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10 Ways to Flirt With a Butch

9/4/2012

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I've talked about how you can tell if a butch likes you, but what about the other way around: what are the best ways to flirt with a butch?  I list ten top ways below.  They're targeted largely toward femmes, but most are adaptable to anyone who wants to flirt with butches.  So read this and get out there!
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  1. A good, old-fashioned wink.  Unprovoked, unexpected, in the course of everyday business.  Then continue on as if nothing happened and leave us there to melt.
  2. Goad us a little about our favorite sports team.  "Houston lost again, Dee.  When's your team gonna make a comeback?"
  3. Touch us on the arm or shoulder, either while you're making a point or playfully when you're joking around.
  4. Compliment our hair.  We are suckers for hair compliments.
  5. If we're good at something, ask us to do it for you: fixing your computer, changing your oil, editing your paper, whatever.
  6. Make a bet with us about something--anything.  Bet a cup of coffee or a beer; that way, you're basically setting up some time together no matter who wins.
  7. Maintain eye contact just a little longer than usual or necessary.
  8. Ask questions about us.  What do we read?  What do we do for fun?  Keep 'em light.  Ask follow-ups.
  9. Express interests in our interests, particularly the nerdy interests that we're a little shy about.
  10. Call us out on something: "Oh, sure you can make five three-pointers in a row."  Or, "Oh sure you've hybridized a new variety of fern."  Keep your tone light and playful--you're inviting us to prove it.

Butches, what are your favorite ways to be flirted with?


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