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5/30/2012

48 Comments

 
Most of us have little nicknames for our partners or girlfriends--but some of you have told me that it's extra tough to come up with cute names for a butch.  "Sweetie" and "honey" can feel a little generic sometimes--and cutesy names like "pookums" or "honey flower" might not exactly cut it for a butch.

So here are some suggestions for butch nicknames.  Some of these are specific to lovers; #2, #3, and #6 would work for butch buddies just as well.
  1. "Papi."  I've never been called, nor called anyone, "Papi," but those who use it tell me I'm missing out.
  2. Their first and last initials: JB, DL, LG, BT, or whatever.
  3. Their first initial, followed by "Dog."  As in: C-Dog or T-Dog. 
  4. "Handsome."  I don't usually like being called "handsome," because it feels too gendered to me (as does "pretty").  But I know lots of butches who eat it up!
  5. "Gorgeous."  As in: "Welcome home, Gorgeous."  (Who wouldn't want to come home to that?)
  6. A one-syllable descriptor, like "Ace" or "Bear" or "Blue" or "Pants."  Ideally, this will be something relevant to their appearance or character.
  7. Something playful, like "Spunky" or "Snappy."  (Actually, "Snappy" is one of my many nicknames for my dog, but she's pretty butch, so I guess it works.)
  8. "Daddy."  I feel compelled to include this, although personally, it grosses me out.  But this is not a value judgment, just a personal preference.  I say, if you're into it, awesome.  Go for it.
  9. Something a little crass and objectifying, but not too crass, such as "hot ass" or "tender tits" or "butter hips."  Okay, maybe not "butter hips."
  10. Something that's code between the two of you but sounds neutral to everyone else.  So you can say it in front of other people and make her blush, but no one else will know what you're talking about.  Combine this with #6 if you like.

Your turn! 
Butches: What do you like your girlfriend to call you?  Do you have any nicknames for your butch buddies?
Everyone else: What are your nicknames or pet names for butches?

48 Comments
Levi
5/30/2012 10:27:59 am

I <3 being called daddy, but spelled with an I, daddi...that way it aint quite so bad lol

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charley crabb
2/2/2020 02:43:52 pm

same

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kitty
5/30/2012 10:30:40 am

hmmm....daddy..... :)

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Rex
5/30/2012 10:36:08 am

I'm a sucker for "Handsome"... changes my whole demeanor instantly. I've been called "Spike" and "Butch" and I'll answer to both. "Rex" is actually a pet name. I find most Butch women have the MOST girlie names... and I'm no exception. In fact the Girliness of Butch's given names are only surpassed by the UBER girliness of Pre-Trans Transmen. I have no explanation... but think about it... I'm right, right? ; )

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Levi
6/1/2012 04:19:31 am

My given name is so flippin girlie its not funny...i refuse to use it lol

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Nikki
5/30/2012 10:37:28 am

I have always been partial to babe.

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bee listy link
5/30/2012 10:38:48 am

I definitely don't like any pet names in front of people, but I don't mind them from my sweetie in private, or when written down.

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C. link
5/30/2012 10:53:05 am

Dude-
No matter how many times you say it, your dog is not butch. I know that is a huge disappointment for you, but the sooner you admit the truth, the better for everyone. I'm sure there are support groups that will help you come to terms with this.

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Butch Wonders link
5/30/2012 01:12:55 pm

Dude. Just because your dog likes to get peed on, don't take it out on MY little mutt.

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mx. punk link
5/31/2012 07:23:12 am

win. ^^^

NTXBoi
5/30/2012 10:55:21 am

Another Daddi here... or North - depends on the context.

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Josie
5/30/2012 11:09:23 am

I call my butch "honey" and have for 16yrs.

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Bren link
5/30/2012 11:13:13 am

I love being called "handsome." "Gorgeous" just doesn't work for me - it seems too, I dunno, pretty somehow (and I hate being called "pretty," "beautiful, or the like).

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Goo
5/30/2012 11:22:21 am

I love it when my girl calls me her bear :)

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Ruby
2/28/2018 02:35:14 pm

Mine calls me her bear too and I love it

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harper link
5/30/2012 11:34:41 am

being called handsome absolutely does it for me...even papi can put a smirk on my face ;-)
@rex definitely see what your saying about Butch women having super girly names...my actual name? so freakin girly!

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mama
5/30/2012 12:50:00 pm

We have many names for eachother but the most used mama(me) and papa. At home i call my butch cuddlebump cause I like cuddling with her bump (butt) but I would never call her that in public. I also say handsome which is ok but if I call her sexy or anything that could sound remotely girly she freaks. The first pet name I used was buffness and the first teddy bear she gave me is buffness bear. So as you can see I have many names for my butch and she loves them all.

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Alex
6/16/2018 12:12:54 am

That’s adorable!

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Jackie
5/30/2012 12:56:03 pm

I am called "the cutest!" totally works for me

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FPMH
5/30/2012 03:38:48 pm

my GF calls me fluffy puff sometimes (short for fluffy puff-marshmellow-head). I'm fluffity. I'm puffity.

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Tonia
5/30/2012 04:02:40 pm

When my partner and I bought our rings she got a more fem band with diamonds and I got a brushed silver band. The girl at the counter said well I guess this makes you the "rugged one" lol. When my girl is flirty with me she will say well you are the rugged one. I love it!

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Melissa Hooton
2/20/2020 03:44:10 am

I absolutely love this. ♥️♥️

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Jelly
5/30/2012 04:08:51 pm

My Pretty calls me Jelly-Belly... She is a feeder and I love her food - so the combo works. Although I am forced to gym extra hard in order to keep my Jelly-Bellyness under control.

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Stacy
5/30/2012 06:06:21 pm

I like being described as "Handsome", and I get called "Butchie" alot, but how could "Stud" not be on this list? Whenever my femme gf calls me or any of our butch friends "Stud", we all get a bit of a glazed look in our eyes for a few moments. I think we all aspire to be studly.

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Jeanette
5/30/2012 09:28:52 pm

I call my GF "tiger" and she loves it

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DQ
5/30/2012 09:51:12 pm

most of our names for each other are hysterically inappropriate(like us) but my favorite is "Sweet Meat"

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Cash
1/3/2017 01:12:04 pm

That's awesome haha that's what I call my fiance. We heard it on King of the Hill one night. I figured it was suiting considering she's just like Hank lol.

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Rene
5/30/2012 10:47:42 pm

My wife calls me her monkey or koala bear because i act like a monkey & have a face like a koala bear. I like it I think its cute

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Kali
5/30/2012 11:34:01 pm

We usually use "wolf" interchangeably, although it does tend to confuse people because we both call each other it!

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maddox link
5/31/2012 12:49:30 am

Handsome always brings a smile to my face.

My gf's private nickname for me means "little thing" in Spanish. I respond better to that than to my name.

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DJ
5/31/2012 04:41:07 am

I get called Handsome, Daddy or DJ (my initials).. and sometimes, in certain delicious circumstances, Sir.

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SImi
5/31/2012 05:15:20 am

I am called Pee-nut. I love it

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Niki
5/31/2012 06:52:27 am

I have always been called butch, or nik, by all my friends. By apperance yes i am a "butch" but I am also very "fem" as well.

However my girlfriend calls me "big buck" and I call her "lover"

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Deborah Tanner
5/31/2012 12:48:10 pm

I call my partner " woody " I am more femm but goes by the name " Tanner “ I think that is funny....its my last name....and when they call me Tanner , everyone expects a young man. I am neither

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Judi link
5/31/2012 11:42:24 pm

I call my butch "baby" most of the time; it just fits; however, I also use #5 "gorgeous"; because she is! *smile* FYI, she calls me "Doll" which was a first and perhaps added to the many reasons we are heading to year 10 together!
Thanks for the great posts...I always enjoy them but rarely have time to respond.

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Edison
6/1/2012 10:29:26 am

I get 'Cat Daddy' 'Babe' or -in certain contexts- 'Sir' by my significant other. I also get 'Big Daddy' from a fellow butch buddy because I drive a big ol' Dodge truck with a (good bit of) growl to it. I like 'Daddy' because it signifies to me the role of a protector which is what I very much am. I can see why some people might be uncomfortable with it though.

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cori link
6/2/2012 08:34:13 am

We had this discussion for the longest. MY wife called me "honey," but it was too generic; once I heard her call others (kids, relatives) "honey" - I rebelled. Then, she decided she loved "Stud Muffin." But, she started calling me just Muffin, and now it's simply, Muff. Whatevs, I like it better than "honey."

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maryjames
6/5/2012 06:38:59 am

Super Stud

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pup
6/22/2012 05:07:55 am

my partner calls me pup or puppy and i love it.

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butchwonders link
6/22/2012 06:42:08 am

That is soooo cute!

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Jones
1/14/2013 07:24:38 pm

My sweetheart & I have many pet names for each other. My favorite of hers for me is "handsome beauty"

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Butch Wonders link
1/15/2013 03:35:37 am

@Jones--I've never heard that before, and I love it!

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tennesse5
3/6/2013 07:31:29 pm

What is a great name to call your girl who is a firefighter. Any suggestions?

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see here link
5/23/2013 08:23:50 pm

Like the way you gave butch pet names. I love addressing me by pet name very much and even call my girlfriend with a pet name. Pet names showers lot of love and affection and it is necessary for me to choose a pet name with these flavors.

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Nolo
8/26/2013 03:59:38 pm

I call my stud girlfriend "my heart throb" throb means a certain deep beat/pulse, so heart throb is the extreme heart pulse of joy she gives me

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Ray
2/15/2014 02:40:53 pm

Papi for me or Daddy hell and definitely handsome it all works for me.... My girl mostly uses Papi in the bed JS

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Cat
11/12/2017 04:26:27 pm

I call my butch "puppy" or "doggy" and she absolutely loves it. It started because I told her I loved being called "kitty" or "kitten" and I'm a cat person too, while she's a dog person. We have a thing where she's the dog to my cat 🐶❤🐱 I see it as dogs are more rugged, rough, and wild while cats are quiet, tamer, shy, and small which definitely fits our personalities because we can be complete opposites but we get along so well 💕

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Samantha
7/6/2019 06:16:26 pm

I call my wife handsome and my King in private , she calls me her Queen. We also use every mushy pet name in the book. I’ll list them out when trying to get her attention when she’s busy , sug, sweetheart, darling , dear . . . etc until she responds :)

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