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How Much Do Age Differences Really Matter?

1/31/2012

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_Rachel Maddow and her partner, Susan Mikula (both pictured left) are 15 years apart.  So are Ellen and Portia.  My DGF and I also have an age gap of over a decade.  While May-December (or even May-October) romances can present occasional challenges, they can also be awesome. 

How big of an age difference is too big?

The unofficial formula is the "half your age plus seven" rule.  So if you're 30, the rule goes, the youngest person you should date is 22 (since 30/2 = 15, and 15+7 = 22).  When you're 44, the cutoff would be 29.  At 58, it would be 36, and so on.  And while this is a silly formula, it reveals an interesting truth: the older you get, the less age differences matter.  An 18-year-old and a 32-year-old are 14 years apart, but these 14 years encompass a huge gap in experiences.  Take those same 14 years, 30 years later, and you've got a 48-year-old and a 62-year-old.  Sure, there are still some differences, but the gap has definitely shrunk.

Age gaps tend to be more accepted in the queer community than they are in general.  Maybe this is because we're already doing something that differs from the norm, so an age difference on top of it is just icing on the deviance cake.  Or maybe it has to do with the gendered tendency in age differences among heterosexual couples.  Demi and Ashton notwithstanding, the "older man, younger woman" scenario is much more common than the reverse.  This pattern tends to reinforce gender inequalities and stereotypes in a way that queer relationships can't.  Or maybe it has something to do with child-rearing.  On average, fewer queers (especially gay men) have kids, so maybe people care less about age gaps when no little kidlets are involved.

As far as I'm concerned, barring illegality, there's no such thing as an age difference being "too big" unless it presents problems for the couple.  The bigger the differences, the more potential problems.  But the key word is potential.  Particular problems may or may not materialize for any given couple.  Here are a few of the most common ones:
  • Differences in energy levels.  If one partner wants to climb mountains and the other can barely climb stairs, this may be an Issue.  Of course, age doesn't necessarily dictate energy levels.  My mom told me recently about her 70-something friend who was complaining one day about being sore.  My mom thought, "Oh, that poor thing...  the aches and pains of getting old."  But then the woman continued, "I really need to avoid doing my five-mile hikes on consecutive days"(!).
  • Health problems.  The older you get, the more likely you are to have health problems.  This is a generality, but on average, it's true.  If you end up with someone much older than you are, chances are that your partner will face a serious health concern before you do.  This worry may or may not be a deal breaker.  My DGF asked me once, "Are you going to want to change my diapers in 30 years?"  My answer: "If we've been together for 30 years, of course I'll change your diapers."
  • Cultural differences.  Maybe you grew up on "Barney," but she remembers "Captain Kangaroo."  Maybe you slow-danced to Color Me Badd in sixth grade, while she danced to it at her first marriage.  These kinds of cultural differences can be funny, bizarre, or depressing--it all depends how you interpret them.  Personally, I love that my DGF and I were raised in different decades.  It gives us even more to learn from each other.  Sounds trite, but it's true.
  • Life Stages.  Like differences in health, life stages are correlated with age.  (But "are correlated" doesn't mean "correspond perfectly.")  If one of you is hitting your stride in your career and the other is just starting grad school, it may take a little extra effort to appreciate where your sweetheart's at.
Bottom line: Age is not "all in your head"--but what you make of it is.  It's a factor that may or may not have important implications.  Like differences of religion, social class, or cultural background, it's worth taking seriously to help you understand and strengthen your relationship.

Six Relationship Tips for Couples with Age Differences:
  1. Hang out with other couples that are both your ages.  If one of you is 31 and the other is 49, make sure to spend time with couples in their early thirties and in their mid-to-late forties.  This way, neither of you will feel habitually left out because of age, and you might also gain some additional perspective about your partner by seeing where her peers are at, what interests them, etc.  (You might also try hanging out with people whose ages or lifestyles are very different from both of yours--it will underscore how much you have in common!)
  2. Don't cast your own age as superior.  If you're the older partner, a "been there, done that" attitude toward your partner's experiences is not useful.  Maybe you have extra insight, but that doesn't mean you know everything there is to know about your partner's situation.  Similarly, if you're the younger partner, don't assume you're inherently cooler or more savvy.  Treat each other as equals.  Your own experience is not better or more valid simply because it happened more recently (or longer ago).  And relatedly:
  3. Embrace your different experiences.  Talk about each others' childhoods, music preferences, school experiences, etc.  You have a lot to learn from each other.  Be open to each others' cultural preferences.  Maybe this means you take turns deciding what movie to watch or what music to listen to.  Try to understand and appreciate your partner's aesthetic sensibilities, even if you don't always share them.
  4. Talk about your goals.  This is good advice for all couples, but it's especially important for May-December (or even July-October) pairs.  Do you want to have kids?  Buy a house?  Retire?  Travel?  Make sure your partner knows what's important to you, and where you see yourself in one year, or five, or ten.  Just because someone is 39 doesn't mean her biological clock is ticking, and just because someone is 22 doesn't mean she wants to go clubbing.  Make sure your ideas about your partner's goals and desires don't rest on assumptions.
  5. Listen to everyone else, then ignore them.  Your daughter may be uncomfortable that you're dating someone her age.  Your friends may not see why you'd be with a woman who hasn't gone dancing since Tribe 8 was hot.  They may openly question your motives, or your partner's motives, or your sanity.  Listen to their concerns, answer their questions, and completely disregard their judgments.  Only you know what makes you happy.  
  6. Don't hide your partner away.  To avoid people's judgments and criticism, it may be tempting not to socialize with your partner as much as you might if you were the same age.  Early in the relationship, fine: you want to make sure it's working for you.  But once you see that it is, don't hesitate to show your partner around town and introduce her to your friends and family.  If she makes you happy, the people who really care about you will eventually recognize this, and will get to know your partner for who she is.

Your turn, readers: have you ever been in a relationship with an age difference?  Did the age gap bring any special perks or challenges?  What do you think about big age differences in relationships?

347 Comments
Kim Anderson
1/31/2012 04:14:22 am

im 27 and my partner is 48... 21 yrs apart. age does not matter to us. only how we make eachother feel.

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Clare
3/6/2013 08:39:26 pm

Im about to get in to a relationship with someone who is 20 years olders than me does it really work have you faced any problems! Also he has daughters a little younger than me do you think this will work out for me?

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Robin
10/7/2013 02:10:41 am

Hi Clare,

Just wanted to let you know my situation. My wife is 24 yrs younger than me and I have a son her age and a daughter 2 yrs younger than my wife. We got married in 2010 and so far so good. My son doesn't and hasn't lived with us (he had moved out long before her and I got together) and my daughter had issues with it at first but got use to it. She lived with us for 2 yrs while she finished college.

Other than people being embarrassed when they assume I'm her mom :-) we have not had any problems.

Our biggest problem is I'm an introvert and she's an extrovert. I never enjoyed the bar scene and she does at times.

Kev
12/21/2013 09:29:19 pm

I've been with my wife for 10 years and married since 2010. If you'd have asked me 6 weeks ago I would have said age matters not. Now after almost losing the love of my life I'm not so sure anymore. She's just decided that maybe in years to come sheay want things I won't be able to give. We've always got on so very well and from September this year I started noticing subtle signs that all wasn't well. Only she can decide if it's worth working at and staying together for another 10 or 20 years. But if it's somebody more her own age she needs to grow old together, I'm unable to fill that void. So very sad at the moment as we've had 10 good years and it may be ending because of something I can do nothing about, age. If I was to turn back the clock I'd still marry her as she's my soul mate. A lot of relationships struggle to reach 10 years, we've enjoyed but the age gap may now spell the end. I sincerely hope not but time will tell. In a nutshell though I would say if you make each other happy, have a go who knows what's round the corner

Jeremy
4/1/2014 07:25:04 pm

Hi Clare
I see this post is about a year old but im wondering did you go for the relationship and if so how is it going so far? I think 20 years age gap is to much. I feel the maximum should be 13 years. Someone 20 years older than you to me would be like dating someone the same age as my mom or dad which I would not want to do. Plus the fact that he has daughters younger a little younger than you I assume however they are still within your age bracket. I think that would look a little odd. But that's my opinion. But good luck to you in which ever path you chose.

kunsl
12/22/2014 11:44:51 pm

it will never work think carefully someone else might have been loving you

Yuniz link
1/5/2015 04:25:01 pm

Hi Clare! Im 24 and my husband is 44. I met him here in Norway. I came here in Norway to study last year and met him by our commin friends. I was thinking about him after that, as in MANY TIMES. Then he got my number from my friend and started calling me and sending me messages. We were going on a group date first because I don't want to go with him alone and suddenly discovered that he has a 16 year old daughter but he is unmarried. I doubted and scared to immerse my life with him at first because of his daughter. And he's always telling me that she is 18 soon and she'll be leaving. And her daughter leaves with her mom, 1 hr drive from our city. Now she goes to college and is always sleeping at home but my husband is not here because he is working outside the city and is just home at weekends. It's just hard dealing with a foreigner teenager because of mood swings that sometimes I just want to pack my things and go home to Philippines. And when my husband and his daughter are together, it seems like I DON'T EXIST.. You know that feeling, out of place? Despite of all the things i did to her, she has never appreciated it.

Haley
1/15/2015 01:37:25 am

Hi I'm Haley,
I had an 19 year old ask me out I'm 11 and I really like him I said no and he asked me out again now we are 8 years apart but I said yes I was willing to take a chance to be with some one he's never saw me he said he loved the way I acted emotionally not the way I looked the he said ok and he texted me and said he didn't wanna hurt me cause I did the same to him but he couldn't do it does any one think I should go in and try to ask him out now I said we would be friends but I really like him please help me

Mary
3/24/2015 11:30:54 am

Hi Clare,
I'm currently in a relationship where I am 21 years older than my boyfriend. I am 46 & will be 47 in May, my boyfriend is 25 & will be 26 in July. We have been living together for almost 18 months. He was married before & so was I, the difference is I have 4 children & he doesn't have any of his own. My oldest is almost a year older than him. My other 3 are younger. He accepts my children & loves them & they love & respect him. Each one of my children tell me all the time how much he loves me & is the best thing that has ever happened to me. We have or differences but we work through them together. His Mom is like my best friend. I am a year older than her but she doesn't see the age difference between me & her son. She is happy that he is happy. It may be hard for his kids to accept you at first but don't give up. My boyfriend is the VERY BEST THING (BESIDES MY KIDS) THAT HAS EVER HAPPENED TO ME. Hang in there.

safwan link
9/11/2015 11:29:14 am

hi

Tim
2/15/2017 03:59:22 pm

Retired military 56 and a 27 yr old has fallen for me and you can say want you want. She is highly intelligent and we are great together..... It's what she wants and besides she's a very mature woman...

Andy
4/2/2017 04:21:59 pm

I'm 41 and in love with a 19!year old girl who I love more than life I can't explain it I have never been Attracted to younger women before it was like a bolt of lightning hit me a and she is the most beautifully girl I have ever seen

Dan
4/5/2017 05:51:12 pm

Me and my wife are 20 years apart. I met her when she was 19 years old and I was 39. We Dated for a year or so then she made me marry her...yes made me...she came by my work and told me if I didn't marry her not to come home so I took off and married her. For the first five years we were happy then she became pregnant and after having our child she started] cheating with everyone we knew. I never stop loving her but it had a real bad effect on me. I have don't feel like a man I feel so like I am not good enough. She even fell in love with someone else. But some how we are back together. I have lost most everything good about me and don't know why I have took her back. she swears she will never hurt me again but I cant have sex with her anymore and know she will soon step out and this time would do me in but what are you to do

waleed kamal
8/19/2017 03:01:37 am

Yes

Boo
10/3/2018 06:34:54 pm

Wait until your partner is older and needs to be cared for. Wow! What a responsibility. What a selfish man!

Julio roseRosen
5/5/2019 10:17:57 am

I'm 50 my live in Daughter is 20 and for some reason i have been in 3 Sexual relationships with 20--23 YEAR OLD women. My daughter definitely does not approve. Her friend came over one night when she knew my daughter wasn't home and basically Seduced me (didn't take much) we have had sex around 15 timest since but I didn't tell my daughter

Crystle
3/11/2013 04:56:16 am

Im 28 y/o dating a woman who is going to be 52 this year. I don't feel that there isn't anything wrong. I am physically and emotionally attracted to her. I don't mind the occasional stares, when we go out. I care about her a lot. We have a lot in common. The matureity level is there.

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mike evans
9/27/2013 10:24:33 am

fuck no---go for it

Simon
6/2/2014 05:17:22 am

People who has not experience this are against the big age gap, while people like myself with a significant age gap have no problems whatsoever! The point is, people will have their own opinions but at the end of the day, it's whatever makes you both happy!

Fran link
1/14/2015 02:20:08 pm

Hi ! Crystle I am 59 and Adam is 30. I love the man dearly, but I'm always struggling with me being so much older. He is so in love with me & I him . I'm having a truff time . He is not . However , if it was me being the younger one , I would feel better . Maybe it's a woman thing . Guess when you come down to it's what makes you happy . I'm a widow for 9 years . My husband was 20 years older then me ! I love an older man . Never saw me ever being with a younger one . He's my mechanic . I'm enjoying what time we spend together . He wants to marry me . I'm just not there . Thanks for sharing !

kerry
3/7/2015 11:58:00 pm

i would say go for it! As long as you two are happy thats whats important!

kerron mcfall link
3/8/2015 12:02:12 am

As long as you two are happy go for it! Thats whats important

eric
3/21/2015 05:18:59 am

My girlfriend is 17 I'm 24. I've dated girls my own age and older but, I've never been in love with a girl until I met her. Her parents will probably not accept out relationship and because of this I've never met them and she hasn't told them about me. We plan on living together when she turms 18.

Dauseana
5/28/2015 03:37:03 am

I'm 40 and my boyfriend for over a year is 21. We are very deep in love and have a wonderful relationship. Things are going great. He's very mature and seems to be wise beyond his years. At first when he ask me out I ask his age and told him it would never happen. He constantly pursued and I eventually saw him for the wonderful young man he is and fell in love. I've never been more happy and the relationship seems to grow stronger everyday. My advise to anyway in a relationship of great age diffrence is don't focus on age just focus on the relationship. You can both learn alot from one another.

ANONYMOUS
7/26/2015 05:48:50 pm

Hi, I'm Anonymous ... I am 10 yrs in love with someone 17 yrs, we do joke around alot.. but the thing is we know each other online. And I'm scared to even talk to him sometimes, he does act like a pervert, but it's not the bad kind, he also does protect me, and I feel really safe around him... I'm a minor, and he's young adult. I feel really uncomfortable but my 16 yr old gal friend who's my best friend tells me go for it.

Janet
7/20/2016 03:51:48 am

As you both get older there are always problems usually men who are older than their spouse speciallly over 15 yrs difference they lose interest in her as time goes by look at Demi Moore & young guy she married now divorced he got with girl his own age. Really something to think about.

Ron
8/29/2018 09:41:08 pm

I'm 55 and my girlfriend is 20. I love her so much I push her away. By doing this back and forth. Now she was tried of all the stuff I put her thought I have lost her. I really would anything to get her back. I told her that I would change but she has her Belief that I would not. I'm giving her some time to think. But I think it's over and I'm missable. Can someone help me get answers.

Ruth
7/30/2019 06:36:13 am

I am a 55 year old woman in a similar situation. Married to my 28 year old husband and we are both very happy. We are the perfect match. As far as our sex lives, my drive is very strong and staying trim and fit is the reason. Most people guess me to be early 40's and him to be late thirties. Age is a number, that's all ! Marry that older woman, it could be the best move you ever made !!

Adrienne
2/16/2014 10:16:50 am

M age difference is 17 years........ I'm 15. Is it even worth waiting for

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ally link
2/26/2014 09:45:27 am

Same with me but its 16 years and I'm 14, I've never been happier and ill wait as long as I have to for him.

Marc
2/16/2015 03:27:02 pm

I'm 15 and I fell in love with someone 21 years old. This girl shares almost all interests with me, my soul mate is a couple years older, who cares. I will wait till we're legal and I will ask her out. Love is blind, to age, looks, society. Love wants what it wants. Its stubborn. Whats wrong with spoiling it every once in awhile? This girl, Nicole, she has a life to live so I won't bother her now but when I am able I will get her. I will fight for her from whatever guy thinks he even stand in her presence. She who lights up like the forth of july. She is a goddess. She's incredible in every which way. I don't care about age. Society does. So i will wait for the sake of humanity. If you find love, why not give it a try.

kaitlynn
2/25/2015 11:08:45 am

Yes! It is always worth waiting for!! I am 15 and I'm in love with someone with a 6 yr difference. If you love him; fucking go for it!!

emily swift
9/1/2015 02:30:19 pm

i am 24 while my fiance is 50..i had been in a relationship with a guy of my age for 7 years before i met my fiance but it never worked out for us...i had to let go of him..i am happy with my present relationship..despite doubts i feel that as long as you want it you should go for it

Inewman link
2/25/2018 11:47:56 pm

I think your sexy.

antonio
4/21/2019 01:32:09 am

I wish I could reply to Haley and to the 10 year old girl directly....MANY< NOT ALL BUT MANY, people who look for 10 or 11 year olds for relationships are perverted, you should stay away from those men both of you, for your safety.

as for you, Adrienne I see you would be 19 by now, if you love him, go for it. wish you luck! God bless you, dear.

Fred
1/26/2020 03:32:54 pm

I'm male, 27, and think of this what you must but this is good news to me. I often find girls in high school amazingly beautiful, of course, and am feeling horrible that society puts that pressure on not going for that- but I try when it arrises. I dont think theyre pretty beCAUse they're that young, it's just like with any other girl. I haven't been with a girl in 8 years and have so much student debt I can't take it anymore. It's almost like I'm in prison.

Barbara
8/9/2014 01:27:40 pm

im 46 boyfrierd is 24 been togeter for 9 yeras

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annette
5/13/2015 07:52:26 pm

I'm 41 and am attracted to a 20 year old man/boy. I have been struggling with this and have not carried it on. But he pursues me and I'm afraid. I look ten years younger but the truth is that I'm not :-( I'm so confused. When I'm 60 he'll be 40! Sometimes I say that I should live the moment and not look so far into the future and sometimes I do.

Anonymous
7/26/2015 05:45:00 pm

What the fuck... this comment had me dead laughing xD

fran
3/7/2016 09:17:25 pm

People are gonna talk. Let them. It's your life, live it. I love my guy. I'm 59, he is 37. I've never been happier. Age don't matter!

Antonio
4/21/2019 01:37:15 am

Im sorry but if you were a male, everyone would have been eating you apart since you started dating when he was 15, a minor. suddenly since you are a woman people don't say a thing. I will: this is DOUBLE STANDARD and if men go to jail for this, you should have too. Or if you didn't, neither should men who date 15 year old girls either. equal rights for everyone.

ryan
8/21/2014 11:51:04 am

thanks that's nice to here, I just hope that my friend feels the same about me. Question what if one of you wants to go out alone or more than the other is that a problem?

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Leah
1/2/2015 03:18:57 am

What was your age difference?

Deannah
5/7/2015 04:56:16 am

My name is Deannah I was 17 when I married my husband James he was 35 at the time. We are still married and I'm about to be 20 and he will be 38. I love him with all my heart and he loves me. Age is just a number in my personal opinion.

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Melly
5/24/2015 12:37:51 am

this gives me so much hope

Alex
11/7/2015 07:59:13 pm

im 17 me boyfriend is 38 i love him soooo much we meet when i was 15 he was 36, sadly im sooo scared of telling my parents my therapist isn't to happy about it either and my friends don't care for him either and i really really don't know what else to do but wait about another 7 months till he comes put here to meet me and introduce him to my parents and hopefully it works out. yes we are long distance but we Skype whenever we get the chance and kik all the time. is is really such a bad thing for me to be in love with a guy that i haven't even met in person yet?

Amelie
6/2/2016 11:07:57 pm

we have 14 years age gap of my boyfriend . I love him so much and i think maturity does matter and not the age. age doesnt matter. we have a lot of common interests. I don't care what people say or think. it's our life and don't let people bring you down or break you. To all peopel out there who's dating a big difference age gap: DONT BE EMBARRASSED TO SHOW OFF YOUR PARTNER. Dont let words bring you down. cheers xoxo

Rei
6/6/2016 07:05:22 am

Hello Deannah I was so happy and relieved to read your post. I am 31 and in love with a girl who is 17 yrs old. We talk and message all day everyday. Ive never been in love before but i just know shes the one. I havent said anything though. I keep telling myself to wait till shes 18 but i just fell like im going to lose her if i dont say something. Just to let her know how I feel.

Randy
6/20/2015 06:41:02 am

I am 40 and my wife is 32. On paper not a real lot of difference but bc I haver over 250 female friends on facebook she is upset with me HD my womanizing. Almost everyone is saying that I am having emotional affairs all over the map. My father was abusive to my mother when I was a child but now he places my mother on a pedestal. I guess I am being mentally abusive to my wife, not leaving any marks like my grandfather or my dad did, but destructive all the same. There must be something wrong with me as I should know better bc I am a psychiatrist. Maybe I should be with someone closer to my age....or maybe I love my mother too much unhealthily.

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lisa anaya
8/16/2015 04:55:00 am

Im a women 48 and my partern is 29 he wants kids and he doesnt have any yet. I cant give him any. Should i worry?

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Teresa link
8/29/2015 10:01:15 am

Hell yes! I'm 57 but look 43, my boyfriend is 52 and he wants children, he's never had any. Though I started IVF process at 53, he didn't show up for the appointment. This week he told me our past 5 yrs were a waste of time and we've been together too long. He also said he wished he had never got divorced from his previous wife who was 36. He was with her for 10 years but didn't have children. She just had a child with another man. I feel demeaned and disgusted. So I meant nothing to him. He wants me to move out. We have split everything down the middle since day one.

Carol
9/17/2015 02:01:07 pm

My parter and I are 25 years apart. The only people it ever mattered to was Other People! We've been together 10 years

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Michelle
10/28/2015 01:06:46 am

Oh thank God another normal couple-;) I hate that everyone around us complains to my bf about our age difference I am 41 and he is almost 22...

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Melissa
11/24/2015 09:06:25 am

What if one wants children and the other does not. situation: Man 31 woman 48...woman can't have children but man wants them.

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Xav
7/11/2017 02:46:15 am

Im in the same situation. Im 24 and shes 31.

Mark d
1/7/2016 07:04:22 am

Ok so I'm 31 and I'm 13 years older the the girl I like but I'm scared of the judgement. Her parents don't know my age and I don't want to make it official due to the law what should I do I can't help who I have feelings for and she has them for me as well. But the gap is big and it worries me

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PREETI RUHIL
3/9/2016 04:50:29 am

really is that so....

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valerie owens
8/25/2016 06:41:16 pm

I'm with you, I'm 50 and my partner is 27 yes old we have been together 2 yes and our relationship keeps growing and getting stronger

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Laura
10/11/2016 06:53:10 pm

I'm a twenty year old female, and the man I am seeing is forty six. There are, without a doubt, extreme differences between he and I, and finding time to get together is often difficult. I'm a student and he has a job and full custody of a child from a previous marriage. When we do get together, it's nothing but bliss. We stay in and watch whatever's new on Netflix. We go out and eat, we dress up, we dress down, we laugh and talk about absolutely everything. Our experiences absolutely differ, but never has this weakened our relationship in any way. On the contrary, it gives us even more to talk about. Never once has he pressured me into anything. Never once have I pressured him into anything. When we go out, sometimes he pays, some days I pay. This is not about sex or money, it's just pure. He's my best friend. I would admire him just the same were he 55 or 25. It's absolutely imperative to approach these sorts of "age gap relationships" with extreme caution and to look for warning signs of dismay. But in some cases, pursuing the one you admire despite age or judgment from others can really really pay off. All of my best to everyone!

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Rolled
11/2/2016 01:53:37 pm

Hey there I need some help figuring this out I'm 17 old I just got a bad relationship between me and my ex I'm in highschool 10th grade I really really like this girl who we are 4 years apart I'm the older one she younger one so it is ok

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I have no name
8/26/2018 02:55:59 pm

I don't see a problem with it. My crush is going to be 18 in May 2019, and Im 14. Without a doubt it sucks! I want nothing more than to be with him, and he did want to be with me (his parents said no, so r.i.p me) People can see it as a problem, but I don't understand why. I would understand why, if I had a crush on a 25- 30 year old man. But we're both teenagers.

Francis
9/25/2017 06:51:04 pm

Need more info

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Gia Dellapenna
7/15/2018 01:03:13 pm

I am a 31 year old woman and I am dating a 22 year old man

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julio Rosenberg
8/9/2019 10:27:55 am

I don't think age matter's as long as the people in the relationship don't have a problem with it. In 2001 I was 36 and a 18 year old woman told me she feels I am a attractive, loving man. It's 2019 and we are still together married with 3 children and she is 18 years younger than me.

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Vic
8/5/2020 06:07:56 am

I’m 64 and my gf is 22 we are getting along just fine , so don’t worry about age when u are in love ,, age is just a number :)

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Teisha
12/26/2020 06:19:19 pm

As long the age is legal that all that matter

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Leah
12/26/2020 06:22:37 pm

I’m in long distance relationship and we have a 24 year age gap in the older one his younger as that matter that his love me and I love him that all that matter and people opinion doesn’t matter too us

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Roderick Michano
7/12/2022 10:39:46 pm

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Angie
1/31/2012 04:17:17 am

I have always believed age is just a number and I have been mature my entire life so being with women who are 10 years plus older than me is just natural for me. :) I might be 22 but I have the mind and maturity of a 30 year old. always have. Very Interesting Points! :)

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Joslyn C link
1/31/2012 04:19:07 am

Actually, I'm in a relationship now where the age difference has been on everyone's mind since the beginning...my girlfriend and I are five years apart. That doesn't sound like a whole hell of a lot to people until they hear that I was seventeen when we started dating. It seems to have gotten easier as we've (but in particular, I've) gotten older, because other people no longer see our relationship as one where they automatically think I'm being taken advantage of (or, conversely, that my girlfriend is immature.)

However, I've always dated older people, and never had a problem with it (aside from normal relationship issues) so I truly believe that age only matters if you let it.

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Sam
12/11/2012 12:27:43 pm

^^^ same here I'm 18 and my girlfriend is 23 I was 17 when we got together .. And sometimes is hard maybe cause are age but idk then again it can be other things

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Laura
12/23/2015 04:00:29 pm

Im 23 years old my boyfriend is 17 in feb 5 2016 his gonna 18 years old its bad me being with him in some point i love him alot i have 2 kids and im divorce and he got a babyboy but im scared tp get in troble with the law cause his younger

Femme
1/31/2012 04:23:16 am

I had an 8 year relationship with an 11 year age difference. #4 was discussed from the beginning. We were synced and having a blast. Then she grew to old for our agreements and I had never changed. Agreements and life goals change with time. I think major checking in's about goals and objectives with major age differences are integral now retrospectively. Every 5, 7 10 years? Some things change from sync to non negotiable's. Important to note; how far can we stretch with time? Sometimes the older we get our world narrows and sometimes like your mothers friend were taking 5 mile hikes back to back. Stretchy is integral just as honoring your core.

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hurr
7/10/2018 03:04:42 pm

I am 53 and he's 24...We were together for 3 GREAT YEARS! So t thought. I would come home early from work n catch other women in my bed... He said that he still loves me but he was bored...i left him and never looked back... He now won't leave me alone. I guess that you never know what you got till it's GONE! Love my life more now. Good luck to everyone.

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janette
8/30/2018 08:41:06 pm

Wow!That's cool.Do you children who are as old as your man?

Zed link
1/31/2012 05:14:27 am

I'll be 5o this year and K-Chop (haha, yeah, I love that, thanks for suggesting it) will be what, 42 I think. So far, it hasn't been an issue, with the exception of me worrying about it being unfair to her, draggin' around an old crone in a few years, lol. But, we'll cross that bridge when we come to it. No one has said a word about our age difference so far. And it has not brought up any difficulties.

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inotowok
1/31/2012 05:50:56 am

what does dgf stand for?

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Butch Wonders link
1/31/2012 07:39:06 am

DGF = dear girlfriend. It's the pseudonym I use on the blog to refer to my girlfriend. And DXH = dear ex-husband.

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Chele Yue
1/31/2012 06:48:42 am

I am 49 my partner 30 we are lucky in a sense that we both enjoy the same music, movies, activities so far there has been nothing to come up because of age we do kid about it though.

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Sherry
8/17/2018 09:34:15 am

Hello Chele

I am a 37 female and was recently introduced to a 49year old man. We weren't formerly introduced but our friends know we're both single, so my friend gave him my contact number with my permission of course. But at the time I thought he was in his early to mid forties so I agreed to have him contact me. Now I'm not sure anymore. The age difference is not the problem, it's his age. When I think 49, automatically 50 pops into my head. What did you do and how did you make it work with your partner? Just to note I'm from Trinidad in the Caribbean. A country in which a person is jidged by the simplest things. Could you give some advice?

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Caro link
1/31/2012 12:10:05 pm

Was with a soul 30 years older than me when I was in my 20's and loved the age gap . . . not that we were often aware of it. But, sometimes 2 different sensibilities, levels of experience and energy, and sets of cultural references can be expanding and exciting. Plus, I'm a sucker for a bit of mothering. We lasted a good while and are still great friends. On the other hand, dating a woman 20 years younger was going fine until she looked at my bookshelves and asked,"Who's Margaret Thatcher?" (Yep, sometimes ya just gonna feel your age!)

I think it has more to do with both of you having the same enthusiasm for life and love. Heck, there are 70 year-old's who are more vibrant, fun and exciting than some of the 30 year-old's I've worked with. I figure date the woman who makes your toes wiggle and sort out the issues as you go . . . because, irrespective of age, there will always be the odd issue :)

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whittany link
3/6/2015 12:52:34 pm

Hi i am whittany i am 22 years old and this guy that likes me he's 55 years old would it be a age difference or shall i give him a try.

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courtney
3/21/2015 09:28:57 am

Go for it!!!!! This website has been giving me hope I am 13 years old and in love with and 32 year old aka lil wayne plus ima be a rapper so I happy

Cindy
2/1/2012 03:27:08 am

I've never had an issue before, most ladies were usually 5 or so years younger than me. But recently when I was dating, I met a girl that I fell head over heels for. Only to look down at her hands and she had an "X" on them(we met a club, she was from out of town). And no matter how much we clicked, I was conflicted in my head. And here's the reason why:
My sister is 10 years older than me and she has a daughter that is 10 years younger than me. So knowing that I had just saw my niece off to college. The girl was 20 and so I felt very awkward at that moment. Well anyhow things didn't work out because of long distance relationships. I guess maybe my own morales keep me from doing that but I have no issue with others. Guess the saying is true: "You are your own harshest critic."

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maddox link
2/1/2012 08:46:40 am

My gf and I are 8 months apart. We met in college and she was 2 years behind me. I really enjoy that we have the same cultural background, and that our goals are not only in-line but we hit major milestones very closely together.

But even though we are both in our young 20's, we hang out mostly with people / couples in their 30's and 40's, so I think that says a lot about our own internal ages.

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Love, Femme link
2/1/2012 08:53:57 am

I usually only date older, but the relationship I am in now there is a four year age difference with me being the senior. I have to remind myself at times that I was at my other halves place in life when I was their age and cut them a little slack. I have gotten where I am today (good job, decent car, living on my own) in the last four years, I just need to allow them to reach that point on their own time.

We work well together, very complementary of each other.

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K-Chop
2/1/2012 04:14:26 pm

You give really good & interesting insights on dealing with age gaps. In my relationship we're within "the formula" and I don't see any problem. I think my older partner has more energy and silliness than I do, most of the time! And yet she's got these things she knows and these experiences that I have never known, so she teaches me, if I want that. I've dated people 10 yrs younger than me and (long ago) someone 25 years older. Nobody could ever influence my decision. I'm law abiding but I don't care for arbitrary social norms, that's for sure. I think when I was dating younger people than myself, I'd tend to feel flattered, as in "I've still got it," but as I mature I find that I don't need that shallow reinforcement anymore, and I'd rather be with someone whose experience and maturity are a complement to my own.

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Catmo
2/2/2012 07:51:01 pm

As always....awesome.

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lily
2/3/2012 12:34:29 pm

I'm a 21 year old femme & have been dating a 16-years-older butch for more than a year. Things are just fine so far...I'm a bit of an old lady (don't like to stay out late, don't drink much, I knit) and she's got some standard peter pan syndrome so we meet somewhere in the middle. I think the cultural generation difference stuff is hilarious! Like a lot of young US queers, I romanticize the early 90s and its fun for me to be able to participate in those memories vicariously through her.
Large age difference relationships have been a part of queer life ever since one could speak of such a thing, and I think its also something important to a number of people's- past and present- experiences with butch-femme in particular. Living a queer life is often about building a family and re-making all sorts of relationships that we didn't get to choose the first time around.

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Zelda
4/15/2015 11:13:32 am

I totally relate to this post. I am 28 and my fiancé is 44 and the age difference is never a problem bc we both happen to be at the same place in our lives right now. I've also always been pretty mature, which maybe helps. Moreover, there is definitely no issue with us being from different generations--it's actually perfect bc my fiancé grew up in the 80s-90s and I totally romanticize that era as well. Even more, my fiancé's taste in movies and music are probably more current than mine so it all works out. Been together for 5 years and engaged for over a year now. I definitely see it as my best relationship and see us as soul mates. Age isn't the issue, in my opinion. It's the people.

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Zelda
4/15/2015 11:21:49 am

I totally relate to this post. I am 28 and My fiancé is 44. Age has never been an issue for us. We have been together for five years and engaged for over a year now and I know that my fiancé is definitely my soulmate. I also Romanticize the 80s and 90s, and since he grew up in the 80s and 90s we have a lot in common. Moreover, he seems to have more of a taste for today's movies music and movies than I do, which makes things even better. I don't think age is what matters, but instead it's personalities that ruin or make relationships.

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beelisty link
2/3/2012 02:45:57 pm

my partner and i are 11 years apart and doing awesome.

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Chipmunk link
2/10/2014 12:30:42 pm

Hi :3 i know im too young to date ;~; (14) my life was more of tripping over and over again, than smiling actually being able to stand on 2 feet by my own.. it was never easy, but besides that fact, ive never felt true love before ive met this guy who is 20 years of age. Is that too much ? He isnt the type who'd take advantage of me, because i know him very well. But im just not sure if thats a line a should cross, We're both lost in a worlds of problems. But together its like the world doesnt exist. Please help me :(

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Kitty link
2/26/2014 10:10:26 am

Thats okay I'm the same age and in love with a 31 year old. as long as your both commited and not embarassed of eachother.

Shianne
3/24/2014 05:31:18 am

15 and my lover is 11 years older than me and we get along great! Just be careful! I had true feelings for my ex before our relationship lasted 2 years he was 17 I was 13 we'll he left me for someone else and I had felt as if I wasn't ever going to forget then that's when my current love stepped in and we have been at this for 8 months yet it feels like we have known each other for years as long as you are comfortable and make sure to not get him in trouble

fsh.06
8/24/2014 09:49:11 am

LOVE HIM!!!

Blessing link
6/15/2015 03:41:14 pm

Ma bf is 35 years old am 20 nd he complains of d age diferent is too much I dnt wnt to loose hime I luv him so much

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moonscribe
3/9/2012 04:48:16 am

My last partner and I had a 20 year age difference, and are in hiatus at the moment, due to the disparity in ages and the stresses of a long-distance relationship.

As the older party, the age gap was often a big issue for me; although we love deeply and we were (are?) terrific friends, it added strains to the relationship. Two women at different life stages may find a long-term relationship difficult to work out.

Outcome remains to be seen, but we're both raw.

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moonscribe
4/24/2012 07:06:20 am

You may recall my previous comment about a relationship in flux due to age disparity, among other things. The differences proved insurmountable and we broke up two months ago, and I'm tentatively forming a relationship with a woman my age who I've known for half a year.

Personally, I would never consider a relationship with a much younger woman, again, as I don't feel I could get past the mothering default behaviour that was undermining the relationship from my end. Nurturing has a place in aloving relationship; mothering doesn't. I admire couples whe can navigate these relatonships and make them work.

Namaste Sisters <3

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Brittany
3/23/2015 05:30:07 am

I am 19 and I think I am in love with a 32 year old, so yes that is 13 years difference. I don't know what to do, I tried keeping a guard up bc of the age gap but he's treated me like no one ever has. It's not about sex to him its more than just that. He truly cares about my well being. I don't know how to tell my friends about him or if I should pursue him. I am still very young so how do I know if he is the one or if maybe there is someone else out there for me? I need some advice, I'm so torn.

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Courtneigh
8/14/2015 11:08:51 am

I was 17 when i met the man im with now, we have a 10 yr age difference, i have truly never felt anything for anyone like i do him. I am more mature than most my age & have alot of wants that he wishes to accomplish in life. He has been married before and also has one child of his own already. We had only been dating a month when we moved in together. We have now been together for three years and still going strong i am now 21 and he is 31 & age difference depends on what you make of it and if you let it bother you, need to be open with you differences. It comes with challenges at time but if you truely love them, then those will not matter, but for now we are amazing & trying to have a baby together.. hope all goes well for you

Chris
12/11/2016 08:14:14 am

I'm 42 and my lovely GF is 22, she tried to hide me from her friends and family for the first 8 months of our relationship due to her being embarrassed about our age gap. I knew it would eventually come out and that her hiding me may cause her problems with her family. Well, I was right, her friends seemed to get over it fast as soon as they got to know me, her family on the other hand was a bit harder of shell to crack, her Dad seems to be ok with it. He's a smart man, he steer's clear of it knowing that his daughter is smart enough to make her own decisions regarding her heart and knows that if she is happy then there is nothing wrong. I thought that her mother felt the same way until recently, my GF and I had a falling out, we took a break for a month so we each could sort some of our personal things out (nothing to do with the age gap). During this month apart I truly found myself not wanting to loose her for any reason and that how important she was in my life, we both discovered that we could not stand or even bare the thought of being without each other. During the the rekindling of our relationship her mother not knowing we were working things out, blurts out how uncomfortable she and "other" family members are when we are together! When I heard my GF tell me this my heart sank, I thought her mother and I got along great and there was never any animosity felt between us at all. I was literally hurt and so was my GF. Almost 3 years into our relationship and her mother has the guts to say this. Anyway, we are now back together, things have never been better, we love each other more than words can describe. I have never cared for anyone as much as I care for her, she is my best friend, my girlfriend, my partner in crime. We share many of the same interests and hobbies from skateboarding to 4x4ing to going to EDM festivals. People give us weird looks every once in awhile when we talk about each other when we are not together but as soon as they see us together it all makes sense. We joke around about the age gap with each other, sometimes we know the general public in a store or restaurant is trying to figure out if she's my daughter or niece, we quickly make it clear we are in fact together. We have fun with it. We take things in stride, we have both decided that we love each other too much to let petty attitudes about the age thing come between us, it is what it is. We can't help who we fall in love with, sometimes it just happens, if you have enough courage to stand up and say at the top of your lungs that you are indeed in love then I have to say go for it. I took the chance knowing that I may get my heart broken but I could not live with the regret of not letting her know how I felt. It hasn't always been easy but it has definitely been worthwhile.

Pat
5/30/2012 07:27:25 am

I've been in love with a woman 16 years older than me. I am a Mr. Rochester of sorts in that relationship, though. I certainly have my layers of history--notwithstanding, I loved her deeply. She lives in every bit of me. She's my soul. I'll love her forever.

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Frances
12/24/2013 05:42:26 pm

Awww. That's so sweet... I just fell in love with your remarks...

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jennifer
2/4/2014 01:47:37 pm

I am in love with my boyfriend who is 17 years younger thsn me...im 40 he is23...we ate broke up right now .....all the things my family & counsler said about age gap got to me and a few of his immature ways....i miss hin terribly and im still in love with him...

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jasmine
2/23/2015 08:04:44 am

Hey I wanna no how did that work out im 29 and I am n love with a 20 year old I mean I'm attractive can have any man I want but it was something about him but I feel low and weak right now I look at him and see a child but the sex is off the chain

Sara Larson
8/15/2017 12:19:09 am

I am in love with my 19 year old boyfriend also, and I am 41. I ended it today because I think he deserves a girl his own age and our families would never accept the age gap. But I love him entirely and I always will. I am heart broken now. I don't believe the age difference matters, but in reality it does. I hated having to decide to end our relationship today, but I know I am in love with him, so I'm just wanting to begin healing sooner rather than later. I so wish our age gap didn't matter but it does. Our worlds would end up destroying our love anyhow.

Suzie
8/3/2019 09:45:17 am

Hi Pat
Are you guys still together today?

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hollylynne
11/12/2012 06:36:00 am

i am 19 and my bf is almost 20 years older then me. we have known each other for 3 years and dated 2 of them (so far). i couldnt imagin life without him. oh...and hes also 4 hours away acrossed the border in canada. i always got lots of comments from my family and friends, but i think they now see how happy i am, and no matter what they say they wont change my mind. in a few years ill transfer up with him for my next stage of my college life. hashtag still going strong.

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Grim Ursa
1/5/2013 03:30:36 am

The love of my life was a woman 13 years my senior. We were together for 13 years. She is the person who's loved me more in my whole life, and the person that I've loved more. The age difference started to be noticeable by the end of our relationship, when she started to act not her age but much older. My sister is 15 years older than me and has a lot more of energy and stamina and hunger for life than I have; age is not the issue per se. I've concluded that age is an issue only if you give up and stop trying to be kind to each other and to encompass each other's needs. Just like in any other kind of relationship.

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CHARINNACHAROTERA link
1/14/2013 04:51:26 pm

FOR ME AGE DOESN'T MATTER,AS LONG AS YOU LOVE EACH OTHER....:)

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krissy
1/28/2013 07:14:58 am

My boyfriend and I are 22 years apart and I love him. Most of the time we get along great. The only thing I have found to be a strain is sex. I'm very sexual and he wants to be, but he has ED. Of course there are drugs to help with this, but they are expensive and I get to the point where I get discouraged. Anyone have any ideas. It has given me a complex as well.

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Lesdar Girl link
2/4/2013 11:07:42 pm

I think that there are no rules for love and no formula can help here.

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gilphas
8/26/2013 01:03:25 pm

i think we are puting boundries to justify our self of who we are ,again love does not have boarders

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Dion
2/7/2013 08:41:44 am

My girlfriend is almost 10 years younger. She's 38 and I am turning 48 next month. But I am super young and silly at heart and definately don't act my age. I do notice generational gaps regarding culture, I am in way better shape and health then she is, and she wants to get married someday when I have already been there and done that. And I do notice that some things that she gets upset about I simply don't have the time for, which is life lessons learned. But I've never been in realtionship with such honest communication, respect, and laughter. I love her and she makes me happy.

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robert
2/17/2013 08:21:17 am

me and my gf are 10 years apart she is 27 and i am 18 we have been dating for a year now we are closer than most couples and have a strong relationship which we hope lasts for decades to come

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Jewel
2/28/2013 03:13:26 pm

I'm 20 years of age and my boyfriend is 27. Hes my sisters friend and doesn't know we are dating yet. I'm kinda waiting on telling her and my parents just because I really don't know how to even start telling her. 2 years ago when him and I were just friends I remember him texting my sister telling her to tell me he says hello and she started going all crazy at me. She got bothered because she thought I had a thing with him. So now 2 years later I'm dating him but scared. Don't know what to do. My sister is 24 and he's 27. I don't care about the age difference but idk how to approach this situation

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Renee link
3/4/2013 08:46:54 am

I am 48 and my partner just turned 19. We are new in our relationship (4 months). I recently dated a woman who was 10 years younger, which lasted 4 years, and she had 4 children, that became an issue with our time together, and I left feeling already alone. My new partner has no children and is in the military, so distance will also eventually be an issue. She tells me YOLO (you only live once) when i hesitate at doing some things, so that makes me laugh and I forget some of my fears. I dont know how long this will last, but having more experience at dating women will help me overcome some things, but lack in tolerance of others. Im not afraid to love her and already expressed my feelings. We both agree we have a physical attraction to each other but also, I WANT AND NEED to establish a friendship into our relationship.

This was not planned. It was an ad that I published to make friends in the area, and it grew to this in a short time. I like to take time out between relationships. It was just an opportunity that I didn't think would yield any thing more, but we just click now. She is also beautiful and smart, not just a booty call. I even have introduced her to my family. Most of which are women, but I know there are feelings unsupported by a few. A friend reminded me: "Well, she is legal right?". My 83 year old mother says: "Just hang in there when it gets tough." My sister who just turned 50, asks: "So...are there times when the immaturity has no control and just comes out?" ...like for the reasons unknown I need to explain why life is the way it is???? Its weird what people think and will say. Thats to be expected, though.

I am not looking for acceptance, and I don't need to feel like im a younger version of myself. Until I met my current partner, I didn't think about my age, or getting older. I have so far held my looks and am considered attractive, so I am not afraid of showing her in public. I have a good job in construction and have always worked in unconventional jobs for women. So by natural response, I am not afraid of much. I am afraid to meet her mother though! I am 4 years older than she is (arggggg). I know as a parent I would wonder what my intentions were...lol. I am thinking of what I should tell her when we meet, and hope a preplanned response might be the best thing to prepare for our first meet.

As far as sex is concerned: of course!!! Its wonderful! But really...its not all that needs to be established here. I do have some questions for myself, like how long I think this will last. I do want some kind of commitment. I dont know what life has for me in the future, I just want to love the one Im with and take it slow to see where it goes. Not being desperate or too bored with dating women my own age, I have agreed to myself that when its time, I will have to let her go and eventually live my life as an old woman. YOLO...thats really what I think right now. Good luck to all those who risk nothing gained.

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girl-from-potsdam
7/20/2013 07:29:16 pm

Wow! I thought that I was alone. I'm currently dating someone who's 44 years old. I am just 21. She's really special to me, and I guess, I am as well to her. It's been a year now, and I can see myself spending my life with her. Our preferences may differ alot, but I do believe that opposites do attract, and that's why we've held on to our relationship for so long already.

I will not deny that I am sucker for the mothering kind, but it's not good for a thriving relationship. Nurturing will do, but less mothering. LOL.

Your story is wonderful. I wish you all the best, and to your partner. Both of you are so brave! I want to introduce my sweetheart to my relatives as well, but now isn't the right time, but rest assured that I will fight for our love, and if they can't be happy for me, then I shouldn't mind what they think.

Oh, it isn't just our age that differs, it is also with the cultural aspect as well. She is a european who lives in the US, and I am partly asian. I enjoy everything she shares with me, her experiences, point of view, EVERYTHING. I am a chef apprentice in a 5 star hotel, and it is the passion and love for food that we have in common.

She knits as well, and she has a church group that caters to giving back to the needy. She is inspiring and such a good influence to me.

She's a bit insecure about her looks, but I tell her everyday that she's beautiful the way she is, and there isn't a day as well that I forget to tell her that I love her.

I pray and hope that in the future, it would still be her and me. I cannot let go of her anymore, cos she has captured my heart.

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winter
3/19/2013 11:55:23 pm

My partner and I are 40 years difference in age and we get along great, we fell in love and love conquers all..At first it was a little difficult as people seen only the dad and son thing but now see that we are happy and living a wonderful life, we are now in the 5th year of our relationship and we still love and respect each other...age is just time, but time is the fruit, enjoy life and life will enjoy you...

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Summer
3/31/2013 11:25:03 am

hey i've got a problem i'm 17 almost 18 and i'm in love with someone of 13 almost 14 years old and she's in love aswell but i wonder if this is wrong? can anyone give me hints please?

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Butch Wonders link
4/21/2013 12:46:55 pm

My hint? Stay away until she's of whatever age consent is where you live. Four years is no big deal when you're older, but an 18-year-old dating a 14-year-old is just NOT a good idea--for lots of reasons. Even when she's 16 and you're 20, it will be easier.

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Star
10/27/2013 06:29:09 am

I met this adorable girl recently, she is a young senior and I am a freshman...in my head it seems wrong, for a freshman and a senior to go out. But when I think of us together it seems so normal, and amazing. We have only talked so far, but its pretty flirty, I am not sure if she knows my age, although she has been on my face book and it says my age there. I feel like I owe her the respect to let her know I am only a freshman, but I am not totally sure what to do. What if she is okay with it? Im so confused...

Blue
2/20/2014 10:51:42 pm

If ye truly love each other and are willing to make it work I don't understand why ye shouldn't be together

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Sara
4/10/2013 08:41:07 am

I'm 22, going on 23 in a month (female) and I'm in love with a guy twice my age at 44, but does it really work?!

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Grace
4/20/2013 01:38:50 am

I am an 18 year old girl, gonna turn 19 in a couple weeks, and my boyfriend I've been dating for 4 months is 34. The age difference is 16 years. No one can understand why he is with me, they think he shouldn't be dating someone my age. I love him a lot and he never fails to remind me that he loves me too.

I'd been talking to him as just friends for about 7 months before we got together and I fell in love with him at a similar time he fell for me. I do worry about whether the age difference will cause any problems for us. It hasn't so far, except for the fact my family are very wary of him and what his motives are.

Also, he is my first boyfriend, whereas he has had quite a few girlfriends before me and sometimes he will occasionally talk about one of them and it makes me feel really uncomfortable :(

I want us to work but I can't help but worry... the fact that theres 300 miles between us isn't all that great either.

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rupen
9/9/2014 05:31:22 pm

hi would like to know if u married him. i am in the same situation and very confused

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Lexi
1/29/2015 09:48:20 pm

Hi. I'm 11 and I have a boyfriend who is a year younger than me. (I know I am too young to date but I am) I know that it isn't the same as being 16 years apart but I have the same problem with distance. I live about 300-400 miles away from him. We are cyber schooled and only see each other at field trips and email each other. To be honest, the distance isn't a problem to us. So my tip with the distance thing is don't worry. If you keep in contact with each other and know there is nothing wrong, than I think you should be alright. :-)

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Marie
5/10/2013 06:40:43 am

My Wife is 26 years older than me! It's awesome... She's so wise and let's me experince things and make the mistakes I have to in my twenties!

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Girl88
5/12/2013 04:52:03 pm

I am 26 years old and I had romantic relations with a man, who was 62. It sounds creazy for many people, but we really have a lot of common, especially in terms of academic interests, nationality and language. Its not about money or some financial/career benefits.But when we met, we had been married and this didn't let our story to go on. Now we are just friends, but his effect on my life still is huge. we just desided to lock our feelings to each other inside themselves, because otherwise it would be hard to say lie to our spouces day by day......Its hard to have relations if you work in the same institution, as we do, and our collegues arround the country we live are familiar with both of us.This is like a trap....so a friendship is only an option for us, unfortunatelly...

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ElevenYears&Counting
5/23/2013 03:29:01 pm

My partner and I are 31 yrs apart in age. She was retiring as I was graduating college. We will have been together for 11 years in July. There are bumpy roads in any committed relationship.

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Jessica
6/1/2013 06:07:56 pm

So I am a 22 year old girl & just met a 19 year old boy. We have been together for a few weeks now and we really enjoy each others company. I really like him but this 3 year difference is throwing me offf especially because im the girl and it will be hard for him to even come out with me and my friends. People have already been laughing about him being younger (sexist) Should I leave now before it gets more serious or anyone think I am making it too much of a big deal? ...

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Ali
12/9/2014 07:38:23 am

are u kidding that's nothing jessica

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Rebell
9/10/2016 03:15:22 pm

Hi there me and my wife are 3 years apart. Hey I'm 37 and she is 40 and we have been married a 11 year come the 25 of this month. So dont over think the 3 years go for and I will tell you that you would be really happy.

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Michelle
6/4/2013 10:44:03 am

I am 50 and my partner is 29. I do notice differences when it comes to partying etc......I did all that in my 20's. She likes to have friends over more than I do.....which could be a personality thing as well but I don't have that need. SOmetimes I have NO idea what she is talking about.....lol . Around technology or "memes". But I am in love with this young woman. She makes me laugh a lot. We somehow are muddling through living together for 6 months.

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clera
6/8/2013 05:14:24 pm

heyy I’m a 23 year old girl and I’m seeing a 36 year old man… the age gap is more than 10 years… but I’m already out of college, so is this acceptable?

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bridget
7/10/2013 11:56:27 pm

my boyfriend is 38 and I'm 23.. so yes I think its totally acceptable but then again who has the right to tell us what's right or wrong. as long as we're happy. it gets rough at times especially when it comes to his children. hope we can both shed some light on this for each other!

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S.N.
9/30/2013 09:37:43 pm

I am 26 and I met a man 39 recently. I think he fall in me. Should I go for it? He is really a good man and my dream man as well. but now we have the age gap and we are different in race. so basically I have 2 issues to solve now.

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mandie
6/25/2013 12:42:48 pm

I'm a 25 year old woman and my partner is 46. We have been together for 5 years now. We have went through all of these. Even people who know us still stare at use when we go out in public. The worse thing that has happened to us is the fact that my father disowned me because of our age difference. That made my partner stop and think. Did she really wanna take my father away from me. But over time he got to know her and accept the fact that our love for one another is true, and age has nothing to do with anything. Now 5 years later he is even happier with our relationship because we just announced that we are expecting our first child and his very first grand child. In all ends people will get used to the age difference once they see how happy people are together. I know from experience, I wouldn't change who I'm with or where I'm at for anything!!! I not only have the love of my life right beside me, but we are both coming into the next chapter of our relationsh! Which is hhaving our first child together. We both knew from the beginning this is what we wanted, it just takes time and love to get to that right moment!!

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Nicole
1/2/2014 02:10:13 pm

I dated a man 21 years my senior in my late 20's. Now, we reconnected and regret that we let so many get in the way of being together. 16 years later, I still love him and we love and laugh like we are in high school! I wasn't one to believe in soul mates, but I think I have one. He was the one then and now. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise. Let it play out, or else the risk of hurting another person when you reconnect is brutal to the hearts of all involved. If it doesn't wok, okay. But those who interfere are only solidifying the relationship in the long run.

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Anna
1/5/2014 02:05:36 am

Good for you Nicole. I am so glad for you. Better late than never. The guy I like I am 31 yrs older than him. While together we had amazing sex, cared and cherished each other. Now he is back in his country and I miss him dearly. The one thing I know is I will not interfere with his life. He does write very endearing things to me on face book. I know he cares for me by the way he writes to me. Time will tell. Good luck I know things will work out and I do believe you have found your soul mate.

Marcie
6/27/2013 06:26:34 am

I'm 20 years old, the AMAZING woman I am dating is 13 years older than me. I love her very much, we went through hell to be together...we finally got what we deserved, which was each other! she has made me mature and I keep her young.

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Matteo
6/29/2013 07:55:03 am

I'm only 19 years old guy and my girlfriend is 28. We've been together for two years now and we love each other a lot, no matter what others think. She says she would like to marry me and have children with me.

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Megan
7/10/2013 11:46:23 pm

My boyfriend and I are 18 years apart. I'm 23 and he is 38. he has a 12. year old son and a 17 year old daughter. his son loves me but has made harsh comments. his daughter. pretty much hates the situation and can be very hateful. its stressful at times but I love him so very much.

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dennid
7/14/2013 01:46:31 pm

Im 45 she is 27 she broke ot off om to old for her, i love her and there is nothing i can do!

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amanda
7/16/2013 11:28:02 am

I'm 30, He's 48,we've been togather 5 years but haven't had sex in 3 years, is this normal

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Amanda
7/16/2013 11:29:49 am

I'm 30 He's 48 we been togather 5 years but haven't had sex in 3 years is this normal

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jessica
12/27/2013 07:31:38 pm

Um no honey its not. A sexual combined with emotional & intellectual relationship is very important. Have you talked to him about why? My husband had a tumor in his testical he waited to long & after surgery could no longer preform. Maybe it is a health issue.

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Jennifer
7/16/2013 05:12:49 pm

My siblings are both 15-16 years older than me and they're my best friends so I feel like I fit in more with people that much older than me. Which is exactly why I feel like this could work.

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Cam
7/24/2013 03:30:30 pm

So, I have a problem. I have been with my boyfriend for almost a year now, and we love each other just so much. The problem is that I'm 19, and he's 38. Not a lot of people know about him, including my family. They're going to be horrified, I know it. But the bigger issue is, it's just so hard to date someone over 21 when you're not. He's always meeting up with friends to go out for drinks, or even after dinner, going for drinks at nice places. But when it comes to me, we'll go out, have dinner, and he'll mention that he would like to get drinks, or he went to the same place for drinks with his friends. It's just a part of his life, as it is with many people. However, I feel extremely limited, and it gets me down that I cannot take part in his social life. We both enjoy exploring drinks, going out, all of that, but I cannot. This results in me being excluded from his social life, always. But whenever I bring it up to him, I don't think he can understand how I feel. He says it makes him upset too, but it doesn't sounds sincere. I'm feeling like our relationship is more of a private, intimate one, and I want to be able to go out with him, and be part of his public life. But his response is always "don't worry, someday we will". It's very discouraging. But since he already has the ability to, and has no restrictions, I find it difficult for him to understand how I feel, so it will continue to be no big to him. Advice please??? Maybe it's jealousy?

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Blue link
7/31/2013 01:39:04 am

Hi im, nearly 17 and the person Im dating is 14;. there are 2 years and 7 months between us is that wrong ?

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Jose
8/5/2013 10:43:23 am

I'm 22 she's 39 . Age is not an issue To me . All that matters is what makes us happy! Yes I do get the occasional stair, but who cares there not the ones making me happy it's the person besides me that has my hart!!!!!<3

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Charlie
8/9/2013 07:40:07 am

I am 24 and my fella is 35 known him 8 yrs through work been going out 3. I Already had a baby boy when we finally plucked up the courage to do something about our feelings and he has since adopted him and we've had a daughter together. Age wasn't an issue with friends and family my dad is 13 years older then my mum so they couldn't say anything (they're still very much in love) and we both have such a varied age in friends that we both getting great with each others friends alot of which have just become mutual. Relationships fail all the time of its not age its something else. All I know Is if you work together you work if not you don't regardless of age. He's going fully grey now and I'm still getting asked for ID when we go out but I couldn't be happier with anyone else. He's my best friend makes me laugh so much were big old kids together and I don't ever see us changing. I joke about his age sometimes but I don't look at him and see a number I just see the love of my life and I'm so glad he finds me as interesting as I find him. I hope we are as happy as my mum and dad.Also my grandma was 7 years older then my grandad and they were with each other for lif

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Peter
9/4/2013 04:01:54 am

I'm 50 my wife is 27 we have a beautiful 15 month old son , all I can say is she's the woman I always wanted.. Yes we have our fights but never about age
I love my life with this woman ..

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diana
9/4/2013 09:19:43 am

I am just beginning a relationship with an older woman than myself ...66/52 we are also a long distance friendship from a date site..I am relocating to her state....She is pretty well set...I told her that I want to DATE when I get there and I plan to live separately....Because she is more mature in yrs...I suggested it and she was very much in agreement rather than land on her front door step and move in....Now that I am bringing sensual aspects of a shared relationship through my age group and hers....she has been celibate for almost 20 yrs..as we talk and text while I am still far...I try to introduce sex, romance etc...to pre bring her up to speed, you know put some spark in the ol Gal...lol and it is working to the point that she says it will be so difficult to keep her hands off me...when we are finally in person..my Q. is how do I keep her at a distance so we can do what we agreed....take it slow and just relax and DATE ?.......Diana

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Hiba
9/21/2013 04:58:54 am

I'm 15 and i'm in love with my personal trainer which is 32 which is 16 years older than me i guess. He's attracted to me too, but i'm not sure if this is right. I'm mature enough for my age tho.

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Beth
10/22/2013 11:14:29 pm

At 15 you are TOO YOUNG to be in a relationship with a 32 year old. AND....it is illegal!!

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Nicole
2/5/2014 12:27:53 pm

Not ok!!!!!!

Sam
9/21/2013 12:46:45 pm

I'm 17 turning 18 and I like someone who's 14 years older than me and I think he likes me too. I want to say something without rueining our friendship. What should I do?

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Darlyn
9/24/2013 12:12:47 am

I'm 21 and my husband is 34, and I don't see myself with anybody else but him, but our age difference does bring a lot of argument, with him always thinking ill cheat or leave him for someone my age, we have two kids together and I'm trying to keep this family going, but his insecureness is making it hard for me.

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tess
10/4/2013 01:43:40 pm

My wife is 75 and I'm 37. Yes it is a 38 year difference. We've also been together for 17 years and have an 11 year old son.

We met through a friend of mine's mother. She had been married before and had two children (now 48 and 50) and was coming to the end of a very fulfilling career and I had no life experience except college. On paper we should not have worked out but we did and we do.
She has been my rock and I would not be the person I am today if it wasn't for her. Now as she gets older and I see the physical changes in her, of course I am concerned for her health and worry about being alone. I feel solid that no matter what life throws at us I'm ready and willing. She's my world, she's my family, she's my friend.

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jmay
6/20/2015 03:36:12 am

I am 62 I am very young at heart. But I have attracted a 31 year old man who is so mature like the age of 50.
We have so much in common and he so understands my heart.
I am afraid cause I could easily fall in love with him.

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jim
6/20/2015 10:27:18 am

Don't be afraid...... your heart knows what to do. If you respect his maturity and want him in your life you should let this happen. Life is too short...... you have to live your life.

Angelbabyface link
9/26/2020 07:30:51 pm

I have a person who is attracted to me he is 26 years old and wants to marry me I'm much older than him.

Angelbabyface link
9/26/2020 07:27:47 pm

I think this is beautiful, God bless you both.

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David
10/7/2013 07:33:16 am

I am a 59yr old man living with a 40yr old woman. We have been together 10yrs. At the start I was more concerned about the age difference than she was but as time went by it became less and less of an issue for me. Unfortunately our relationship has deteriorated in the last 3 years because I want to make the most of my life while I am still healthy and fit and she seems to have the attitude of the more senior person in the relationship i.e. to stay at home and vegetate rather than get out and live life. The situation has reached the point where we will probably have to separate, I still love her but I am so bored and un-stimulated in my relationship that I feel I will lose my zest for life if I stay with her.

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same love
10/14/2013 12:20:50 pm

Jw, I will be thirty in Feb. I have three kids I raise on my own because my ex wife left us. I am now dating a young man who will be twenty one in July. I am often mistaken for his father, and my oldest daughter will be eight in November. Is this scenario just to much to be acceptable?

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Max
10/15/2013 08:41:35 pm

I'm 33 and my girlfriend is 18. We have been talking online for a month and have been out together in person a couple times now. We both really care for each other deeply already and get along extremely well. Things got ugly after telling my parents about her though, they both told me its a horrible idea that I am with her and that I am sick for wanting a girl who is young enough to be my daughter and I must end it with her, then they started telling me once I meet her dad whom I haven't met yet, he is literally going to kill me. My moms eyes even started watering up. They made me promise Id leave her. I don't know what to do. I see so much potential with this girl despite the age gap but I don't want to cause anguish and pain for my parents either and now I'm also all scared to meet her dad. Should I be concerned for my safety? Is there a chance he going to hit me in the head with a baseball bat or something along those lines?!?. I gotta think most of you out there whom have 18 year old girls would be furious if they were with a guy almost twice there age. Especially the fathers out there, but I don't know this for sure since I don't have kids of my own yet. Just an assumption. Then there is the fact she was too scared to even tell her parents how old I was and lied by telling them I was 24. I can understand why she would be nervous, especially after the way my parents both reacted, but I wish she was honest with them because now it's going to be that much worse when they hear the truth. Well I'm hoping someone can help me in knowing what to do here. I know it sounds like a huge mess but I could definitely use some good honest advice on the matter. Thank you.

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RHS
8/2/2014 01:50:48 pm

"..I am sick for wanting a girl who is young enough to be my daughter...". My gf is 11 years 11 months (make that 12 years) younger. When anyone asks me such a question, I reply "Does anyone become a father at the age of 12?" However, this comeback line does not work if the age gap is over 20 years.

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Ryuko
2/25/2015 12:12:30 pm

I am dating someone 15 years older than me. I'm 25 and he's 40. We're both professionals and are hard working. He doesn't look 40 though. He's fit and very careful with his diet. He's always bothered by his physical appearance, white hair, that I might look for younger good looking men. I wish he wouldn't think of those things. I believe I am still unknown to his friends and family. I wish he knew a big question ib my mind: "Am I someone you wont get embarassed about?"
Well I mean, because he said I'm too young. I've been always proud of him and my friends and family knows about it.

Megan
10/29/2013 12:20:36 am

I'm 20y/o & my boyfriend on one year is 44 we have a great relationship honestly the best relationship I have ever had! A lot of people were shocked at first & had a lot of judgemental opinions but I know what I want & what makes me happy not to mention what's best for me! We get along perfectly always laughing and having a good time there is nothing wrong with being in love with an older man!

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Annie
11/7/2013 10:57:08 am

Im 20yr old woman and the man I seeing is 49yr so its 29 years apart. We laugth and smile all time. But we can't get togheter yet because his EX gf has not get over him and they having a 3 years old daughter togheter, and she is threatnig to take her away from him beacase this man is loving me and have stop loving her. So im just now sitting beside and watch how this is going

Have a wonderful life out there! I will see if i get lucky and get my man <3
hugs from sweden

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francesca
11/8/2013 08:25:56 am

Me and my boyfriend have been together nearly a year and 5 months there is a 38 year difference between our age I new I loved him the first time I'd met him, it was just so hard to say anything and I was scared of what my family would say or do my family still don't approve of me being with him but age doesn't matter to me and I love him dearly everyone has got there own life's and you only get one of them so don't let anybody tell you what to do with yours just go with your heart and if it means falling out with family like I have do it, they will realize in the end age is just a number nothing else, good luck guys!

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lees
11/13/2013 02:44:38 pm

It is amazing to see how many others are out there. My girl is always bringing up how her health could go down and she doesn't want me to waste my life taking care of her. There is only 13 years of a difference and I am 28. I know I would take care of her, but she would resent it. I just think real love is so rare it should be embraced and cherished for as long as it lasts. Maybe I am to idealistic. Because if she can't at least hope for the same thing then I fear my heart is about to be trampled. As she says I'm such a girl.

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S
11/15/2013 11:22:45 am

I'm 17 and my boyfriend is 26, Idk I just feel people around us is not agreeing about our relationship. But I LOVE HIM... so much

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LuckyK
11/17/2013 02:03:56 pm

I just happen to stumble onto this site thank GOD! It is so good to hear people that think this is good, great and not a sin for a change. I'm goings to be 20 in November and my (hopefully!!!!) Fiancé is 55. I love him so much and he would move heaven and earth for me if he could. The last couple of years I have been extremely sick and he has stod by my Side through it all. He is not rich and barely gets by with what he makes from his work men's comp but I still love him. He knows just what to say when I'm down and knowing that I can be there for someone is just amazing. I cannot Waite to become his wife and spend the rest of our life's together !

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Jennifer
11/20/2013 06:33:49 am

I am a 46 year old woman who is involved with a 21 year old man. We love each other dearly. We have so much in common we hardly notice an age difference. I don't look my age but I also don't feel or act my age. All of my friends are in their 20's. What is wrong with the world judging for something they don't understand?

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jamaine
12/25/2013 03:19:56 am

That's so true I'm dating my chap long he was 16 and I was 32 when we first met and started dating I'm now 38 and his now 21 and we now live together

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Tasha Marie
12/2/2013 02:40:43 am

I am 23 years old and muh boyfriend is 58 we were both married when we met 2 years ago but we decided to be together and it's going on a year in feb. we are both divorcing to be together and he has met muh whole family, but I have yet to meet anyone in his, he says when his divorce is final I will be by his side when it comes to family affairs but it's so hard because he's met everyone and even muh two kids and muh soon to be ex husband and I have yet to meet a brother or a parent, am I over thinking this? Is he ashamed to bring meh home to meet his family? I guess we will see after the divorce I juss don't want to think I threw muh whole life away for this man and thinking he was too but then doesn't and keeps meh hidden- we won't make it if we continue to hide and be ashamed- any advice, anyone else going through this?

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Beth
12/4/2013 04:30:18 am

Honey, If he cheated WITH you, he will cheat ON you.
If he is keeping you from his family, there is a reason. I hate to break it to you, but seems to me that you may have given up everything for something that isn't going to be the bed of roses that you thought it would be. Don't be surprised when YOU become the wife crying at home because he is screwing around with a younger woman. Once he tires of you, he will discard you just as he did his previous wife. And you cheated on your husband with him so chances are, you will do it to him down the road. Don't be surprised when there is no sympathy for your heartache. I don't believe in Karma, but if I did, her bus would be stopping at your house.

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Tasha Marie
12/6/2013 12:58:21 am

Since I have posted this we have had a heart to heart and going to his parents house for my Birthday/Christmas Day, our flights and Rental are paid for, so after I spoke to him on how I felt he called his parents and brother and said if they wanted him they were getting me too, and they agreed and so have all his brothers, everyone has changed their plans and we are all going to my boyfriends parents house in Oklahoma for The Holidays! I'm so happy and excited, he told me he was scared because once they meet me it will change how they see him and it will also get back to his soon to be ex wife and children and that's what he fears but he also says maybe one day they will come around, or maybe not but he is willing to take that chance! He was married for 32 years to this woman so I doubt he is going to go out and "exchange" me, he didn't mean to fall in live with me and cause all this pain and hurt for his family (and neither was I) but it is what it is, also, I will not be looking to do this over again to him with someone else, I came on here looking for answers- I know how we've gone about our relationship wasn't the best and karma has made it's way around believe you me, we've gone through a lot this past year and I'm sure much more to go, but I wouldn't have it any other way- this man brought me back to life and showed me what love really is and for that I'll pay any price two, three or ever ten times over- I love him with all my heart, and I know he feels the same- neither one of us would have taken such a big risk on one another juss to turn around and do it all over with someone else, so thanks for the advice and telling me something I've never heard before or haven't been told everyday since I took this leap of faith and love with him! It really means a lot to me that you were able to search you heart and be open to giving me real advice and helping out a younger woman/ older man relationship and not sounding exactly like all of our friends and family, that really meant a lot to me! -.- *sigh*

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Tasha Marie
12/6/2013 01:07:48 am

Since I have posted this we have had a heart to heart and going to his parents house for my Birthday/Christmas Day, our flights and Rental are paid for, so after I spoke to him on how I felt he called his parents and brother and said if they wanted him they were getting me too, and they agreed and so have all his brothers, everyone has changed their plans and we are all going to my boyfriends parents house in Oklahoma for The Holidays! I'm so happy and excited, he told me he was scared because once they meet me it will change how they see him and it will also get back to his soon to be ex wife and children and that's what he fears but he also says maybe one day they will come around, or maybe not but he is willing to take that chance! He was married for 32 years to this woman so I doubt he is going to go out and "exchange" me, he didn't mean to fall in live with me and cause all this pain and hurt for his family (and neither was I) but it is what it is, also, I will not be looking to do this over again to him with someone else, I came on here looking for answers- I know how we've gone about our relationship wasn't the best and karma has made it's way around believe you me, we've gone through a lot this past year and I'm sure much more to go, but I wouldn't have it any other way- this man brought me back to life and showed me what love really is and for that I'll pay any price two, three or ever ten times over- I love him with all my heart, and I know he feels the same- neither one of us would have taken such a big risk on one another juss to turn around and do it all over with someone else, so thanks for the advice and telling me something I've never heard before or haven't been told everyday since I took this leap of faith and love with him! It really means a lot to me that you were able to search you heart and be open to giving me real advice and helping out a younger woman/ older man relationship and not sounding exactly like all of our friends and family, that really meant a lot to me!-.- *Sigh* That's exactly what I was looking for when I posted a comment on this blog was more judgement! So thank you Beth, I see now that everyone who has posted on here gets a friendly ear and people to relate and helpful insight, where as you meet me with what? I won't be posting back on here and I wish the best to all of you and find what your looking for and get all the help you need! Please and Thank You!! Wishing You All The Very Best of Luck!!

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Beth
12/12/2013 01:02:39 am

I wasn't saying those things to be mean. I was saying them to let you know that chances are, that is how it will happen. I have been there. I was 19 and started seeing a man that is 20 years older than me. He left his wife of 20 years and kids to be with me. We stayed together for 6 years. At first, it was great, but then the trust issues came into play. He had a job where he had to be on call all of the time, I knew that going in because sometimes he would use that excuse to get away and see me. So when he would get a call during the middle of the night, I didn't know for sure if it really was an emergency or another woman. It got very stressful on both of us. If you can make this work, I wish you the best and I hope the best for all involved.
Luckily, my ex and I were able to remain friends and still are 20 years later. But it hurt a lot of people and I can never take that pain away from them. I hope things end up being different for you. Just don't expect them to love you right away, After 32 years, I am sure that they loved his ex and it is hurting them to lose her too.
Enjoy the time you have and make the best of it. Don't try too hard to make them accept you, they will on their on time.

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Joseph
12/16/2013 06:55:55 am

I am 25yo, asian, catholic, and on.. my BF is 47yo, German, Atheist, and on.. so basically we have nothing in common except Love and commitment.. And we've been together for 5years by now..

We had a lot of fight on the first 2years, but now we just get over it.. the key is compromise,, you know that relationship is about 2 people..

He can say that he flew over the continent just to get close to me, but i say it won't happen if i wasn't waiting for him..
I can say i am good looking, smart, energetic and young and i can simply pick another guy because they're waiting on the line, but he also can says he is good looking, has a lot of experience, mature and settle so he can easily choose another guy..

the point is....

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Just in love, link
12/22/2013 08:28:38 am

I'm 42 year in love with 25 yrs guy, he is so special that all my life, I have never felt any like his love and affection towards me, all I feel to my self am I doing something wrong loving a guy 17 yrs younger than me

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Dauseana
6/20/2015 10:54:25 am

I'm 40 and my boyfriend of over a year is 21. I felt the same way as you at first. But once the love strengthens and deepens it's not gone to be a issue at all

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Anna
12/25/2013 04:04:27 am

I am so glad I found this site. I am 58 yrs old and I was seeing a man that was 27. I have never looked my age and even right now people think I am 38 to 45. I take very good care of my skin.
He is a cousin to a cousin of mine, but nothing to me. My daughters one is 25 the other 29.

He came from another country with visa for 6 months and we became good friends. We did everything together, grocery shopping, cooking, short trips, and going out to eat. We did everything as a couple. We started having sex and it was great. I didn't tell daughters about him because I do not talk to my daughters about my relationships because in the past they have judged me.

He didn't want anything serious and actually I didn't either, but we built a close relationship. My thing is everyone close to me would ask oh is he your boyfriend? I was like he is my friend. I didn't know what to say because he wasn't a boyfriend, we had a lot of feelings for each other. These questions were awkward and I just hated hiding it.

He felt bad because my ex still lives upstairs, but like I told him I am tired of putting my life on hold because my ex refuses to leave. I was talking to one of my daughters female friends that was having problems because her boyfriend left. I told her I understood because I was seeing a guy and he had to leave to go back after 6 months.

I didn't think anything about it till about 1/2 hr later my eldest daughter called and chewed and told me off really bad. Than she gets on with they guy I was seeing and told him off. I was appalled. It got out of hand. The girl I had talked to is 31 yrs old. I can not believe she could not wait to get off the phone to embellished it for my daughter.

The sad thing it was 3 days before Christmas. She did not think how this would turn out. There was no one in danger so why did she not take into consideration xmas, my daughter.

What can I do my children are not talking to me.

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Ems link
3/24/2015 10:24:27 pm

Hi

I use to have the same problem ,my kids were against wht im doing but since Im happy i let them go because they choose to leasve ,I'm 52 nd he is turning 30 this year so is take it or leave it ,we are six year now ,people has talked but we are still together,they said I buying clothes for this man and this guy is working and they are busy drinking and smoking nyope and they claim that is because i dont leave right ,I tried to get jobs for them but they dont want to work ,I've decided to leave my life only because I lknow my rights,one otherthing people think thata when you having a relatioship with someone who is smaller than you his there for money or for something els ,thats not true yes some but not all of them ,love has no age it depend from those people how do they agree to this issue no need to confirm to the 3rd person .

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Ems
3/24/2015 10:25:48 pm

relax and leave your life

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Lexi
12/27/2013 10:26:59 am

Me and this guy are 6 years apart.He likes me as well and we want to start dating.I'm 14 and we promised that we wouldn't get physical until I was 18.Is that okay?

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Texx
12/27/2013 05:42:34 pm

im 20 and my bf is 46. we have been together for 6 months now and I am definitely in love. more than love. and as far as I can tell so is he. we tell eachother repeatedly throughout the days how much we love eachother. even going old school and writing poems. anyway...I never noticed our age difference until about a month in. he looks like hes in his 30s so I asked bc ppl were curious. I still didn't care but my mother had(has) huge issues with it. she doesn't complain as much anymore but she is very spiteful. the rest of my family was concerned but were happy for me. my only issue now is his family. I have met his parents and one of his sisters and so far no problem but heres the kicker..he wants me to celebrate Christmas with his family tomorrow and his children (19 and 20!) will be there. as you can see we are almost the same age as im turning 21 soon. I just feel as if this is gonna be real awkward. since he wants me to go I want to but I worry just the same. I hope it goes well..........wish me luck

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jessica
12/27/2013 07:15:12 pm

I am currently in a relationship with a 58 yr I am 36. We have been seeing each other for a little over 10 yrs. I could not possibly love someone more. With my life experience & his we make an interesting couple. Anyone who see's us always says we look good together. But... There is always a but.. we are not really together, I am married & so is he. Me 20 yrs him almost 30. We both have children. We both had & have strong convictions about our children. I was/am unwilling to destroy my children by divorce & he felt/feels the same. His daughter is about to graduate college & my youngest high school. So we got the children through schoo. It makes it so complicated but also not.!? We are both trapped in loveless marriage's. My husband cheated on me then shortly after got a tumor in his testical & could no longer "get up". That would not have been a deal breaker if he had only shown me some attention, there are ways but he chose to make me suffer to. We were in our early 20's when this happened. Sex is not everything but it is part of a healthy partnership & I did not have that, but also wasade to feel like it was me. Very unfair. I went to counciling alone & learned to deal but also how to co/parent without hurting the children. I feel like I sacrificed everything for my vows & him nothing. That's how I ended up meeting "Cole". I worked with him. We both worked crazy long hours & had a lot of time to talk. I know affairs are wrong. But my husband & I are like friends that happen to be parents that live in the same house but no real relationship for many years. We don't eben share a bed. That started because of conflicting schedules. "Cole" just about same but not. She stopped paying any attention to him she put everything before him & no longer cared for any sexual contact but seemed content with that & the 2 only co/parenting for sake of the children. He even sought counciling but she went once & refused to go again. Our circumstances are so similar. My concerns at this point is, is this all its ever going to be or after we get children through school we can be together. If we do, will it be the same? Or will we continue the affair in the same manner forever? Its crazy I know. Please don't be cruel. I need real advice & opinions. Thanks

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jessica
12/27/2013 07:24:57 pm

I forgot. We are 23 years apart. We are so passionate even after 10 years & love each other very much.

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Hazel
12/29/2013 12:42:05 am

I'm 32 and have always dated younger guys... it just seems like to me that older men or men my age just have too much going on .. I'm actually interested in someone who will be turning 21 next month (very intelligent) and I'll be 33 in April... 12 age difference and it does bug me but like I said I'm just not comfortable with older men or men my age... Do you think that's pushing it? Ugh I think I have a problem, smh lol.

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fiona
12/29/2013 04:49:03 am

hi i have married a Malaysian he is 29 i am 47 ,we have been married for nearly 2 years now ,I do love him but it hasnt been easy ,he is in my country and he has a visa though me ,i gave up a lot to be with him ,a 11 year partnership ,horses pets,a stable life really ,he has treated badly and celled me nasty names ,made me feel sad and depressed at times ,working with him has been a nightmare too ,i do have trust problems with him ,i have surported him when there was no work brought him car ,ute motor bike .so he can get to work ,The last time he celled me a name i asked him whats wrong with u really ,he told me to cut up ,he all ways seem to be angry with me even when i haven,t done nothing wrong ,i said to him if u cell me anymore names u can move out ,or i will ,he u move ,since then he has been good ,but is that what it takes to stop this ,i have left him before when the abuse,was bad ,but i came back he didnt change then ,and its been a long hall to now ,i do have a chance to go back to my horses etc and live that life i had ,i worried if i leave that and sell every thing ,he may go back to being Mr Nasty again .When we go out he does look at the younger chicks ,which is hard on me ,i have got used to it a bit now but its still there ,i wonder if he is just using me for a visa and once he get PR ,in my country he be gone .help what should i do stay or go back to the farm life or stay in town .i have no job at the moment .

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jessica
12/29/2013 10:20:47 am

You have to think of yourself. 2 years is too long for.any abuse. He is very much using you and he isn't very smart If anything he should be extra nice until he gets his papers. I would strongly suggest you ho back to the life you had & love before its too late. Love will come. In your case I don't think the age difference is the problem. That guy is a jerk & he won't change it will get worse until it changes you. Best of luck honey

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Justin
12/29/2013 10:50:41 am

Im 15 and Im in love with an eighteen year old. Do I have a chance?

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dave
12/30/2013 01:18:32 pm

I am 44 year old male and started dating a 22 year old female. She initiated the interaction with me (i actually look about 10 years younger than I am). I really thought when she knew my age it would be a turn off, but she cotnacted me since then and the relationship has so far blossomed. We have not intriduced each other to our families, I belvie it should defiantely wait to see where this relationship stands in the future. I am in excellent physical shape for my age, but I realize that the older I gt the more I have to work to stay in this shape. The one thing I fear is that eventually (like 30 years or so) I am going to be just an old guy that is no use to her. I belive that although for now the realtionship should be day to day, the future must be considered too.

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Victoria
1/1/2014 05:01:49 pm

Hi, I have known this man since I was 6 years old. He was my best friends brother, i am still close with her, and we have always gotten along so well. I have always been standoffish towards relationships because I am still pretty young but I feel like this man is my soul mate. We are 10 years apart. I am 16 and he is 26. I am still a virgin. He knows, accepts it, and does not try to pressure me into something I am not comfortable with. He is perfect. The only problem is that he has a daughter from a stupid and young marriage, and I feel like that will get in the way of our relationship and all the gossip we already get from being together. I need desperate advice on what I should do, and how I should handle the situation. Please, I need insight. Thank u!

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cv
1/17/2014 01:53:21 pm

Hi if he's pressuring you break up
Yes the daughter it probly will but your a strong person
Communicate if that doesn't work find some who won't presurre you real love you don't do that find some who appricates you

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allissa
1/12/2014 07:57:59 am

I. Am 26 yrs old and in love with a man that is 56 there is a big age difference but I don't care. We have been seeing each other for a long time. Now we are. Pregnant and people are judging us to the bitter end we are ignoring it but it's hard. We work together to so it makes it harder. But we love each other like crazy so life goes on....

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Gora
1/14/2014 01:08:30 am

!!!!!!!I NEED GUIDANCE.

Summary:
I am 28 and my gf's 34. We have been together for last 2 years. I don't wanna lose her coz she takes care of me and i wanna take care of her.

Big Facts: (Why I love her)
1. We spend quality time with each other
2. She loves cats and i love animals as well
3. Her biggest need is that she wants a family, the fact that i love.
4. She is from Ukraine, I am from India
5. She makes me feel smarter and pushes me to be social (what I am not) and intelligent (what i am)
6. she is who i believe can give me the love that i always needed from a potential wife.

Problems: (Please don`t judge me on these, I am a better person but very practical)
1. My mind can`t accept the fact that she is 6 years older then me.
2. For me physical attraction matters alot and I fear that she will look older in next few years and i'll lose interest in her.
3. If we are together, she will have a baby from me who might not be healthy pertaining to her age (34 now)
4. My mom is an orthodox, she is not willing to accept this. I will have to go against my whole family to be with her.
5. She is from Europe and I am from India, the culture difference could cause issues between us.
6. From the time I knew the meaning of marriage, I only think that a guy has to be older then his woman.
7. I keep thinking that I don`t love her and my love for her is like motherly love. I don`t know if i love her like gf-bf love, I have tried to think over and over but invain.
8. I always think that she is going to die before me, the fact that horrifies me.
9. I keep comparing her to younger girls.

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cv
1/17/2014 01:49:07 pm

I'm twenty and he's 46 we love each other but I live in visalia and he lives in medesto we been together for 10 months but he won't come to visit my parents he worried about the age difference its been 4 months since I seen him we talk every day I need advice about what to do

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maclaries
1/18/2014 02:11:22 pm

im dating a 58 year old and am 31 i fear to love i think he will live me to an younger woman too

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chris
11/6/2014 11:13:35 am

hey guys,my girlfriend is 22 i am 39 we so happy the only problem is her mother and i understand her concerns.its hard sometimes but at the end of the day its about us.we going through hard times i wish i would comment one-day saying shes my wife now.her family talk about me whenever they get time and its unfair cause i cant defend myself. love has to beat the odds.i am giving hope to someone who could be in my situation you're not alone if you believe go on make it work, dont give up you met for a reason.wish us good luck guys cause you will be the first to know if we made it to the altar...

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Mary
2/8/2014 02:56:23 am

So ,Im 20 year old girl (mature for my age) and my best guy friend for the past 9 years and i have gotten closer than usual ,In face we are sort of spending too much time together and that friend idea we both had is sort of going away, i mean we still feel that we are the same people looking out for the other and being funny and sarcastic and playing, but at time we get very close, but it work cause we can clearly say that we make each other happy.
My question is that if we ever decided to step up our relationship in a few years will the age difference of HIM BEING 28 affect ,the relationship??????? ..Right now i keep telling him that he being 28 and me 20 is making me left out !..but he thinks its fine .
Please help !!! advice plsss
thank you

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RZ link
1/20/2015 12:03:31 pm

Yes when he is 40 he will have midlife crisis and will go crazy. That is what my son in law did. He is now serial dating even younger girls all around town. He will be set in his way of thinking by 40 while you will still be growing.

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Chantelle
7/16/2015 01:58:54 pm

That Agee gap is sexy!
Embrace it. You being 8 years shy of his is normal. Honestly. I have a phenomenal beautiful age gap. I'm 19 from UK. My fiancé is 36 from Ohio. Met 3 years ago.. Been dating 9 months.

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Chipmunk link
2/10/2014 12:30:17 pm

Hi :3 i know im too young to date ;~; (14) my life was more of tripping over and over again, than smiling actually being able to stand on 2 feet by my own.. it was never easy, but besides that fact, ive never felt true love before ive met this guy who is 20 years of age. Is that too much ? He isnt the type who'd take advantage of me, because i know him very well. But im just not sure if thats a line a should cross, We're both lost in a worls of problems. But together its like the world doesnt exist. Please help me :(

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Jackie
2/16/2014 04:23:23 am

Help I am 10 years apart from my gf I'm 27 she's 37 my issue is here children. I think I made I huge mistake they are messy I am always cleaning after then those were most of our fights now it's about her spoiled disrespectful 21 year old daughter who has moved in to our home with her jobless boyfriend! I bump heads and honestly hate her daughter, I love my gf but I think it's best for me to leave even though I'm not one to give up but things just keep getting worse I wish her daughter would just leave but that's not my place it's better for me to leave when I tell my gf things that I dislike she just gets upset with me for complaining.

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Molly link
2/19/2014 09:08:31 pm

My close friend has started dating a girl who is 17 years younger. At first, I was a little taken aback! The new gf said things like "shizzle" and "amazeballs". But they are just gorgeous together, and the girl's energy and outlook compliment my older friend's to a tee. So I am a convert to age differences. It can work.

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mio
3/4/2014 07:01:26 pm

My boyfriend is 46 and I'm turning 24 this april. we have a 22year age gap. We are madly in love with each other but I find the age gap difficult. I'm not sure my family will accept the huge age gap. He's Japanese and I'm a filipina. I've dated other men my age but my connection with my 46 year old boyfriend is so great. I want to marry him someday.

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kneesh2014
3/9/2014 04:52:56 pm

Hi,I'm 22 who is happily married to my husband of one yr(may2013) both different nationality native&mexican)with my daughter who is now 2, we both have a good strong connection were both focused on my daughters future an life..she's the light of our lives an we just want the best for her. My husband is someone who is an amazing person an I'm truly blessed to have him I'm our lives(happy)

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Chris
4/2/2014 04:47:16 pm

Im English and 46 she is from the Philippines and 22. But never have the both of us felt such love before.We haven't known each for long but each day our love grows stronger.We will marry that we know is certain.And her Father and I get on so well we have only talked on the phone once but we hit it off immediately. That is so important to me and I know my Mum and Dad would love her if they still here.So anyone else reading this and pondering going for a big-age relationship-just go for it ! and I hope you have many fun and love-filled days together!

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theihaven
2/14/2015 09:46:08 pm

Same thing with me. I'm turning 25/filipina this year and my English bf will be 57 this March. We have huge age gap but I think it really doesn't matter for as long as I love him and he loves me too.

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Alexis
5/1/2014 12:09:18 am

My wife n I are 14 yrs apart. I am 34 and she is now 20. We met when she was just 18. She thought I was in my 20s and I thought she was in her 20s at least. We tried our hardest to avoid being around each other, because once I found out I was like she is so young how would it work. But I am glad I didn't listen to my fears because it turns out she is the one. After being divorced once I never thought I would want to ever remarry. I gave up on trying to find that real true love or as some say soulmate. We are now happiest have ever been and we are expecting our first baby soon. I have never viewed her as a child or someone of less worth just because of my age or hers. Communication is key we talk a lot about everything, she has made mistakes that are expected with being younger but she also has learned from them and sees now how serious real love have hurt if not cared for equally. To others in this situation I say give it time and patience.
The only downside I warn all to expect is you will lose family and friends over it most likely. But as I see it they weren't really family or friends if they don't want us around.

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NO NAME
5/15/2014 03:37:33 am

I WAS SEARCHING THE WEB FOR ANDWERS BECAUSE IM GOING THROUGH THE SAME THING IM 20 MY FIANCÉ IS 34 I BEEN WITH HER SENSE I WAS 19 AND WE GOT ENGAGED WITHIN 7 MONTHS OF OUR RELATIONSHIP AND ON TOP OF THAT I BEEN THROUGH HE'LL AND BACK OVER HER AND I QUESTION MYSELF ALOT AND IM VERY AWEAR THAT SHE HAS HAD HER LIFE ALREADY AND SHE ALSO HAS 3 HER OLDEST DAUGHTER IS 4 YEARS YOUNGER THEN ME WHICH ISN'T A PROBLEM AT ALL BUT READING WHAT U JUST WROTE MADE ME FEEL ALOT BETTER ABOUT MY RELATIONSHIP ALL THO MINE MAYBE ALITTLE MORE DIFFICULT BECAUSE SHE LIVES WIT SOMEONE AND SHE'S BEEN HURT SO MUCH THAT SHE DOESN'T NOTICE HOW LUCKY SHE IS AT THE MOMENT I NEEDED TO HEAR SOMETHING POSITIVE ABOUT A RELATIONSHIP LIKE MINE AND IN DUE TIME I HOPE THINGS GET BETTER

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katherine
8/20/2014 03:11:16 am

Thats amazing!! Congrats

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stephanie edy
5/6/2014 08:04:17 pm

Hi,am happy to come across this site,am very confused right now,my boyfriend just proposed to me,i like him a lot but I don't know if am on the right track,am 24 and he is 42,the difference is 18years. I have this fear that he would grow old and I may probably still be very young and would wanna do some young stuffs people do and my major concern is the fear of death,i feel he may die early because he smokes a lot,please I need your advice

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Tootie
5/13/2014 09:57:09 am

I am 17 & I am deeply In love with a man who is 28. We been together for 2 years & 2months now . Will this work forever with our age difference ?

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nina
6/4/2014 02:24:58 pm

I am in love with a man who is 18 yrs older.i am 27 him 45. We have known each other for 3 years. But only dating and really seeing other for the past 9 months. I have never been with some one who makes me so happy on the inside as much as he does. It's such a euphoric feeling being in love. One you can't explain.. even the thought of him brings a great smile to my face. A feeling you just want to shout and tell the world you love them. Such a great feeling! I love Todd! I am forever grateful for such a wonderful man!!

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Stew
6/10/2014 03:53:21 pm

I am 48 and my love in girlfriend is 64- it's rough for me- 16 yrs is alot- I see the and hear the talk- i am worried about the future-

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Bippu
6/11/2014 03:55:55 am

In the UK here, I am 41 and my beautiful gf is 17. We have been friends for 3 years, but in a relationship for 4 months. We are completely in love and make each other so very happy. We don’t have a problem with the age gap because we are compatible, and don’t see it as an issue for us. She is my equal, and we are each other’s advisor, best friend and soul mate. I did not truly know what the term “Other Half” actually meant until we fell in love. When we are apart, especially long distance, it does feel like half of me is missing.

I quickly learned who my real friends are, and they were accepting of us, declaring that love knows no boundaries and that as long as we are happy together then that is all that matters. There are quite a few people who are uncomfortable with it though, and they can be quite spiteful.

I love the advice given in the article “Listen to everyone, then ignore them” … perfect ☺ I am glad I found this page, because it has made us feel less alone in the world reading all the wonderful experiences here. I am sorry for those that have not worked out, but that can happen in any relationship, regardless of orientation or age.

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alisha
6/22/2014 01:03:04 pm

So happy I found this Page not feeling so alone.
My partner is 39 I'm 21 at the start the age did bother me but 8 months in I'm the happiest iv ever been, we're in a long distance relationship sometimes it's hard but we both say the time we do get to spend together means so much more. Age is just a number as long as your happy that is the main thing!

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sally
7/8/2014 05:06:42 am

I am 32 and my husband is 61. We have a wonderful marriage. He has 2 adult sons, 1 of which his family gives us plenty of trouble because we have a 7 year old and a 2 year old together. But we are happy and no one else matters.

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Geographer
7/13/2014 04:08:13 am

Hi, I'm very close with a 30 yr old girl and I'm a 17 yr old girl. We know nearly everything about each other and I really hope something could happen between us but she doesn't know I like girls and I'm not sure if she likes girls either. She's perfect and everything I want, I feel like I love her. I've known her around a year and really hope she feels the same. Is this age gap too much? Any tips etc. to help me decide if she likes me? Thanks

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Geographer
8/16/2014 08:15:58 pm

Not sure how to respond to everyone who kindly said they'd help me so if possible could either Kik me at chesni556 or my email is chesni556.cb@gmail.com. Thanks!

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Bowl
7/13/2014 09:30:35 pm

I am a man of 38 years and got me 5 years ago a new apartment. Besides me lived a widow of then 63 years, of African American descent. Starting from the first meeting there was that special feeling between her and me. The more we visited each other, the stronger that feeling grew.
She was alone and I was alone and it was, as saying, that a hug soon was followed by a kiss and a kiss was a step to physical intimacy. And that intimacy liked us both that well that we were more nights together than just slept alone.
The differences of age, descent, even her heavy weight (I'm pretty slim) could not affect the joy of our intimacy. To be honest, she knows how to arrouse me with her big, round body.
We were together so much that we have decided that i move in with her 3 years ago.
Her only daughter had objections at first but now she sees how fine her mother and I have with each other she has peace with it.
We're still a happy couple together.

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justin
7/19/2014 07:27:47 pm

I datrd a 68 yrold woman when I was 17 we were seeing eachother for nesrly 15 months till I went to uni .she now dates my brother who is 16.we are all in uk

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Lynn
8/17/2015 06:14:00 pm

Hi Justin, just wondering how the relationship is going for your brother and his lady friend....know of a similar relationship and would like someone to talk to. Thanks.

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Kyra
7/20/2014 07:10:08 am

I am 21 and my fiance is 41. He will be my second marriage. I met him 18 months ago while I was going through my divorce and we have been dating 17 of those months. And like every relationship we have our own ups and downs and reguardless of what everyone have ever say negative about us we keep driving on. I look at it like this as long as both of ya'll is happy. You'll opinion is the only ones that matter. Mark Twain said it best. "Age is an issue mind over matter. If you dont mind, it doesnt matter."

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lola
7/21/2014 11:18:50 am

I'm 20 and my partner is 36, a age difference of 16. I really don't mind age, but I'm scared how my family will react. I have a daughter she is 15 months although its not his, he doesn't mind and treats her like her own. I really love him, he makes me feel special in many ways. We have open communication, we talk about any problems rather than getting into arguments. A simple stroll in the park with him and my daughter is enough to make my day very special. He wants us to get together and me to move in with him, but I'm scared that my parent will have a cow.

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Nubies
7/31/2014 06:08:56 am

Well i am happy to know im not the only one out there my boyfriend and i are 7 years apart. I am 15 he will be 22. We worry about our families mine in particular i was wondering of there were any suggestions on how to break it to them we been friends for almost 3yrs now and we baarely made it official i love him and i know he does too but how do we tell our families??? :)

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me
8/2/2014 01:47:10 pm

my age difference is 7 years im 15 should i go for it i mean that anit bad

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Haley
1/15/2015 02:01:16 am

Hi I'm Haley, yes definitely go for it age is just a number now I'm not in a relationship but there's a person I strongly have feelings for and he is 8 years older then me he is 19 and I'm 11 which is kinda strange we were gonna date but we both felt weird I think if he really wants to date me he will wait at least I hope he will I say go for it age is just a number

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Krista
8/3/2014 12:58:30 am

I've been in a relationship with a wonderful guy who is 18 years my elder for going on 3 years. I'm 28 and he's 46. We're so happy together and compliment each other in so many ways. I really couldn't imagine my life without him.
We've had our ups and downs as any other couple would have. We have had the 'marriage' talk several times and 9 times out of 10 he's on board but sometimes he has this underlying doubt that he's holding me back from living my life. It's an insecurity that we're working through as a "May-November" couple. Neither of us have or want kids in the future but he has gone through a divorce before. We have the same morals and want the same things in life- he just is in a state of disbelief of some sort.
We love each other and have built this beautiful life together. I want to continue to fully commit to each other with building a marriage together but we just have to get over that one last hurdle. Any advice would be much appreciated :)

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Butter
8/9/2014 04:59:30 am

I am 20 will be 21 next month and my boyfriend just turned 44 a few days back. we have been together for almost two years now. at first everything was exciting and fun he would show me off to the world, call me as the day goes by every minute from work. now he ignores me sometimes.At times he dont answer my calls for the entire day...when he sees me the following day he acts like all is well.

i love my boyfriend with all my heart and i care about him but im afraid he dont understand what makes me happy. he dont want me to socialize and he socializes with his friends. sex is bad because im very sexual and he cums fast all the time and he dont pleasure me. i do not want to cheat but im afraid that i will in the future if things continue like this.

he dont talk about anything he dont know how to converse. we dont really hae fun. i feel like i am wasting my life with a man who have already lived and enjoyed his life...please help

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lola
8/17/2014 06:17:34 am

My family found put about my boyfriend. They all go by what rumors have been said. I know he has a daughter and I'm not against that but my family seems to think it's the end of the world, yet Im a single mother and so have my sisters. He doesn't pressure me into nothin g I don't want to do and I do love him. I want to leave everything and just pack my bags and leave with my daughter and him to his homeland. But I feel my family will forever hate me for that but I can't seem to make them understand that they have fallen in love once and if th eyes didn't fought for their love that's their problem but I don't want to let my happiness fall out of my hands.. what should I do? Someone has any advice?

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RUPEN
9/9/2014 06:22:40 pm

i am 24 and in love with a 40 year old man. he is a divorcee with a kid 10 years old. we are deeply in love with each other and wish to marry each other. pls advice me as i am not able to take any decision. many thanks

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cuddles64
9/14/2014 08:13:53 pm

I am soon to be and my boyfriend is 23 years younger than me at 27. My problem is that I am very ill with Rheumatoid Arthritis, type 2 diabetes and degenerative disk disease. He is Portuguese and isn't very good at speaking English. I feel like I am holding him back fro starting a life with a woman nearer his age and who can give him kids. We love each other very much and he says he only wants to be with me but he is very immature and needs to grow up a lot, how can we make this work? I feel like jacking in the towel as I am very tired from it all.

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lei
9/24/2014 04:08:06 am

im 26 my fiance is 53. we are so in love but dont know how to tell friends and family we've been together 10 months but were together a few years ago but i had uni and there was the distance. we are together now and just dont know how people will react.

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Doug
11/3/2014 06:01:31 am

Is it simply not possible for a relationship to work between a 27 year old male and a 19 year old girl? I work full time, whilst she is studying uni. Emotionally we are well connected and similar in many way, but the age difference is playing a part in my mind that because of our level of experiences differ that it would simply fail?

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chucky link
12/4/2014 11:22:49 pm

Im 23 old guy and my freind is 14 years old I didnt like her like that at first but aftrr always hanging out and have alot in common i started becoming physically attracted to her. I feel that it is wrong cuz of her age but we both like each other alot . What am i supposed to do. ? Is it that bad? Someone please help me out im so confused

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Butch Wonders link
12/5/2014 12:56:23 am

Hi Chucky. Thanks for reading this blog.

It sounds like you're genuinely confused, and I have a few thoughts that you might find helpful. The most important thing to realize is that, no matter how mature she seems, she is barely even a teenager. She cannot consent legally, which means you could get in big trouble if you choose to start a relationship.

More importantly, the fact that she's only 14 means that even if she is consciously consenting to a relationship with you, the simple fact of your age difference means that you hold WAY more power in the relationship. It may not feel like that to you, but that's how it is. It truly would not be fair of you to start a relationship with her--not fair to HER. Even if she's the world's most mature 14-year-old, she's just too young. It's not fair to put a sexual relationship with a 23-year-old guy into the mix of her life. It's just not.

You sound like a guy who's trying to do the right thing. If you really care about her, do not start a relationship with her. Nine years isn't a huge difference when you're older--if she was 25 and you were 34, it would be a different story. But the difference between 14 and 23 is HUGE--far bigger than she realizes, and maybe bigger than you realize, too.

Here's my advice. If you really care about her, don't talk about your romantic feelings for her. She doesn't need that kind of confusion. And if you want to hang out with her, I suggest doing so around her family, not with just the two of you alone, which may bring unwise pressure/temptation into the situation. If it's meant to be, you can wait four years.

You also asked if it's "bad" that you're attracted to her. This is a hard question. I don't think attraction is "bad" or "good"--it just IS. We can't help our attractions. But we CAN help our actions. As long as you do nothing to act on it, I don't think your attraction is "bad." But I also think it makes sense NOT to put yourself in situations that make you more likely to act on it. Don't do stuff that feels like a date. Don't hang out one on one. Try not to judge your attractions morally, and focus instead on your actions.

You might also find that developing additional friendships with women closer to your own age might lessen your attraction to your 14-year-old acquaintance. I'm not saying this is the case with you, but some people who are repeatedly attracted to younger people are attracted to them because they seem less "threatening," and easier to talk to and be themselves around. If you have complete social confidence around women in their 20s, you might find that you are more attracted to women closer to your own stage in life. (If not, and it's just that you're really into this 14-year-old, fine--you can wait four years to tell her or act on it, and in the meantime can have social relationships with other women.)

You might also consider therapy--not because you need "fixing" or that there's something "wrong" with you--but simply because seeing a therapist can be INCREDIBLY helpful in sorting out confusing feelings, figuring out where they come from, and in making good choices about what do do with them.

BW

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Brendan link
12/7/2014 06:11:37 pm

I'm a 32 year old male and I've just recently met someone thirteen years younger than me. Nothing in the way of a relationship has happened but we both obviously have feelings for each other and I can safely say I have never met anyone I feel so comfortable and compatible with. I am terribly conflicted though, she is amazing and everything I could ever want in partner, we have the same interests and practically finish each other's sentences, we just click on every level...I honestly could ignore the age gap but for the fact I know people close to us would take strong issue with us being together. I feel strongly for this person and I know she does me, to the point where I would wait a few years to start anything. I should point out she is incredibly mature, as I was from a young age, another reason why we connect. I'd like to have shot at real happiness but I'm afraid of the fallout. Any insights would be great...

B.

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Dave
12/9/2014 11:36:28 am

I am 48 and the woman I just fell for is 19. We are crazy about each other but I a scared.
What do I do???
I've always said age doesn't matter but this is 29 years difference.
Thoughts!
Go.

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MichaelSNJ
12/11/2014 02:34:15 pm

I'm so glad I found this page this evening. I'm feeling very confused. I'm a 34 year old man, unhappily single and ha e been "seeing" guys occasionally through different online apps. Tonight i met Adam, an 18 year old man with whom I communicated briefly over the app for the past few day. Based on our conversations I anticipated or "date" to be primarily a sexual encounter. While deep down I am hopefulthat I will meet someone special for a ltr, I hadn't seriously considered the possibility that this particular situation would amount to anything more than a "hook up." This is also why the age gap didn't particularly alarm me.
As it turns out, after I asked for ID (yes, seriously) we shared a wonderful evening that was far more intimate (emotionally) than sexual. The fact is that being together made me feel wonderful, the warmth and closeness. He shared with me his fear that I "would never see him again," and I told him that I would very much like to see him again, scheduleed another date (in the privacy of my apt) and suggested that we refrain from getting too sexual (this is what I typically do when I feel a connection/potential with someone so as to allow space to feel things out before clouding all judgement with good sex). The truth is I really want to see him again and some part of me hopes that perhaps there is a genuine connection here. Part of me, though, feels very guilty/confused. He is a young looking 18 year old which makes me feel like I'm being "creepy." (My own internalized acceptance of cerain social stigmas I guess and the fear of what others might think/say. But when he looked into my eyes after we held eachother for several hours and said to me that he was afraid he'd never see me again, part of me felt the same fear. I am the type of person who enjoys many different friendships with people of all age and I very much enjoy spending time with (older) and younger people with whom I may have little in common with. In this case, I already know that we are WORLDS apart in terms of maturity, interests, etc. And should perhaps walk away now due to this fact. But anogher part of me reall, really enjoyed feeling close to him and wants to allow things to unfold, very gradually and see what happens. I know my family/friends would be totally against this but part of me really wants to suspend all judgement (mine and theirs although i wouldnt make any of them aware of this for a long time anyway if things got serious) and, taking things day to day, see what might be there. Should I feel guilty about dating a man who looks/thinks 16 years younger than me? Please respond.

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Roderick
12/12/2014 02:20:32 pm

Im 15 and i am dating a girl that is 26 i love her a lot and don't care what people think i love her but im so afraid that my family is going to find out and make me and her break up but i don't want to i love her to much to let her go and im hoping to stay with her the rest of my life ya some people mite say o your only 15 u don't know who u love well i do this girl is my soul mate i feel complete when i talk to her words really cant explain how i feel about her that is how much i love her.

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NoorBS
12/28/2014 07:04:42 pm

I'm 22 and my future-fiance is 34. I am really afraid and unsure about our future life. He is really cool and he has the qualities that i like in a man except being too serious.. i do sometimes childish stuff and I'm not sure if he will accept my childish character :/ i have a lot of worries and i don't know what to do

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Eman
1/2/2015 07:57:52 am

I am having a big problem,aged 23 male and gf is 30 my parents don't like it.what can I do?

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Leroy
1/8/2015 07:16:28 am

Nothing wrong with this gap. ignore the external pressures and concentrate on each other

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jane
1/28/2015 04:20:41 am

okay ask yourself this do you love her? or could you see yourself loving her?? and do you think she loves you? im 31 and he is 24 his parents also has a problem with the age gap but its not there life to live! surly they should be pleased that you both have found happiness! but he has listened to his parents and walked away which has hurt us both really badly! don't be a fool make your own decisions before it hurts you both!!

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Lynda link
2/26/2015 06:24:12 am

Personally I wouldn't worry about your parents. You are a 23 year old man and they are not responsible for you any more. Your parents should be supportive. If this young woman makes you very happy and you've got lots in common with each other and you keeps the lines of communication open, there shouldn't be a problem.

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Lex
1/5/2015 02:03:43 pm

I'm not very old, and I've never really been in a relationship with someone older than I. I just came here to read what other people think of it. I personally do not care. Age is something you can decide how you feel about it. It's debatable. It's not set in stone as right or wrong. If it doesn't matter to you, why should it matter to anyone else? It's not like they are in the relationship. It's not really their business. I can understand feeling uncomfortable when seeing two people together with a large age gap who are showing a public display of affection, but honestly, it's love. Love is whatever you want it to be. It's only defined by your mindset to it. So if age doesn't mean anything to you when it comes to love, then that is your decision. Just as it is anyone else's. I think if people stopped worrying so much about what is morally correct or socially acceptable, whether it has to deal with themselves or other people, then people would be a lot happier. I understand it can be a bumpy road, overcoming age differences among other things, but if you really love someone, I think you'll find a way to work it out. I felt this article was a good read and pointed out both the good and the bad without seeming biased. So I guess the last thing I have to say is that I hope other people can read and not let insightful writing go over their heads due to contradicting emotions on the subject. There's always another side to a coin.

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Leroy
1/8/2015 07:07:59 am

Im very young 33, look early 20s. Attitude and lifestyle I have and feel early 20s. Met a girl who looked early 20s got chatting and got on great, find out shes 16. Nothing has happened. I am tempted although wont get involved, know it wouldn't be illegal but surely would be frowned upon. What do people think. I know plenty of people who wouldn't hesitate for the ego boost if nothing else

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Cam
1/17/2015 11:32:40 pm

I think if you can keep the relationship going for another 5 years, 1. You' we found the right one 2. It's more accepted once the other party is 21. My opinion, age is only a number and shouldn't block something amazing from happening

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Liz
1/19/2015 09:33:02 am

I am 46, my boyfriend is 20. His family is very religious and I am divorcing my husband to be with him. So I'm now seen as like the devil incarnate. Here's the test: If you let go of this person because your family doesn't think it's right for you to be together, how will you feel about that? Will you be resentful of your family? Will you feel ashamed that you let them make your decisions for you and did not stand by what you wanted? How easy will it be to let her go? If you can't live without her, then screw what anyone else thinks. Only you can live your own life. Other people don't get to make your life decisions for you. That's part of growing up: you get to make your own decisions. And sometimes, like now, they are tough! Be true to what your heart tells you and you will know the answer.

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John A
1/13/2015 08:34:04 am

Hi everyone
I am in a very simpler relationship my girlfriend is 6 years older than me and we live in different country's.
I am not going to tell u my age but I am still a teenager and people seem to think because I am a teenager I should me going out with girls me own age.my whole life I have felt alone because I was more mature than people my age and I live in a very remote part of the world so I have always dreamed of the wider world . so in meeting someone who is older than me and from another country was perfect. But not only that but we have a load of common interests and have very similar personalitys.we talk about 2 hours a day every day(long distance) and never run out of things to talk about our sex life is great we always have good fun and we are both madly in love with each other .so I have came to this conclusion I don't care about the miles between us or the years between us and I don't care what people think so my advice to anyone in the early stages of this kind of relationship enjoy is great and is u truely love each other you will over come all obstacles in your way

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Thapelo Azkhaban
1/16/2015 10:21:35 pm

I'm a 30yr old man dating a 15yr old.

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Chantelle
7/16/2015 01:42:24 pm

I just pray that you two haven't had any sexual activity going on. Age has to be 16 in the UK and 18 in the U.S. Most parts. But still... I'm pretty sure 16 legal age in most countries. If you both have and even if she agreed to it even a kiss... You could still be sent to prison. Sooooo wait... A year....... or 3 if you have to. But other than that, no wrong.

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Michael Reinhart
1/18/2015 05:24:43 pm

My wife is 18 years younger than I am and are so happy and in love. we like the same music , land the age difference has never been an issue for us we have known each other for about 12 years have been married for 2.

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Dominique
1/18/2015 05:58:12 pm

I am 22 years dating a 43 year old, we met at our work place it was love at first sight. I have never met a man that has cought my attention the way he did. All the time I would look forward to go to work after we met to get a chance to talk to him again. I remember when the day came when I found out his age, it was like a knife cutting away at my heart because I wanted to date him but I knew that would take a huge affect on that when he finds out my age how would react. Time went by I finally get him to take me out on a date, it was a long time of flirting and I thought he used to lead me on. One moment he would be all into flirting with me and making plans to go out the next he didn't see interested at all it kinda hurt but I went with the flow because if it was ment to be it was ment to be. So our first date after a long night of work he took me out to breakfast for my birthday it felt great because finally it felt so right. I was happy and then he got cold feet on our date talking about your age is a huge problem for me I can hook you up with my nefew. I was so angry what if I would have agreed then he would of lost my love to his nefew but secretly he loves me and secretly I would still love him so there was no way In hell I would of agreed to that. The thing that complicated this also was the fact that my child's father still lived in my apartment but it was a bad relationship long done we where just stuck with each other for a little while. More time went by and the day came when my child father left the first time (it was great) all the time Charles and I would make plans to see each other but those plans where always broken because it seemed like things always go wrong this past summer. First it was his niece stood him up to watch his kids, then his babies mom agreed to watch the kids one night after a movie after he took the girls to but then when he tried to drop them off she didn't answer the door or her phone, another time his mother got into a car accident with his younger brother he broke his leg another lonely night alone that whole month was depressing because I wanted to go out with him on our second date soooo bad. Then he went on vacation to California and then I almost gave up on him. So I started inviting a coworker over witch was a guy, but I didn't like him in that way just needed a friend because i don't have many in the town I'm currently in. This guy came over a twice and the second time I almost got raped by him. Afraid to loose my job because although I was the victim he was threating me if I told anyone he is going to go to hr because I kicked him out when he was drunk and he was forced to drive home. Saying about how crazy I am but I remember what went on and I was laying on the sofa we where drinking and then he touched me I told him to stop. He didn't went on top of me pulled his pants down I said stop so many times and he didn't... Went and pulled my pants down I'm crying telling him stop he tried to get it in but my scrurming around he couldn't get it then he stops. I go into my room to get my self together and I come out my room told him to get the fuck out he jumps up and storms out of my place. Then I try to call Charles who is on vacation when this happends and at the time he dropped his phone in the ocean and trying to dry it out I didn't know just thought he was ignoring me. That time was one of the darkest times that I went through because I was completely alone and nobody was there for me. Over time I forgave the man who try to do this to me because that's what god would want me to do plus he did stop. So then Charles finally came home from vacation happy to see him at work but then I started to give up on him because all the time we where supposed to go out something came up. Then one day out of nowhere my baby's dad desided to come out of nowhere to see his son witch was in Arizona visiting relatives of mine and stupid me I let him stay because he had nowhere to go. I go to work next day and that's when Charles told me I've been trying to call you so we can go out I wanted to come pick you up but he was calling my old phone when I had a new one all along. Then for the next month my baby's dad once again got In the way allthough we weren't together and sleeping with each other of course someone would think differently. So my kids father started mentally abusing me big time completely damaging my apartment. A little before he left finally got to get my second date with Charles and it was amazing he was like my knight in shinning armor. So we went to see a movie guardians of the galaxy went and had a drink before at the bar having a great time it was amazing. In the middle of the movie I was so surprised he was actually making a move on me he started rubbing my thigh and holding my hand no words can describe the feeling that I've felt (it brings tears to my eyes now) I had so many butterflies after we went to Fridays had an awesome dinner but then he goes to telling

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Liz
1/19/2015 09:22:59 am

I'm Liz. I'm 46. I played a multiplayer online video game and met someone who is 20. I've lived all over the world. He's always lived in a tiny town in Iowa. I just passed the bar; he works at WalMart. He's never dated anyone and I was married when I met him. He's from a religious family; his dad is/was a pastor. So even though I've always been seen as a cute, nice, friendly girl, his family sees me as old, washed up, and the most evil person on earth. LOL But all of that aside, I've strangely never met anyone so much like me before. We've spent thousands of hours talking over the phone in the last several months. We met twice and it was the best time of our lives. He says he can't live without me and I feel the same way. He says he knows it will be difficult, but that he will love me forever and that he never wants to be with another. I am so proud of him for standing up to his family; I know it is difficult for him. He's so brave. It was shocking when we first met, but that has dissipated the more we talked and fell in love. Now he tells me I'm the most beautiful, sexiest woman he's ever seen and I have never been so attracted to anyone. He tells me he loves me countless times a day. We are very supportive of each other, kind to each other, and generous with each other. The hardest part is seeing my older skin next to his younger skin. I don't know where all the time in my life went. That makes me a little sad, but it isn't worth losing him over. He's my soul mate in every sense of the word except for age. We think the same things at the same time, do the same things at the same time, have similar habits, can tell what each other wants before we say anything. It's surreal and I know it looks objectively crazy, but I have never been so happy or felt so loved. I didn't even know what love was before I met him. It's nice to have a website like this to come to for support. Thank you.

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louisa
1/22/2015 04:02:14 am

hello i am 31 and he is 24 our age is causing a big problem for him his parents do not like the fact am older and have a child from a previous relationship he has spoken to them but what ever there reply was he got confused and didnt know what he wanted as he was due to go in the armed forces so he tried pushing me away! for a while it worked but then he got discharged and started calling and coming around again! when we are together it is like there is a rope pulling us together and when we are apart he gets confused again i am really not sure of what to do next as i love him very much and do not want to push him away for good! he tends to think logically one day and by the next he has change his mind! I am getting very frustrated now! why wont he just make up his mind as i know he also loves me! he is not very experienced with women and dose not have a lot of confidence and that also worries him!

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ahmad link
1/23/2015 03:28:01 am

hello friends
i wont to get marridge next year but i have huge age gap with my girlfriend we are very happy to live togather but my age is 37and she is just 19 years old
her raletives tell her that you have big problem with your husband that is you dont will have baby in this age of your husband
i love her so much and also is it true that in future we will not have babies please tell me very honestly
becoz my lover wont babies to much and i dont create any problem for her
i am waiting very heartly please tell me

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Chris
1/23/2015 02:19:24 pm

I have an age gap of 36 years and i feel like it's tottaly normal. Some of you may say it's to much of an age gap but it's the only way I feel confortable being with another man.

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Chichi
1/24/2015 06:19:06 pm

Hi all. I am 35 going on 36 and being asked out by a 58 years old man. He has had 2 marriages and I have had none. I haven't met him yet tho. Was introduced to him by a mutual friend. I am still debating on what to do and if my parents and friends would understand. Do you guys think this cld work? I am kinda scared

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Sonic
1/28/2015 02:30:41 am

Hi, I'm a 28 year old woman, looks and lifestyle wise, I'm early 20's. I've recently became friends with a colleagues daughter who is 17. We've spent some time together and we just get on great. We have the exact same interests in everything and have the same attitudes towards things. My problem is that I'm starting to develop feelings for her, and she is for me too. My colleague is fine with us spending time together but I feel that I'm betraying her trust, even though I'm not doing anything wrong, etc. All we've ever done is cuddle. That's it. But I can't shake the feelings of guilt. But then again I can't shake the feelings I have for this girl. I know we're just friends now but what if we want to be together in the future? I feel like I should talk to my colleague about it but I would be really quite upset if she asked us to stop talking to each other. What should I do?

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Charlie
1/29/2015 10:35:40 pm

I'm 24 and my girlfriend has just turned 40, I first saw her in a hotel and fell in love with her straight away, she was so unsure at the start, but one of our friends convinced her to start dating me and it went from there. I occasionally go out to watch the football with her dad, so he doesn't mind the age gap and my side of the family also don't care about the age gap

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Reyna Salazar
2/2/2015 03:35:20 pm

I'm 16 and i really like the guy im with right now (he is 25) i don't know if its right or not or how could i tell my parents . My mom is an understanding person but i don't think she would like the idea of me dating a 25 year old. Since we have 9 years apart. I mean im fine with everything and I've always been more of a mentally grownup becausr i find my generation with alot of issues and i think some one older would be better. So should i tell my parents? And should i keep dating him!?

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Kathy
2/17/2015 01:14:57 pm

I'm 48 he's 66. I love me some him....:-) Enough said!

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Jim
2/21/2015 11:47:43 pm

I'm a 51 year old gay man who is leaving a four-year relationship with a wonderful 28 year old man. This relationship developed initially as a friendship and support for me as I came out and was in the process of leaving a 24 year traditional marriage. He was able to connect with me and to be there for me and we evolved our friendship into a loving relationship. It's ending now because it is clear we need to go in different directions. I am attracted to only men in their 20s and there is no question age is cause for careful consideration but not concern. Trying to be someone you're not, trying to compensate for missing pieces in your life (aware of this or not), or trying to allow your partner to define whom you are would be the mistakes and must be in the awareness of both. The diversity of perspectives, opinions, interests, likes, dislikes, or whatever make these relationships rich and fulfilling. Age is a number which belongs on your birth certificate and that's about it.....it's all about what you do you with your age and how you connect with someone meaningful in love and commitment. Letting your two worlds blend as opposed to forcing two individuals to come together is magical and I think leads to successful connection. I'm now becoming interested in a very young man at the age of 20 but who possesses a unique maturity and impressive wisdom which cast him well beyond his age. Who knows what the future holds and it's somehow intriguing he is just months older than my oldest son...... however when I'm with him and when we talk and relate I feel none of my 51 years nor do I feel him as a 20 year old. Of course issues like kids and culture, interests and energy mean a lot and need to be considered, but why would I deprive me or him of an opportunity to see what our futures hold simply because a number dictates we shouldn't be compatible? His philosophy, one which I now adopt, is to live life and to shed expectations in order to find your happiness...... judgement of others is both frustrating and entertaining. I'll never know if I'm doing the right thing but I can live with that and I'm very happy. So is he and seeing his happiness and his interest and contentedness in being with me is fuel for me to be courageous enough to live my life now.

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ad
3/1/2015 03:25:45 pm

Im 15 and I'm in love with someone who is 20 is it right

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Sammy
7/29/2016 12:26:58 pm

I'm 14 (female) dating a 19 (male) and we are both very happy... Both of our parents do not know and we plan on not saying anything soon due to my parents would hate him (we met online but text/kik/hangouts/call/ect all the time) as they hate the idea of me dating. Trust me it isn't easy. And I'm very afraid I understand the feeling... And if you could I would really appreciate you talking back; soemone who knows what I feel... All I can say is yes love is blind. But how blind is safe?... That's all I can really say... Just pray for the best..

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Steve
3/3/2015 03:15:25 am

Hii, i am in love with a 19 year old girl.. i am 39. i am a good business man and she like me very well... we move nicely.. she is a student. Nice to learn lot of things from my girl...

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felix
3/5/2015 05:44:25 pm

i am 22 nd in luv will a girl wu is 17. ar we gud 2 go?

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Carla
3/21/2015 07:59:45 pm

I'm 51 and wanting to date a girl who is 22...I have a daughter who is 30...can this work?

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Tayler k. link
3/23/2015 03:09:51 am

I'm 16 and my boyfriend is 23 and we have been great so far. I'm just really scared about that law, I live in Illinois so if anyone has any addvice for me that would
Be nice!

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Lynn
9/1/2015 06:02:10 pm

Taylor, don't tell anyone until you're 18. Otherwise, you're partner will be in legal trouble....been there, done that, and not fun. Be careful but enjoy your love.

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Liam N
3/25/2015 11:37:08 pm

I'm 22 and my girlfriend is 36. We are deeply in love and will go through thick and thin together. Family does not agree, Can it work out. Experiences or advice please?

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Angel
4/15/2015 04:48:46 am

Hi Liam,

The age gap may spell the end and something you can do nothing about, age...It is more complicated if you two have children. She knows how deep your love must be to make such a sacrifice. Love is not enough to keep a relationship going.

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Chantelle
7/16/2015 01:31:55 pm

Hi Liam, I'm 19 my fiancé is 36... My story is around here somewhere haha!!

My answer is yes, of course. What are the reasons for it not to work out if you love each other?
I lost family members from when I broke the news.. But got them back as they got used to it. Your in love with that woman. You go home to her each night. You eat with her. You might one day marry her. Not them. They aren't the one who is with her... So take no notice, people either like it or lump it... Either way they can get over it :)

All the best!!

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JJ
4/2/2015 03:24:37 am

I'm 36 yr old femme. I have a long distance relationship with a younger guy than me, he's 25 years old. His religion is Islam and I am Catholic. We have such a cultural background difference and age gap and religion but every time we talk we compliment each other. We enjoy each other's conversation and we have almost the same life values(not religious values). We have not seen each other in person yet but we are hoping soon we meet. Sometimes I feel scared to continue but he makes me happy. We engage relatively close with our communication and I could not wait to meet him. My question is...is this an ideal relationship to pursue? I have not know any couple who had the same situation so if anyone out there could give me an insight...I would really appreciate it. Thank you :)

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nassim
4/11/2015 04:21:17 pm

i am 32 years old my wife she is 66 years old . we have got married almost three years now, believe me guys we live on peace and love , i care a lot about her , she always try to listen to me and let me finish what i am try to say . a lot of emotion and feeling we have for each together .

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Angel
4/15/2015 04:28:01 am

Hi Kev,

I wish you with the best. I also wish your soul mate be strong and get through the situation. Love does not make the relationship stronger. I hope you do care for your soul mate even though you move on with the love of your life. I wish age matters not. It is sad as the age gap may now spell the end and something you can do nothing about, age...But, you can do it! Bring a little smile to make her stronger to move on.

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lala
5/12/2015 11:43:09 pm

Hey I'm 18 and my boyfriend is 35.. We were not suppose to fall in love but it happened.. Im waiting for me to get a little older for me to tell my folks.. I'm really in love with him and I don't care what people have to say.. So long I'm happy I'm good..

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Chantelle
7/16/2015 01:26:07 pm

Hey.. I started dating my fiancé when I was 18 and he was 35... Now 19 and 36 and engaged. We met over xbox just over 3 years ago, I was in Liverpool UK and he was in Columbus Ohio... Only met 3 months ago for the first time. I told my family 1 month after we started dating... There was help and support from some, neglect and shone from others.. I hope all goes well for you when you announce it! Hopefully his family knows your age too. But don't keep it a secret for too long from your mum or dad, it will hurt them most. Also, never tell anyone before them.. They would rather hear if from their little one. All the best :)

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Kenneth
6/24/2015 10:03:22 pm

i am 27 and in love with a 39year old woman....we are planning our wedding soonest. age diff is just a number and not any of our concerns infact we don't even talk about it...we are so in loveeeeeeeeeee.

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T
6/30/2015 06:14:17 am

I am a 31-year-old man that has never been married, has no kids, a CPA by day and am currently "involved" with a 56-year-old woman (who looks 36 to 46 at the most). She and I have been on and off for the past year and I have not been with anyone but her during that time having gotten out of a four-year relationship prior to meeting her.

She "digs me" as she puts it and I dig her and we have great times together; however, she is constantly saying how I need to find someone younger and that what we have will not work out. I also know that she 'gets around' quite a bit. When I let her know today that I have begun looking for younger women (which hasn't bore much fruit for me as of yet) like she wanted, she responded, "You should...it's not what I want, but it's for the best..." That tells me that she still wants me and yet she is also saying "it's over".

Is there a way around these mixed signals and to finally get some clarification on what she wants? I do not see myself marrying her or having children with her, but then again, I do not seeing myself getting married or having children, period, so that's why I continue to stay. I'm interested in hearing your two cents.

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Athea
7/1/2015 04:51:35 am

I am 12 turning 13 and I have a crush on Adam levine maroon 5 and I really can't get him of my mind

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Lady A
7/1/2015 04:54:31 am

I am 12 turning 13 and I have a crush on Adam levine maroon 5 and I really can't get him of my mind

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Amanda Ellis
7/7/2015 11:39:30 pm

Hi I'm Amanda, age 45 nearly 46, I'm a single mum of a 10yr old boy, I separated 4 yrs ago from my sons dad after he cheated on me twice!
Since my split and being thrusted into the singles market I've found myself dating younger men, as the dating pool seems to be filled with much younger suitors.
I'm a self-employed dance teacher, danced all my life, I don't look/act/ my age and I'm comfortable with my current partner who is 20yrs younger.
When I first started dating younger men my parents were not happy about it and put it down to a phase!
To be honest age dosent come into it but I do lean towards the more energetic muscular type of male and my current fella is making me happy so why change it?
Ok it might not last forever but who can put a time stamp on anyone's relationship, nobody knows the future and we shouldn't try to predict it!
My theory is if your happy you only have one life, live it!
Age is just a number, we all have hearts & minds lets cherish and embrace the happiness & love!
Providing two people are of a legal age I don't see the harm!
Men have been dating younger women since dot so I don't see a different rule if a woman chooses a younger man as her lover/husband/friend.
If people love you they should support your decisions and pick up the pieces when and if they fail!
Thanks for reading.

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Chantelle
7/16/2015 01:16:52 pm

I'm 19 years old from Liverpool in the UK. And my fiancé is 36 years old from Columbus Ohio. We met on xbox 3 years ago. But only got in a relationship 9 months ago. We hadn't ever met each other face to face until 3 months ago....he booked my ticked and I flew out. Manchester to Amsterdam. Amsterdam to Atlanta. Atlanta to Columbus. Columbus to "My mans arms" when I got off the plane in Columbus, I walked around the corner and seen his face smiling and lighting up. I ran past security, he ran to me.. I dropped my bag, he picked me up, I wrapped myself around him.. We kissed... to us, everyone and everything in the airport stopped in time..... But reality, everyone cheered and had a tear of joy for us. 22nd April 2015 was the greatest day of my life so far... Sadly, 6 days from today... I return back home to Liverpool, alone.... I will be heartbroken.. As I probably won't see him for another what feels like forever and 6 months away..


I've never actually thought.. Omg our age gap is such and such... Because I think it's beautiful.
If your matured enough to be with a man then go for it. what's to lose? Age difference in friends doesn't really matter, just as long as you act like a lady and not some little girl. Of course there will be differences, but you can always over come that.

I'm proud to be engaged to the love of my life who happens to be much older than me. I wouldn't want him any other age, way, size, height. I love my Soulmate.

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realitycheck
9/6/2015 04:31:01 pm

Why are, or were, there 11-17 year olds talking about people in their twenties and older asking them out. Ummmm, gotta grow and change into the person you're going to be first. Most importantly, why are people older than the legal age asking out kids? I married a guy when I was 16, he was 23, worst 13 years of my life.... Dont ask a forum about dating a guy who is over age, when you're under, report the bastard, obviously a predator. Guys dont ask little girls to go out with you, you sick F***S

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Meagan
9/9/2015 02:10:58 pm

I just turned 16 and I'm MADLY in love with a 31 year old woman, (I'm a female as well). Obviously she is not because I believe she is heterosexual, but we are the best of friends. Maybe one day, when I turn 18, I will act on my feelings!

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Gregory
9/14/2015 04:58:14 pm

Okay, I'm 17, and my homecoming dance is in TWO WEEKS...I asked a girl this Monday and she said yes, but she'd have to ask her mother. The girl is 15 and vibrant, amazing attitude, and loves me to death. When consulting her mother, her [her mom] said no, because its "against the law" for a couple to date even though nothing sexual is going on. Is there anything wrong with that? Or should I say screw it and go for it, and try to convince her mother??? Please help me, I really love this girl and I don't want my relationship to go down the drain over this. Thanks.

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Lynn
9/14/2015 06:05:29 pm

This is not against the law. Look up "age of consent law" in your country. It will tell you the age laws. These laws have gotten pretty stupid but it is not against the law for you and she to go to this event. Her mother is misinformed. It would be helpful to show her mother the current age of consent law for your country as it will clarify for her. I hope this helps you. Good luck!

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Kate
9/20/2015 06:17:34 am

Hi guys, so I'm 13 and I'm in love with a 21 year old.Im very mature for my age and he knows what he's doing too, he knows the risks of seeing me etc.I know he's not using me as he wants me too move in with him when I turn 16 and for us too have a future. I've always liked guys a little older, I mean I've tried dating guys my own age but it never works.He turns 22 in October and I turn 14.I know we wouldn't be socially accepted (no one is nowadays) but I just wanted to know is it really that bad.Really I think lads my own age are worse for wanting sex as its a new experience to them, older guys have obviously had Sex and they don't crave it as much as teenage boys.
Let me know what you guys think but I know I love this guy and I want a future with him :)

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Lynn
9/20/2015 10:08:34 am

Hi Kate,

I believe you when you say that you are mature for your age. I need to tell you though that if you live in North America, you and your boyfriend are taking a huge risk. You will have to live for more than two years without telling anyone about him if you don't want him to go to jail. I do think the laws around this should be more on a case by case basis because I think you can still have a loving, respectful relationship between you. But most of society does not feel this way and the laws reflect this. The two of you will need to talk about how you're going to handle this situation. Be careful. All the best Kate.

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Savannah
10/13/2015 10:48:27 am

I like a guy that's 22 years older than me and he likes me too and it's not exactly legal right now because I'm 15 and he's 37 but I'm hoping when I'm 18+ we can be together, I'm just not sure about the age difference (he's 1 year older than my mom) and I'm really worried people are gonna judge me on this and my parents won't approve and I will let them down

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Lynn
10/13/2015 11:30:04 am

Hi Savannah,

Have you both talked about how you feel for each other and is he willing to wait till your 18?

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Naomi
11/2/2015 01:01:17 pm

I'm 19 and my boyfriend is 42. I'm also black and he's white. Anytime we go out together we always get theses weird looks. I'm worried about introducing him to my friends and family. I told my friends that he was 25 and they freaked out. What should I do?

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Chuck
11/9/2015 04:39:21 am

I'm 38 and my girlfriend is 54 and I've never had a better relationship with anyone we are very compatible in every way so age shouldn't matter if your both legal age

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Alyssa
11/9/2015 10:44:00 am

I am 15 and he is 22! We love each other, but is it illegal to date? Could he go to jail?

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Lynn
11/9/2015 11:09:41 am

Yes Alyssa, it is illegal and yes he could go to jail. Not illegal when you're 16 if you live in North America. Can you wait?

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sarang
12/28/2015 11:28:52 am

Hi clare
This has help a lot am starting to see a man younger than me he's24 I'm32
Now i have an idea of how can it be between us if i let it happen ;) all good by the way. Because of my ethnicity i have a really hard time thinking of going out with a younger man am latina the norm has always been the man older than me but thanks to u clare and everybodys experiences am gonna give it a go!
Blessings and sorry if my grammar is weird lol
Adios!

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Soph
2/19/2016 05:11:05 pm

This thread (despite being a little dated) has helped me so much! I'm 21 and currently in a relationship with a woman 26 years my senior. I've never been so happy with anyone, or so comfortable. It is still early days (around three months), but I can't help but dread telling my parents, even though I know that if things are going as they are, I'll have to tell them sooner rather than later. My friends are all very supportive and are glad I'm happy. I think it would be wise to finish my undergraduate degree before I take any drastic measures though!

I just want to say thanks to everyone on this thread: so much support!

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Lynn
2/20/2016 06:18:34 am

So glad you're happy and this place made a difference to you. 😊

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Victoria
3/17/2016 01:21:51 pm

I'm 17 and will be 18 years old in 5 months time. My partner is older than me with 22. he makes me very happy and full filled like I've never been. Firstly , I'm scared to tell him My age because I don't want it to affect our relationship. I don't look or act 18 though. And I'm scared to tell my mum about the age gap. my mum knows he makes me happy and has approved him for me. I'm in a dilemma.

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keke pittman
4/7/2016 08:30:34 am

hi im 15 ok ok i know i am young and what i am about to say is stupid but i need help.....i meet this guy when i was 14 i told him i was 18 (i look 20 by the way) we feel for each other at first we were strictly friends till i turned 15 (jan 13 2016) i told him my age and he freaked (we never kissed or had sex) (im not a virgin tho) he stoped talking to me untill feb 1 thats when he heard about me getting raped (by my ex) he was the only one there for me we couldnt help but fall in love (my mom knows nothing) he is 26 n will be 27 on april 24 he told me yesterday that he couldnt live without me,he wants to marry me(then he proposed to me) yes we know there is no way for marriage but we wanted to make it official (i wear my engagement ring everyday....i am so excited (we are getting married after i finish high school) we also decided to wait on sex he bought me a brand new iphone 6 and he pays my bills,he has a job,and his own place,he respects my wishes to be a teenager(i still do whatever i want as long as i remember i am engaged) he sees me every weekend n we face time every night....he gives me money,gets my hair n nails done and etc we have only kissed.....my bestfrann is 19 n i stay with her sometimes to see him we are very respectful...i love him more than anything i just need to know that our age is ok at some point

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Lynn
4/7/2016 09:14:52 am

If you live in North America, a sexual relationship with your boyfriend will be illegal until you reach 16 years of age.

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keke
5/10/2016 08:42:12 am

i know that the legal age of consent is 16 in hattiesburg ms.....we are still holding out he still wants to get married but im afraid he will go to jail

Sammy
4/30/2016 05:32:32 pm

I'm three years older than girlfriend and I'm fourteen

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Dianne
5/7/2016 07:23:00 pm

The half your age plus 7 years cut off is a rule of thumb, it doesn't apply to all. I have a youthful spirit and I look much younger than my years, something to consider should a younger man date me. Something's I consider, his maturity, life experience, has he been in a committed relationship, does he want kids if he doesn't have any. The stigma of younger man/ older woman isn't as bad as it used to be though I expect jokes when I'm out with a younger man. Funny thing is my sons, who are under 30, get super pissed when others assume they are my bf lol!

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Jessica
5/22/2016 11:47:49 pm

Hello everyone.... I have a few questions I'm 28 and my boyfriend is 47 we've been seeing each other for about two years but for the past 10months we've been living together he had two grown children ages 20,21 I'm starting to feel as if he's embarrassed of me or something because he's never took me around his family although I've met his friends I've never met his family! I mean I know with this big age difference it's possible that maybe he's afraid of what his mom dad and children would think or say but it's making me have major self esteem problems because I'm starting to feel as if I'm not good enough for him. During arguments I've asked if he wAs embarrassed and I've mentioned his family but it's like I get ignored. I really love him and I love our relationship but this is like the number one thing that's making me question our friendship/ relationship. Like I can't think of any other reason besides "embarrassed"

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Ben
5/27/2016 03:17:54 pm

My girlfriend I a year and 6 months older then me and I don't think that matters to me but do u think is matter to her

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Apple
5/29/2016 11:24:27 am

Im 30 and my bf is 22... Everytime i tell him something he dont understand he will always said too much adult stuff... He is cute...

Age gab is one thing.... I am an independent and a workaholic woman... He will always go clubbing and vacation... Still the happy go lucky type...

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M
6/5/2016 05:56:24 am

Your thoughts on this are very interesting...see I am 24 and possibly bi (and being culturally conservative it's something that I cannot easily open up about). I also have a crush on my boss...he's in his early 50s I believe (assuming it since he has kids who are close to my age). It might seem wrong, but it's more the charm and experience of his grown up attitude that attracts more than anything. Plus he is funny and is open to ideas...is it wrong to still like him then? Is it just naïvity on my part?

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NFW
2/1/2017 03:44:13 pm

I don't think so. I once dated a girl a few years older than you. There was a lot of attraction and we both went with it.

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Happy
6/10/2016 10:19:58 am

I'm 18 and my boyfriend is 21, people say that's to much of an age gap. I look a lot younger than I am so that never helps, people tend to stare at us

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Lynn
6/10/2016 11:55:52 am

That's ridiculous. That is not a great difference at all. And...many have the same age difference. I don't understand why people stare.

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John Lovatt
7/7/2016 03:51:41 am

We married when I was 64, she was 25. Had met when she was 18. Just friends. Things developed when she was 23. She is now 40, I am 78. 14 years, and I have to pinch myself every morning, to be sure I'm not dreaming.

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Likasil
7/22/2016 01:47:15 am

11 years ago I met a man. We worked together seasonally and got close. Two yrs later he told me he was in love with me and had been from day one. He finally left a miserable marriage soon after that (they had both been unhappy for years apparently). His family knew of his infatuation with me and some considered me the other woman. He was condemned by his church (Mormon) for it and essentially left the church over it. I didn't reciprocate at first, but his patience, forgiveness of my fears, kindness and acceptance of me won me over. I have not had an easy time in relationships, so have a lot of trust issues that he has overcome by his constancy. He was 59 and I was 26. We got involved, but I had so many hang ups/baggage, I broke it off a few times within a 3 or 4 yr time span. My parents never knew. We stayed close though somehow and now, 11 yrs later, we are still close. I am wondering if I made a mistake in ending things. I have never been good at identifying my feelings and want to see if we can make a real go of this (out there to our families and everything - his family knew about me...most of mine didn't), or is it too late? He is 68 now and I'm 35. It concerns me. He still has the vigour of someone in their 40's. Is active, hiking, etc. He is nearing 70 though...that worries me. Should I take the risk? I will no doubt become his primary caregiver at some point if I do go ahead. What if he develops dementia or some other long term illness? Cancer, etc. He has at most 10 good yrs left, if I'm lucky. Children is not an issue since I made peace a while ago that I do not want children...though, he offered to give me children when he first came out to me 9 yrs ago. But that was 9 yrs ago...he's gotten older in that time (he may no longer wish that). If I did have any children by him, I'd likely raise them on my own for the most part. And their father may not live to see them grow up. There are so many potential and certain future challenges to consider, that I wonder if I should let him go. Though, the thought of him left by his family at some point in a long term care facility alone is heartbreaking to me. I don't want him to live his golden years when he can no longer move around without a place to call home. He is a wanderer since he split with his ex wife. Travels constantly between various family members helping them out in their lives. He has no real home. I care very much for this man and I want to go with it...but am very much afraid to. Plus, my parents and I have a good relationship built by living my life in accordance with what is expected of me. That relationship would vanish if I brought a man 2 yrs older than them home. Don't know what I should do. I want him to be a big part of my life. But should I? Is it worth it? How do I know he'll be around for long? What if he continues to travel in the same way? Too many doubts. I am tempted to just go with it and see where it leads, but how many would I hurt by doing that...including myself potentially?

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Jessica
8/27/2016 07:03:42 pm

My boyfriend and I have been dating for 4 months now he's 41 I'm 26 in which we are 15 years diffrence. Allot of people have put me down due to it as well as putting my boyfriend down due to the age in their words are not the "norm". My dads furious about the age diffrence. I am really happy with this guy I'm dating but it kills me my dad wont talk to me. What do I do?

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NFW
2/1/2017 03:42:33 pm

He won't talk to you? I see that this was posted in August - has anything changed? I don't see 15 years as all that huge and if you are happy with him, he treats you well and it's not toxic or dysfunctional, I think that is a better thing to focus on. So many people get themselves into bad relationships. I hope yours is still great.

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Douglas
10/24/2016 06:33:59 am

I'm 44, my gf is 22. seems to be working fine.

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NFW
2/1/2017 03:40:10 pm

I am 55. (A young 55 - everyone says that, but I am usually pegged at about 43-44.) I have just started dating a girl who is 20. Not even 21. I did not hit on her, had no intention of asking her out, she just liked me and there was definitely something there whenever I would see her. One day she asked for my number, contacted me and suggested we get together. I said sure, why not. We went out a few times and it's really been a lot of fun. She enjoys my company and sense of humor, and I like hers as well. She's pretty smart for her age and is still in college, studying hard. I keep asking myself if I am crazy. But I have to say, it's pretty great so far.

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Rich link
12/28/2018 01:41:45 am

Hey ya NFW,
That sounds like a ideal situation. But it also sounds
Too good too be true!, and she is 20 and your 55. I would think
She wants a $$ daddy verse company~~ For what it’s worth

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Corey Tucker
7/12/2017 07:09:17 am

i will be meeting a girl who is 45 and i am 33, i am just trying to see if we start to get really serious, if it will work with this age difference? i have done some research, but i want to know from couples that are in relationships with age difference.

thanks

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KayCee
9/10/2018 06:57:12 pm

I am 37 and 15 years older than him. It’s been 3 years so far. His parents and important relatives know about us. His closest MALE friends know. The only females his age that know are because they’re friends or coworkers of mine. My whole family knows including my kids. I have a young teen and a tween, both male and they don’t care.

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2/22/2019 08:09:08 am

Oh boy,Im 62 and she is 24.WOW,I know.I love her to death.I love her 2,4,and 5 year old kids.she is mature,intelligent and a wonderful loving mother.We both know what the score is.The only person on my side who is indifferent is my daughter of 42 years.Please dont judge us but some intelligent feedback would be cool.

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Dallas
3/21/2019 10:58:52 am

I'm 24 and he's 20....I'll be 25 on July 6th and he'll be 21 on July 20th...not to much of an age difference...and although we don't think so...Will other people think it's weird that he is only a year younger then my brother...like I'm dating a guy who is around the same age as my younger brother....and like I said neither of us really care but it's just a thought...also any good advice on long distance...we live 5 hours away from each other

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4/19/2019 05:42:26 am

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Bobby
7/1/2019 04:10:07 pm

I'm 16 and dating a 19 year old, im close to turning 17 and i really love him but im afraid people might judge him for being with me. We aren't interested in sex though but we are close and super in love. I hate living in secret knowing his friends will desert him but i do love him, i love him so much i don't want to ruin his bonds just because were dating

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Anonymous
8/1/2019 11:27:17 am

I'm 54 years old woman, very active. I look much younger, and take care of myself. My love is 26 years old. Our 28 years age difference is not an issue. Romantically it is the best ever. We text like crazy when we are apart. We don't get enough of each other company. My prior love interest was 32 years old younger too. They don't have baggage, no drama, and the sex life is the best. Moreover, they are the ones who made their move, not me. Even if you are aware of the age difference, knowing that divorce rate is 50%, who cares to think what the future holds. I live in the present very very happy. People who cast judgement are the ones who wished they could be as happy as we are! : )

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Makepe
10/9/2019 03:02:02 am

Hi I am 24 and my boyfriend is 53...when we are together we do not even feel the age difference between us,we talk about anything ,we love each other dearly but even thought my friends do not approve of the relationship.he wants to introduce me to his family but i am not ready because i know that they are going to judge us .

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Emma
10/13/2019 10:00:11 am

I’m 23(f) and she’s 19(f), and she is a month younger than my brother. I am riddled with so much guilt for having such intense feelings for her but she’s perfect. We haven’t even started dating yet but I know she likes me back. My parents love her but don’t approve of a relationship with her because she is so young. I just feel so bad. I don’t know what to do. Do i go for it and possibly ruin an amazing friendship or do I just toil in anguish?? I don’t know!!!

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River Bertolini
1/15/2020 06:03:18 am

So I’m confused I’ve met this guy he’s 17 turning 18 in April on Mother’s Day I am 23 we met at my job and we both felt a connection immediately. Neither one of us said anything and we’ve been talking for a good solid month and a half now.so the other day he kissed me and we almost got carried away neither one wants to wait but would I be a monster if I gave in to my feelings I mean he’s only two months from being 18 and we haven’t done anything that he’s not ok with?... ps we both work 40 hr a week he has a car I don’t yet and I have usually only dated people five years older than me he is the first person I’ve been seeing that is younger than meidk what to do

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Fred
1/26/2020 03:28:35 pm

Hi-- did no one see the comment of an 11 year old girl saying she was asked out by a 19 year old? An article about age differences in dating that doesnt deal with ages below 18 is ridiculous. This is the real question you idiots. I'm surprised a girl that young is attracted, maybe this changes our minds about age limits... Idk, what do you all think? If a girl wants a guy, how could it be bad? If the guy is a jerk then yeah that'd be horrible but is this not up to the girl? Our society and species was built on acting on these impulses, age gaps did not exist before ~1500. Though I'm not sure how young women became pregnant back thenOBVIOUSLY I am not condoning anything the girl does not want and absolutely nothing before puberty, though I recognize that line is fuzzy. Marriage at 12 was normal in Europe before ~1850... Yes 12 is young- I'm more disputing ages 14-15. I just recognize our society is so suppressed today. If you want to come at me and say I'm a pedophile fuck you. I am drowning in student debt and have barely a tinge of agency in my own life at age 27. Haven't been with a girl in 8 years. I often find high school girls amazingly beautiful, not because of their age, just because of them. Considering I have been basically in a bullshit education prison since high school I am feeling fucked by the system and I dont hesitate to talk to girls that may be 17... 16. If youre wondering, yes that's legal, 16 is the age of consent where I live. Funny we all forget the age of consent in Europe is 14. 18 is idiotic.

Anyways- that girl Haley is looking for advice. I'm a male, I don't know, without seeing her and judging her mental capacity of herself I have trouble telling a girl she shouldn't do something she wants to do. Why has no one responded for 4 years?
My life is just, I can't take this anymore. 150k of student debt, useless degree, family has no money, my dad is co-signed, the pressure, havent been with a girl in 8 years, I see beautiful 16-17 year old girls and just can't take this anymore. But I'm still trying, I still talk to them. Most girls think I'm 19-23 anyway.

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Greg
3/12/2020 09:02:07 am

I just turned 61 today and have recently met a woman 23 whom I have been talking with for about 4 months now. We have discovered that we have very similar views about several different subjects. We both fully understand there is a 38 year age difference but have talked extensively about being in a long-term relationship together. We both believe that age is just a number and that the age difference means nothing as far as us having a relationship together. She was actually the first to ask if I'd have a problem dating a young woman her age, anyway, which I don't, and when I asked, has agreed to be my girlfriend. I'm a bit concerned about my children accepting her since they are 34 and 36 respectively but from what I understand, should not stop me from pursuing this relationship, regardless. Sexually we are on the same page and always have the desire to please each other as much as we can. I understand this is not considered the 'norm' due to half age plus 7 rule but don't pay real close attention to what I believe is very outdated. I believe we have a great thing going and plan to keep it that way as long as possible.

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Robert Williams
8/23/2020 10:57:01 am

I'm 43 and my girlfriend is 19.. we've been together for one year.. I can only say this is the best relationship I've ever been in. Ive always said Find Your Happy.. life is too short.

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Ashley
9/28/2020 12:20:43 am

Hello, my name is Ashley. I am 25 years old and the man I have feelings for is 33 year old. But while having met him we started talking a couple months later more often but at the time I was newly married. My husband and I are getting a divorce because things did not work out for us and my coworker and I began to date. It was good for several months but then we broke up due to emotionally cheating on my part and physical abuse on his. I hadn’t cut full ties with my husband and was fed lies about fixing the marriage when I had no intentions too. I wanted to fix my relationship with my ex boyfriend and he is considering getting back together if I work on myself first which I am doing. But I feel like he is flirting with a girl 3 years younger than I and she has a boyfriend. I worked with this girl before too and neither of them showed no interest in dating because of there preference age gap. My ex won’t do more than 9 years which is what we are and the other girl has a boyfriend and won’t do more than 5 years. But they are friends on messenger and talk frequently at work and off work hours. Should I worry about it or focus on myself and see what happens in time?

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Scott
10/5/2020 06:44:52 pm

I'm just about to turn 50 yet I've been seeing someone for the last 2 years who is 20 years younger than me, we are perfectly happy how people judge us, she thought initially I was 8 years younger but told her the truth, she has told her parents and it's a case of as long as he makes you happy.. Her father is nearly 20 years older than me so no Daddy issues here. If it's meant to be it will be.

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