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The Singular "They" as a Gender-Neutral Pronoun

12/11/2015

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I just read that the Washington Post is officially accepting the singular "they" as a gender-neutral pronoun, in addition to several other updates they are making to their style guide.  The singular "they" will be used to refer to people who identify as gender-neutral (or, presumably, to anyone else who requests it).

The writer in me has resisted a singular "they" for a long time. But I've met SO many people who find "ze" awkward, including people who adopt it themselves.  And it seems clear that we desperately need a gender-neutral pronoun, since (as I also touched on in my last post), not everyone wants to use "he or she."  

As far as I'm concerned, "they" is a fine alternative.  Yeah, I was taught in elementary school that "they" could never be singular.  But there were numerous things I was taught in elementary school that I no longer believe.  And more importantly, what's the point of language if it can't adjust to fit our needs?

I predict that it's only a matter of time before "they" pervades other gender-inspecific situations, too. What I mean is, if you're referring to a person in the abstract, and the gender of the person is unknown, you're supposed to write "he or she."  As in: "When you go to a doctor, he or she takes your blood pressure."  The word "they" has long been considered incorrect as a substitute for "he or she" in that instance.  But saying "he or she" is a little awkward.  "They" is what a lot of us would use in informal conversation anyway.  (And personally, I like "they" because not everyone identifies as a "he" or a "she," so "they" is all-encompassing.)

One question, though: if we're using "they" as singular, it seems like we should keep the rest of the sentence singular, as in, "they takes your blood pressure."  To my ear, that sounds strange; it makes more sense if the rest of the sentence is plural ("they take your blood pressure").  So we're not really using "they" as singular, then, are we?  Instead, we are just making the rest of the sentence plural to go along with what we're used to hearing after the pronoun "they?" 

Anyhow, I'm no linguist.  Others have thought more deeply about this problem than I have.  But if anyone in your life is still refusing to convert, just give him, her, or them a chance; I'm willing to wager that they'll come around eventually.  ;)



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Jonathan link
12/11/2015 11:35:19 am

Ursula Le Guin's opinion (from 1988) is good enough for me :)

"I still dislike invented pronouns, but now dislike them less than the so-called generic pronoun he/him/his, which does in fact exclude women from discourse; and which was an invention of male grammarians, for until the sixteenth century the English generic singular pronoun was they/them/their, as it still is in English and American colloquial speech. It should be restored to the written language and let the pedants and pundits squeak and gibber in the streets."

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Fred link
12/11/2015 11:49:44 am

We still construct "you" as if it's plural, and we've been using it in the singular enough to have made up new constructions to fill the gap it left (y'all). "They" is no different.

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Butch Wonders link
12/11/2015 12:12:20 pm

That makes total sense to me.

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Dana
12/11/2015 11:53:22 am

A thought on the singular/plural thing: we do this for the pronoun "you" in the same way we do it for "they". "He takes my blood pressure; she takes my blood pressure; you take my blood pressure; they take my blood pressure". If we're going by the new style guide, those last two statements could be singular or plural depending on context.

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Sinclair
12/12/2015 08:09:57 am

In Dutch, "They" translates as "zij", which is the same as "she". Only thing that changes is the verb.

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Micah link
12/15/2015 05:45:32 pm

I've long been pushing for a unified gender neutral option and singular they seems the most approachable, since we already use it naturally. It is a little awkward when talking about someone in particular, but then again it is more awkward to misgender them (see that, singular they!).

I believe it's called "singular" they because it refers to a singular person, not because you should conjugate it in the singular. It's akin to a collective noun, which is conjugated in singular form but refers to a plural entity (ie, the herd was walking).

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