Satin-finished silver, $25
_I've heard some of you say that compared to our more traditionally feminine counterparts, there aren't many ways for butches to show off our style. That's why one of my many missions is to debunk this myth and show you how awesome butch fashion can be.
Cufflinks are a fun, underused part of men's "jewelry" that butches can totally rock. Like watches, they can add a bit of class, a splash of color, or a touch of whimsy to your outfit.
It helps, of course, to know what you're doing, which is where I come in. Follow a few easy guidelines and you'll be sporting cufflinks like a pro.
_First, only wear cufflinks with French cuff shirts--aka "double cuff" shirts. Instead of buttoning normally, they have cuffs that fold back and are secured by your cufflinks (as pictured, right).
Historically, French cuffs were only worn with suits. This rule is a relic, and no longer holds true. Sure, you can wear French cuffs and cufflinks with a suit. But you can also wear them with jeans and no jacket for a night of dancing. The key is to match the formality of the cufflinks to the rest of your outfit. Fuzzy dice cufflinks + a tuxedo is a no-no (unless it's Halloween and you're going as Irony).
Cufflinks are supposed to add a touch of style, not function like a neon sign. There's no need to be flashy or gimmicky. That said, have fun with them. Assuming that you are a non-male-presenting butch, it will take a truly huge fashion offense to make you look like an arrogant tool. Guys have less leeway. Unfair, maybe, but a fact nonetheless.
Finally, wear your cufflinks with confidence! Yeah, some people say that you shouldn't wear French cuffs if you're under the age of 40. But I say: critics be damned! And Frank Sinatra and the Sartorial Butch both agree with me.
Cherry wood 'links? Yes, please!
_Check out this excellent GQ video, in which the "Style Guy" shows off his cufflink collection and says a little more about how to wear them. Tomorrow I'll write Part 2, in which I'll tell you some great places to buy cufflinks. For a preview, check out my new Butch Store Cufflink page!)