It's only been about 12 hours since I sent you the url of this blog. During that time, I've checked my email about 20 times to see if you've written back. Boy, was it hard to send that. I'm not sure why. Maybe I'm afraid you won't like my writing, or that you won't like the topics, or that the whole "butch" thing will weird you out. I mentioned this to a friend, who suggested I write a letter to you on the blog. I thought it was an awesome idea, so here I am.
I hope you weren't upset about that last post (or any of the others). Reading over it, it occurred to me that sometimes we like to talk about the challenging parts of our upbringing. Being (semi-)confident adults, it's interesting to look back and ponder the ways we didn't fit in as a kid. I think it helps us make sense of who we are, and how we got here. But sometimes the negative or neutral stuff is so elucidating that we don't focus as much on the positive stuff. I've been thinking about that positive stuff a lot today, and wanted to thank you for a bunch of things, including the following:
There's more, of course, but lists should always have a nice round number of items. What if I'd written a list with 6 items? Or worse, 13? Preposterous.
Anyhow, Mom, this Butch Wonders thing is going pretty well. It's been up for only a few months, and I'm getting at least 300 readers every day, and growing. Yesterday was 642. Kate Clinton (a famous lesbian comedian) recently endorsed me on her Facebook page, and I also got an invitation to do a radio interview in October. Not bad, eh? I'm really enjoying it. I get to hear from readers (gay, straight, male, female) from all over the place. The best part is when I learn that something I wrote affected them: helped them come out to their parents, resolve a conflict with their girlfriend, or even figure out what to wear to a wedding. It's really amazing to feel like I'm making a difference (especially since my day job can, as you know, be pretty abstract).
I hope to hear back from you soon, and I hope you don't mind hundreds of strangers reading my note to you.
8/7/2011 04:51:25 am
i am so glad that there are women out there that have had very good relationships with there "MOM's". i don't think my mom really give a sh**t about my sexuallity one way or another except how it affects her, which changes all the time. i have not seen my mother in over 22 years and i have not spoken to her on the phone in over 15 years and she wrote to my sisters and i last month and we told her that our family was whole the way it was and to not contact us again.
8/7/2011 08:25:29 am
To BW's Mom... for what it's worth. I think your kid is pretty neat. Not only is She articulate, funny and kind, and a heck of a writer, She's also a wonderful asset to our community, especially with her advise to "our kids". So like I said, for what it's worth, whatever your part.... You have a lot to be proud of, good job!
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