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Grey Cat Blues. And: Are Lesbians Pet-Obsessed?

1/14/2012

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Remember how, when the DGF and I moved in together recently, we were excited to have found a place that would allow the world's most angelic cat to be safely separated from yours truly?

Well, the cat was miserable.  Truly, utterly miserable every moment he had to be separated from people, especially my DGF.  This created a problem, since the world's most angelic cat also happens to be the world's most allergenic.  We tried everything, but ultimately decided that it was too serious of a health risk for me to be around him, and too miserable for him to keep living in just one part of the house.  Even though my DGF gave him special one-on-one time every day, and even though we kept the window open so that he could spend as much time outside as he pleased, he was still bummed out virtually every second he wasn't with people.  He would release this heartbreaking cry that just killed us.

So after a ton of heart-wrenching deliberation, we decided it would be best to re-home him.  We spent more than six weeks finding him the perfect home: a four-acre parcel of land in a semi-rural area with a big house owned by a cat-loving bachelor who has one other cat whom he dotes on like crazy.

In other words, the GK (that's "Grey Kitty;" shown above being typically attentive and saint-like) is going to be in total cat bliss.

Today was re-homing day, and it was really sad.  I feel a ton of (unjustified, I know) guilt for being hyper-allergic to this excellent cat, and my DGF is very, very sad but handling the situation with great aplomb.

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Ironically, I'm not too allergic to her other cat (shown here practicing yoga), who is grouchy and hisses at my dog.  I can't cuddle with him for long, but I can be in the same room as him without anaphylaxing.

Thinking about pets today made me wonder if the "pet-crazy-lesbian" stereotype is accurate.  It also made me wonder what kinds of pets you have, dear readers.  I hope you'll take the short polls below.

_I'd love to hear from you in the comments: what's the most extreme example of lesbian pet-obsession that you've ever witnessed (or personally enacted)?
18 Comments
beelisty link
1/14/2012 08:16:16 am

deep lez confession time: i live with my partner's cat. over the summer, my partner left town for a new job and had a temporary living situation for a few months, so i took the cat temporarily...except that it's been since June. no plans to get the cat to my partner because we don't want to drug her/pay to fly her and neither of us have driven between our cities.

my old cat is with an ex.

i had a dog pass away the same day i left a partner.

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Butch Wonders link
1/14/2012 08:27:19 am

Wow, Bee--that's intense... thanks for sharing. And I'm sorry your old cat is with an ex. That must suck. And having your dog die the same day of a breakup!? Man. Talk about the worst day in history.

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Lorrie Knighten link
1/14/2012 08:22:35 am

Thanks for sharing.....Love animal stories....

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Anon
1/14/2012 08:36:02 am

My dog may or may not have outfits. Not just the occasional sweater here or there. Outfits. And costumes.

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Sam
1/14/2012 08:45:33 am

Two dogs, and more recently two guinea pigs.... really, the kids got them for me for christmas. Maybe I should add two kids to the list?

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Lavender
1/14/2012 08:45:57 am

Crazy cat ladies are almost always lesbians. And don't be surprised if your cat or dog-loving girlfriend would rather sleep with her pet on her bed than you. *a little bit of bitter resentment here*

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Edison link
1/14/2012 09:05:44 am

While I id as queer rather than lesbian I do have two cats. I'm horribly allergic to most cats but the breed mine are (Siberian) are pretty much hypoallergenic. I didn't realize that until my first encounters with my blue cat didn't drive me into a bleary-eyed sneezing frenzy and then did some breed research. Both of my girls are rescues too, so yay. :)

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Anna
1/14/2012 09:06:55 am

I work at an animal shelter... so I "have" about 450 cats, 125 dogs, and a couple dozen assorted small animals. Beat that!

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Aniece
1/14/2012 09:38:42 am

My gf and I have a 1 yr old Boston Terrier who we have had since he was born. Our (human) kids are mostly grown so our puppy is our baby for sure. This dog has it GOOD.

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Cat
1/14/2012 01:17:39 pm

Yeah...pretty much gone to the dogs here. Three Australian Shepherds, Abel (13) Idgy (8) and Emmett (6) I also have three cats, Pi, Phinneas and Bobbi Sue. and a bunch of chickens (yummm nothing like farm fresh eggs) I'm a farmer at heart. :)

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Stacey
1/14/2012 08:03:57 pm

I have a cat that I have had for pretty much all of my life. We got him when I was four and he is now a very happy and hyper 18 year old kitty, still going and going and going to the point of my constant irritation at times haha. My dad found him wandering around the streets of Detroit in one of the worst areas and he was just a tiny kittne so we just HAD to take him in. I had a dog at that time (another rescue animal) and they were very unhappy about having to be around each other, but over the years they became the best of friends. When we had to put my dog down (saddest day of my life, or one of the saddest days) my cat would wander around looking for his friend, it took him a good six months to stop seeming so damn sad.

My family and I have been blessed with wonderful animals, mainly dogs but a few cats, a ferret, and a cute little guinea pig named Cocoa. My aunts two dogs were essentially mine, I lived with my aunt for quite a while and was around those dogs constantly. I love them as my own. The beagle was rescued from his pervious owner who was planning on shooting him because the dog was way too timid to do anything. So a friend of the family took the little guy in but couldn't properly care for him so my aunt took him in. Him and her black lab german shepherd mix got along very well and were extremely close. Within the past couple of years we have had to put both of them down, and it still makes me so sad but they were so wonderful.

I had another cat that my dad took in off the streets I named him Flannel (HA and haha) he was a wonderful cat. Very sweet and cuddly, he would lay on my shoulder for hours sleeping with his head buried in my neck. He loved water too, I couldn't wash my hands, do the dishes, or take a shower without that cat deciding he would join me. When I was 8 he was ran over by some kid on a bike (apparently some people a couple of blocks away saw it happen) and it broke his back. He crawled all the way home to my dad and died in his arms. I still can't think about that one without bursting into tears and it's been 13 years. But he was a wonderful cat who had a better life than he would of if we had just left him, and of course we could never do that.

We've had a lot of amazing animals in our lives, and I'm definitely wanting more. But for now I'll stick to cuddling with my very noisy yet very sweet very old kitty.

I apologize for how long this is, but once I get on the subject of my animals I can't get off it for quite a while. The fact that I'm stopping this here is quite miraculous haha.

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Stacey
1/14/2012 08:14:36 pm

Also it seems that anytime I'm near an animal I can't help but go into my cute animal baby talk mode. I imagine it annoys a lot of people, but it just becomes an automatic thing for me. I can't see a cute little furry thing without talking like a big dork. Animals are my weakness.

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G link
1/15/2012 07:39:12 am

Sorry to hear about re-homing GK, but I'm so grateful for people like you who make decisions based on the best interests of the animal, not themselves.

I love pretty much all animals, but I've been like that ever since I was little (so I don't feel like it's a lesbian thing, you know?). That being said, I can't really have relationships - platonic or otherwise - with people who don't like animals; it feels like they're just lacking that extra strand of compassion that is important to me.

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Levi
1/17/2012 01:15:06 pm

A butchy acquaintance has a dachshund named Nix. I'm ashamed to say that I didn't get the reference until my recent Lesbian Pulps kick (i.e. Ann Bannon). I strongly prefer big dogs to small, but that might just be the best thing ever.

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Rai
1/23/2012 02:11:37 pm

2 dogs, 7 cats (3 of whom must live in a giant crazy-cat-lady cage because my ex let them live in filthy conditions for a year and now they all pee on the floor), 2 parrots, both in their early 20s, and four heritage-breed chickens.
yep, animal-crazy lesbian here.

at one time in the past I have had up to 15 parrots and 27 total pets... but my foster and rescue days are, thankfully, over.

and soon I'm gonna have a farm. :)

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Honeywell Humidifiers link
3/14/2012 02:35:28 pm

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startenturecapital link
3/20/2012 04:15:46 pm

Nice post. Thank you for taking the time to publish this information very useful! I've been looking for books of this nature for a way too long. I'm just glad that I found yours. Looking forward for your next post. Thanks :)

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Lisa
12/9/2016 12:55:28 pm

So I have 5 boys, 3 are fine grown independent you men, 2 are in grade school and at home... ok.. help me out ladies... I have found that dating lesbians who have no kids and a dog is perplexing.... they won't get sitters for dog or stay away from them overnight... I pay for and get babysitters for my youngest boys.. but they won't do the same for the pooch... this last one has never left her dog overnight at home in 4 years... she will drive through traffic for 2 hours to her house and back to take care of dog and then only stay at my house for a few hours... this seems to be a common thing for those gals with no children... I do love my pets I have had over the years.. part of my family unit. I just don't understand this obsession with being away from their pets... I try to put myself in their place with my kids... but I still do t get it... I think I just should stop dating lesbians with pets and no children.... lovely people.. just not working for me

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