As I've said many times in the past, being butch is awesome. I love it, and it's natural for me, and I wouldn't want to be any other way. That said, society doesn't always know what to make of us. In public settings, there are a few things that butchy looking women can't get away with quite as easily as other women can.
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Jyn
4/13/2015 04:47:49 am
Shopping for womens stuff but also shopping for mens stuff! can't win lol.
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CB
4/13/2015 05:40:25 am
Being able to travel anywhere without thinking about safety first! I love road trips but I'm not itching to walk my button-down, oxford wearing, short-haired self down the street in very conservative areas of the US. Going abroad is also complicated by the way I look.
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cat
4/13/2015 08:22:52 am
I practically have to be dragged, kicking and screaming (to the absolute delight, of my partner) to buy bras. I'll wear them till the duct tape stops working. Only thing worse.....is a obgyn appt. Ugh!
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4/13/2015 07:39:26 pm
I feel like people on campus stare at me way more than ever before. I used to feel relatively invisible and would need to make the firet effort to greet strangers, but now when approaching people on campus, it seems like they've already been staring at me awhile. I'm kind of ... reluctant to tell straight friends this as I don't think they'll believe me. I did tell one close friend I thought maybe people stared because they were trying to figure out man or woman and she said, "but you don't look like a man. You look like a butch woman."
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Going to get a breast exam at the Women's Health Clinic...they actually came to the waiting room "looking" for me and overlooked me because of my masculine appearance 3 times before actually calling my name....it was embarrassing enough to just be sitting in that waiting room...this was pre-top surgery, my final mamogram appointment.
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Mal
4/17/2015 01:56:47 am
This is a little different but, hanging out with women in public who are straight always makes me feel a little bad because when you look like an obvious dyke, like I do, they generally get assumed to be one by association and get dirty looks right along with me, not to mention get asked questions, and much to the dismay of one of my former straight roommates, they don't get hit on by men when we're out. It's not necessarily something we can't do, but it still makes one butchy dyke feel pretty awful for her straight female friends who still choose to hang out with her in public.
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lexi
5/8/2015 06:25:26 am
Shopping. My girlfriend is butch and mas uline. While I am more feme. She asks for me to accompany her shopping especially for bras as to aviod the sleezy "man looking for sexy underware for his girlffriend" stares. She also cant win in the mens clothing deparment either. Its a whole shopping trip of akward glares from people. Sometimes when were out I catch men staring at her trying to decide wether shes a woman or a man. Society is crazy and being a butch lesbian has its complications, but all you can do is take it in stride and have a sarcastic attitude!
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alex
5/23/2015 02:20:35 am
i usually try to talk walking into the restroom, calmly and slowly, making eye contact and smiling.
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Aggie
8/8/2015 08:26:51 pm
Disclaimer: if I stare at you in public toilets it is only because I admire you (i.e. all butches altogether) :)
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Griff
10/15/2016 09:58:56 pm
I do the same thing. I even found this by looking up if it was bad that I stare at other butches. I'm just like 'there's still hope for me!!' When I see them in the store or something.
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