Happy Surprises About Being Gay
When I was first coming out, I thought that being gay would be a big huge pain in the neck. I expected to be stared at when I was out with a girlfriend, I thought my straight friends wouldn't feel close to me, and that I'd always feel excluded at straight weddings and baby showers (if I was even invited).
Some of these fears weren't entirely unfounded, but in my everyday life, the downsides of being queer were far smaller than I'd expected. Sure, there were a few lousy surprises (e.g., sometimes people stare, and the "convert a straight girl, get a toaster" thing turns out to be a total scam). But overall, being queer brought more good surprises than bad ones.
One of these good surprises: kissing is fun! And just for the sake of kissing, not as requisite foreplay (who knew?). For another, I realized I love fashion. Liberated to wear what I want, I now love reading about fashion and shopping for myself and other people. My younger self (who broke out in hives just walking near Macy's) would never have believed this was possible.
While I was thinking about the surprise perks of being gay, I posted a question on Facebook yesterday "What's the #1 SURPRISINGLY best thing about being gay?" I received over 50 answers and thought I'd share some:
4/14/2012 07:41:40 am
To have finally found the piece of me that was missing. It wasn't him itt was me. I am finally together.
4/14/2012 09:28:47 am
I will never forget my first girl on girl kiss. I was trembling from head to toe. Overwhelmed. Feeling everything fall away from me. Completely exposed. Complete surrender. It felt so unbelievably RIGHT! And every kiss thereafter has been just as intense as the first!
4/14/2012 11:19:54 am
i love being a 100% Gold Star Lesbian because it's showed me who's important to have in my life. When I was comming out I lost friends and gained more new ones. After my first girlfriend I lost more old friends an lost trust with others. But what I learned was worth it. Family was different because a lot of them disowned me or don't accept me being gay. Even with my parents we've become more distant. But I'm hoping that will change in time.
4/14/2012 11:36:44 am
I completely relate to the discovery that you like fashion! My whole life, I always looked longingly at the boys clothing sections. Growing up, my sister was always very girly and into clothes, but I couldn't care less. So, I just thought it wasn't something I enjoyed. Coming out, mostly to myself, freed me up to start playing around with more masculine clothing, and I've discovered that I really am a bit of a fashionista.
4/14/2012 05:21:59 pm
I got way more in touch with my femininity after a terrible post-"coming out" month of awkward fashions. I finally realized that being lesbian doesn't look a certain way...but it sure does feel nice :)
4/15/2012 02:44:53 am
Not needing the constant reassurances from my straight girly friends that I'm one of them and I don't stand out. I'm so happy and comfortable standing out, I don't feel like I need to blend into a crowd anymore.
4/15/2012 08:15:39 am
Readin those 50 comments was invigorating, and inspiring. Not all of them resonated with me, but it highlighted the fact that I love belonging to a wonderfuly diverse community.
4/15/2012 09:05:08 am
Being out has empowered me to claim my voice in the world; to speak up for not just myself, but for those too afraid or tortured or bullied to fight back on their own. In choosing to be free of the dark lies of the closet, we bring light and justice to the world. I remember when being queer and female meant you were mentally ill and were sent away to be "cured" with electroshock therapy or just plain rape. That's when I started to carry a blade... Didn't take the guys too long to get the message.
4/19/2012 10:41:58 am
Coming out and finally being true to myself has meant that I can finally be comfortable in MY skin. Not the many skins that other people have expectes me to wear. I onky wish I had the courage to hve come out in my early teens like the young people today...I feel like I have missed out on so many experiences and feelings. It has been great finally putting on my REAL skin and showin it off to the whole world.
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