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Costumes, Kids, and Candy: What's Not to Love?

10/30/2015

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As a kid, I loved dressing up.  My mom, a  master seamstress and creator, would collaborate with me to create all kinds of Halloween costumes.  Among my favorites were a robot, a mad scientist, and a pirate.   (And when my brother and I got too old to trick-or-treat, my family developed a tradition of dinner and a movie  on Halloween, which was actually even more fun than trick-or-treating.)

Halloween is special for a lot of queer kids because it's the one day a year where it's "okay" to be in drag--where no one looks askance at a lady in a tie or a guy in a dress.  Little Sally wants to be a construction worker with a hard hat and mustache?  Great!  Little Suzy wants to wear her dad's tie in front of all the neighbors?  Fine!  And let's give her some candy, too!


I wasn't consciously "trying out" different forms of masculinity when I donned a costume, but I do know that most of the costumes I chose were more masculine than not.  (In fact, once, in third grade, we were allowed to dress up as any character we wanted from any book we'd read.  I scanned book after book until I found one that contained a tie-wearing man, just so I could wear a tie to school.)  It's not as if my parents made me wear dresses every day, but the fact that I could be openly masculine in costume was kind of thrilling.  Thinking back on my costumes, there was a definite pattern. 

Wondering if other butches experienced something similar as kids, I asked BW Facebook page fans last week what their favorite Halloween costumes had been.  Yep, there was a pattern, all right.  (Where, oh where, were you all when I was growing up?  We would have been best buds!)
  Here were some of the responses I got, along with a few amazing pictures.
  • Pirate (5, one of whom remarked, "The painted on beard was my favorite part.")
  • Grim reaper
  • "I'm femme, however I went as a man in grade school.. Wore my dad's tux and a fedora."
  • Member of the band KISS
  • Hobo (2)
  • Cowboy (see pic and caption to the right...  so awesome)
  • "I don't have pictures, but one year I wanted to be an insurance salesman (because that's scary) so I could wear a suit. I wore a suit. I had a briefcase. It was great."
  • Batman (2)
  • Zorro (2)
  • Superman
  • Football player (2, one of whom was Boomer Esiason)
  • Gorilla (2, one of whom remembers, "I had girls flirting with me the whole night which was kind of magical for 12 year old me . Of course, I'm pretty sure they thought there was a boy under that costume."
  • "I dressed as my grandfather one year. He was an architect. I wore a hardhat and a tie."
  • Biker
  • Moses (2, one of whom is pictured to the right, and the other of whom writes, "I wanted to be a boy for Halloween when I was like...probably 8 or 9, but I knew my mom wouldn't let me. However, she was very Catholic so I told her I wanted to be Moses, from the Bible. She let me and I had a beard and everything. Win!"
  • Dracula
  • The Incredible Hulk (3)
  • "I was a Caltrans (California Dept of transportation) worker. Just like my mom was. Back when she was a heavy equipment operator, there weren't many women."
  • A football ref
  • Peter Pan (2)
  • Green Power Ranger
  • Yoda
  • A Transformer
  • "I wore my dad's pest control coveralls and carried a pint of whiskey in one of the front pockets.  I wish I had a pic!"
  • Vampire (3)
  • Spider-Man (see pic to the right)
  • "Swami with a white beard and long white robe... The woman I was dancing with was shocked when she realized I wasn't a man."
  • "In my teens I started dressing like my favorite musicians- David Bowie, Mike Patton, and Buzz Osbourne."
  • Surgeon
  • Andy (of Raggedy Ann and Andy)
  • "Mime, which was great because I got my first white dress shirt, black tie and formal jacket."  (So enterprising!)
Picture
"I only have this pic because I (so the story goes) refused to take the holster off for months afterward"
Picture
"I was Moses one year ...but that was the year Return of the Jedi was out so everyone that I was Obi Wan Kenobi ... I was obsessed with the movie Moses starring Charlton Heston."
Picture
"My favourite was when I was the hulk at age 7 but I couldn't find the picture. Here's me as Spider-Man."

I can't tell you how happy these make me (especially the pictures...  SO cute!), in part because they make me remember how much fun it was to dress up in costume, and in part because they remind me that when we grow up, lots of us find ways to become ourselves that don't require us to wait for Halloween to come around every year.  Tomorrow night, I will be giving out Nerds, Junior Mints, and Skittles to hoardes of little ghosts, goblins, baseball players, and Disney princesses.  And if I see a little boy dressed up as Elsa, or a little girl wearing one of her father's neckties, you'd better believe they're getting an extra big smile from this former pirate.

Happy Halloween!

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Mal
10/30/2015 01:41:48 pm

This is so cute, I could die. Are you going to wear a costume to hand out candy? Halloween is my favorite holiday so even when I'm handing out candy, I still use it as an excuse to dress up even though I'm 25! Last year, I was an iron worker (my dad worked as one so he has all the gear) and it was so fun!

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lemme
11/1/2015 04:39:59 am

Last year I dressed up as Charlie Chaplin! Halloween is still ( and now even more ) an excuse to go full on drag, and look at my friends' reaction when I do pass as a male at parties... love it!

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