sometimes that gender is a "spectrum."  One reason to envision it this way is to see that gender is not dichotomous: It cannot be neatly divided into two parts like boys' shoes vs. girls' shoes in a department store.  Most of us are not one or the other; we're somewhere in the middle:
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But even though the "spectrum" concept is useful, I've always found it troubling, because it understands masculinity and femininity as opposites.  That means that if I'm deciding where I fall along the spectrum, I can't be more feminine without necessarily being less masculine--and vice versa.  Here's what I mean:

Culturally, we know what most people consider "masculine" or "feminine" (even though most of us probably don't agree with it!).  Fixing my car is masculine.  Painting my nails is feminine.  (Again, I think these characterizations are awful, but I'm talking about culturally dominant notions of femininity and masculinity.)  So if gender is a spectrum, and masculinity and femininity are opposite ends of a continuum, this means that if I paint my nails, I become less masculine.  An act that moves me closer to the right end of the spectrum moves me farther from the left end.  If the "spectrum" view is accurate, masculinity and femininity are a zero-sum game.

But as I've been thinking about it lately, masculinity and femininity are more like a coordinate plane.  (I suspect others have thought of this; I just haven't run into them yet.)  Remember coordinate planes from high school geometry?  Where you graph dots like (-1, 2)?  Here's my version:
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The idea is that masculinity and femininity can be high or low, but are independent of one another.  If you paint your nails, you become more feminine, but this does not necessarily make you less masculine.

For many of us in the queer/boi/stud/dyke/trans/butch/genderqueer realm, such a conceptualization might be more comfortable and accurate.  Mentally, it disentangles the two ideas a bit.  Imagine a hot femme changing her own oil--she's performing a culturally "masculine" activity, but is she any less feminine?  I'd argue the answer is no, just as I'd argue that a butch cooing at a baby might be more "feminine" in that moment than she was a moment earlier, but that she is no less masculine for it.

What do you think about this?  Does it fit with how you think about gender?

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One of the Survey Results

3/29/2012

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Thanks for your great responses to the survey I put up a few days ago.  Much appreciated!  I love reading readers' suggestions.  Remember that question I asked about what kinds of things you'd like to see more of on the blog?  Here are the top five:
  1. More posts about butch identity, female masculinity, gender identity, etc.  (This was #1 by far!)
  2. More posts about fashion, hair, etc., for butches
  3. Interviews with famous or interesting lesbians
  4. Reviews of books/movies/music
  5. Occasional video blogs/vlogs

Interesting results, and I'll definitely use that feedback going forward.(Numbers 2, 3, and 4 were *very* close.) 


  
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Things that have rocked about today thus far

3/28/2012

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  1. It's week two of my new part-time job, and so far I'm enjoying it, loving the people, and finding it a bigger challenge than I expected.
  2. Apple-brie-walnut panini, FTW.
  3. I am wearing a sweater vest, because why should Rick Santorum have all the fun?  (Next thing you know, he'll be sporting a fauxhawk.)
  4. My Fluevogs arrived yesterday, and they are freaking awesome.  (And no, I didn't pay full price--not even close!)  Admittedly, they don't TOTALLY fit, since the smallest size was a men's 7 and I am a men's 6/6.5 or women's 8/8.5.  But with my insoles, they work. 
  5. A guy followed me into the women's bathroom today.  It was hilarious.  He was behind me, and I turned to hold the door open for him, and he looked at me, did a double-take, turned, and went into the other one.  

What's been the best part of your day so far today?
 
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The goal? Keep getting better.

3/27/2012

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Wow, I haven't blogged for four days!  Dagnabbit.  I've been thinking a lot about this site, though: how BW can be better, more interesting, etc.  I'd also love it to be financially sustainable (i.e. if I could break even for my hours and site costs). 

I can't please everyone, and don't try to.  But I do care what this site's awesome readers think.  Because of you, Butch Wonders has gone from nothing (in May 2011) to over 1000 unique hits every day!  I want to keep BW strong and vibrant and growing, and to that end, I'd love your input.

Whether you're a regular reader or have only read a few posts, I hope you'll fill out this wee survey.  On the multiple choice ones, you can check as many answers as you want.
Thank you SO much for taking the time to fill this out.  I really appreciate it, and will be back to out regularly scheduled blogging soon!  I promise!

Love and a fist bump,
BW

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